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My father is 59 he eats nothing but red meats and fish and lots of it.. also lots of bread and butter, he loves eating a lot of processed foods. He works maybe 3 times a week for 3-4 hours cleaning warehouses, all the other times hes laying in bed watching tv. he never gets up to exercise if he does get up it's either too the bathroom or fridge. hes been a smoker almost all his life, but has stopped the in the last 7 years.. how can I get him motivated to work out and exercise? what can I expect if he keeps this habit?

he has a huge belly it's VERY round and hard.. when he flexes his stomach it feels like a big round exercise ball under his skin... what is that? I read that it's inter vascular fat and that is the worst.

please let me know what I can do and expect if he keeps this up....

he also eats VERY late at night around 2:00am-4:00am
 
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That's a tough one. You can't really make anyone do anything they don't want to.
Maybe you should ask your dad if that's how he want to live the rest of his life. Maybe you should ask him how long he wants to live?
Does he have insurance? Has he a had a check up recently? Doctors can usually help and recommend some basic steps to take.
 
From experiance, you can not make anyone do things they dont want to really. try encouraging him to do things with you? Go tramping? maybe pick an epic tramp of like 5 days or something and work towards doing that . It means that a) you do something together, b) you need to practice what you are going to do and work up to a fitness level, and c) you get a great holiday out of it eventually :D
 
Good advice Monster! I agree about the doctor bit. Maybe you can also continue setting a good example Jack. Is he complaining of a lack of energy, back pain, anything like that?? Do you guys have a history of diabetes, heart attack, stroke or any related illnesses? That oughta motivate him!!
 
He has been to the hospital for minor thing. but he hates going and has not gone in over 5 years for a check up on blood and everything else
 
What I really should have said was that you sounds like you're scared for your dad, and you should be.
I would suggest having a heartfelt conversation about this, and just tell him you love him and don't want to lose him before his time.
 
Jackercrack said:
My father is 59 he eats nothing but red meats and fish and lots of it.. also lots of bread and butter, he loves eating a lot of processed foods. He works maybe 3 times a week for 3-4 hours cleaning warehouses, all the other times hes laying in bed watching tv. he never gets up to exercise if he does get up it's either too the bathroom or fridge. hes been a smoker almost all his life, but has stopped the in the last 7 years.. how can I get him motivated to work out and exercise? what can I expect if he keeps this habit?

he has a huge belly it's VERY round and hard.. when he flexes his stomach it feels like a big round exercise ball under his skin... what is that? I read that it's inter vascular fat and that is the worst.

please let me know what I can do and expect if he keeps this up....

he also eats VERY late at night around 2:00am-4:00am
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My dad just turned 61 (I think?) and, from my personal point of view, allow me to say this...

He probably just doesn't give a fuck anymore.

You can't make him change. If he doesn't want to eat healthy, he's not going to. And, unfortunately, there's probably nothing you can say to motivate him. He's almost 60 years old and he's set in his ways. He eats what he wants, drinks what he wants, smokes what he wants, does what wants. His doctors have probably been telling him for yeeeeears to change his habits, but, guess what? He hasn't changed - except for the smoking, but that's because he wanted to change that. All that other stuff? Don't count on him changing, because it sounds like he doesn't want to.

But...that doesn't mean you shouldn't at least tell him how you feel. Who knows...he might listen. There's a chance - a small chance - but a chance none-the-less. So, take it.
 
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Maybe, Chef, but a lot of people turn around when they are faced with their own mortality.
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Yeah, when they are faced with their own mortality...not told about it.

Most of us have been told throughout the course of our entire lives that certain things are bad for our health (drinking, smoking, overeating, etc), but we don't listen and do those things anyway. But, when someone suffers the consequences and has to face their own mortality (heart attack, stroke, etc), then they're more likely to change...because that's when it becomes real and not just something people nag you about.

But, even so...not everybody is going to change. My dad had a heart attack a while back and changed his lifestyle for about a month. Then he got back to his mentality of "I'm going to die anyway, so why bother?" and started smoking again, eating like crap again and not listening again.

People don't change unless they want to. But, like I said before...it's definitely worth a try for the OP to talk to his dad. You never know.
 
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