Putting your life on hold

[dreamtobethin]

Well I have always seen this with me that I have always ended up putting my life on hold until I lose weight;until I get into those jeans..everything suprisingly centers around my wt for me...things had got so much better when I had gone down to 137 pounds and because of my own stupidity and enjoyment of the moments I slacked and have gained back 15 pounds.....sometimes I feel life really sucks; when I lose wt I feel like I am on top of the world; I enjoy every little bit I do; but the moment I gain wt my confidence level comes down to zero I start avoiding people who had seen me before and complimented me on my wt loss; I avoid partying...I know it is not the right attitude but try as I might I cant seem to enjoy life around me when I am fat.....I working hard to get away from this attitude....I am afraid I will be struggling with my wt and one day life would have passed me by and I would be too old to do things I wanted to do and could not do it just because I was waiting to lose wt....

Anyone else feels the same way around here; would like to hear from you?

 

[Caterpillar1]

I feel the same. It completely ruins my life. Just gaining a few pounds will make me feel extremely uncomfortable about being seen by people. Its not even really about my actual weight anymore I don't think... I just see any gain as a result of my behaving in an uncontrolled and disgusting way. And I can't stand that the evidence of this uncontrolled and disgusting behaviour is visible to other people. Over the summer I kept cancelling on my friends because of it, I'm trying not to let it rule my life so much anymore but am finding it very hard and extremely distressing. I'm in therapy trying to change my thinking.

"I have always ended up putting my life on hold until I lose weight"
"everything suprisingly centers around my wt"
"the moment I gain wt my confidence level comes down to zero I start avoiding people"
"I am afraid I will be struggling with my wt and one day life would have passed me by"

-I have felt all these things. That you have said them and the very fact that you have posted about this leads me to think that you might benefit from professional help? Please don't take offence if this isn't the case; but if you do feel that this really dominates your life it might be worth looking into. Feel free to message me if you want to chat about it with someone who's in the same boat

 

[usedtobefatmatt]

Well I have always seen this with me that I have always ended up putting my life on hold until I lose weight;until I get into those jeans..everything suprisingly centers around my wt for me...things had got so much better when I had gone down to 137 pounds and because of my own stupidity and enjoyment of the moments I slacked and have gained back 15 pounds.....sometimes I feel life really sucks; when I lose wt I feel like I am on top of the world; I enjoy every little bit I do; but the moment I gain wt my confidence level comes down to zero I start avoiding people who had seen me before and complimented me on my wt loss; I avoid partying...I know it is not the right attitude but try as I might I cant seem to enjoy life around me when I am fat.....I working hard to get away from this attitude....I am afraid I will be struggling with my wt and one day life would have passed me by and I would be too old to do things I wanted to do and could not do it just because I was waiting to lose wt....

Anyone else feels the same way around here; would like to hear from you?

Just wanted to give my 2 cents on this and i might be way off so forgive me if i am.

Quick story about myself. I hated high school, i was fat and self conscious about weight. Never really dated and was extremely over weight. I was so glad the day i graduated. Never wanted to see them again. It has been 19 years and still only talk to the few i wanted to talk too. Fast forward to today. Down 140 lbs and in the best shape of my life. There is a class reunion on Saturday. You're probably thinking that i'm going and will "show them". All I have to say is F' that. Do i feel great? Abso-f'in-lutely. Do i care what others think? NOPE. I'm not going to let other people, a scale or anything else judge how i feel. All i care about is how i feel. You need to be comfortable with your own body. Dont let a silly scale or how someone else might perceive you run your life. Love yourself for who you are. Whether are 125, 137 or 150 lbs.

With that said, learn to live the lifestyle. Eat right and exercise. If you do those two things you will be in control. Sure you will have your ups and downs but overall YOU will be in control of yourself. Dont let some stupid scale control you. There is a thread around here called the scale mentality. Check it out, it's a good read.

Matt

 

[maynzie]

Stop right there.

there is no reason to put your life on hold, simply because you can not lose weight?

Losing weight is a long term goal, you just need to mould it around your lifestlye. You need plenty of goals to stay happy and positive. Trust me just eat well, but of course go out for the occasional treat with your girlfriends.

Please do not put your life onh old just because you wan tto losew eight, you can still lose weight even if you live your life to the best you can.

Lets do this, okay make a pledge to yourself right now that you will lose weight at any cost while living the best life possible!

 

[HaileyB1]

Although every one cares somewhat about what other people think... but really ef em. I don't think people really judge people as much as we allow ourselves to think they do. I think sometimes it's easier to lose weight when we get mad at ourselves, I have done it myself, got super down and hard on myself for putting on some weight and it's almost like the anger can be used as motivation, but it's not healthy. We arent perfect and straying away from things that should make us happy is no way to live. It's a mind set, if you have a bad attitude about hanging out in public/social settings then you are gonna feel bad about it, but we all have some sort of control to look at things in a positive light.

 

[MotherOf2]

after 4 years of being as big as i am today i have finally been able to accept who i am and what i look like and have learned to look around that and see that i am still beautiful. i used to wear nothing but sweats and jogging pants. i found no reason to put on makup or even brush my hair anymore. starngly enough now that im comfortable with myself as i am i have decided its time for a change. it's time to get the person i know i am back. I dont hold off on buying clothes for the day that "i finally lose weight". even though im in the middle of changing my life and losing weight i still buy clothes that make me feel good... theres nothing wrong with being big and beautiful and i look great in size 16. one day i hope to be 50,60,70 lbs lighter. but i'm not going to wait untill then to feel good. its a waste of life. Being fat doesnt mean i'm disgusting, it doesnt mean i cant look good anything, it doesnt mean i dont deserve to go out and strut my stuff like any other size 6 girl my age. we only live once dont waste it on "when i lose weight"...

 

[San2]

after 4 years of being as big as i am today i have finally been able to accept who i am and what i look like and have learned to look around that and see that i am still beautiful. i used to wear nothing but sweats and jogging pants. i found no reason to put on makup or even brush my hair anymore. starngly enough now that im comfortable with myself as i am i have decided its time for a change. it's time to get the person i know i am back. I dont hold off on buying clothes for the day that "i finally lose weight". even though im in the middle of changing my life and losing weight i still buy clothes that make me feel good... theres nothing wrong with being big and beautiful and i look great in size 16. one day i hope to be 50,60,70 lbs lighter. but i'm not going to wait untill then to feel good. its a waste of life. Being fat doesnt mean i'm disgusting, it doesnt mean i cant look good anything, it doesnt mean i dont deserve to go out and strut my stuff like any other size 6 girl my age. we only live once dont waste it on "when i lose weight"...

Amen to that!

Whatever you want to do, do it now. If you want to lose weight, fine, do it, but don't put things off until 'the weight is gone'. Or 'until those jeans look good', or anything like that.

You never know what's gonna happen, and you might regret not doing the things you wanted to do when you had the chance.

 

[missmarie]

after 4 years of being as big as i am today i have finally been able to accept who i am and what i look like and have learned to look around that and see that i am still beautiful. i used to wear nothing but sweats and jogging pants. i found no reason to put on makup or even brush my hair anymore. starngly enough now that im comfortable with myself as i am i have decided its time for a change. it's time to get the person i know i am back. I dont hold off on buying clothes for the day that "i finally lose weight". even though im in the middle of changing my life and losing weight i still buy clothes that make me feel good... theres nothing wrong with being big and beautiful and i look great in size 16. one day i hope to be 50,60,70 lbs lighter. but i'm not going to wait untill then to feel good. its a waste of life. Being fat doesnt mean i'm disgusting, it doesnt mean i cant look good anything, it doesnt mean i dont deserve to go out and strut my stuff like any other size 6 girl my age. we only live once dont waste it on "when i lose weight"...

Great attitude! I hope I get there!

I have such a hard time getting this through my head! I buy new clothes once in a blue moon and it really is because I'm waiting to get down to a size 7 or whatever so that I look cute in those clothes. I don't think my life is on hold by any means but I do notice that I may not do as much because of my weight.