Promoting Positive Self Image

[NothinToLose]

Zoila, well said! Sorry to hear about your mom. Sometimes moms are clueless! They may have the best intentions and only mean the best for you, but things don't always come out that way. I'm glad you've realized it.

 

[Korrie]

I think you have to make a decision to think the best of your self and look at the potential with in us.

So true! Improving your self esteem, self worth, is not something thats just going to happen. You do have to make the decision and the commitment to work at it!

SOrry about your mom. I have one of those too. My mom had gastric bypass done twice when I was a child. Now she is full of loose skin but will prance around you and say "dont I look great! Oh, isn't this your shirt? You can't fit in it anymore? Oh well I think it looks great on me" Then once I lost 30 pds she'd say "wow, korrie, good job...i mean, you were getting "whoa momma big" for a while" I'm like, yea mom I know, now I"m just fat huh?

ANYWAYS.....we do have to live w/ ourselves for the rest of our lives, we should try to love ourselves as much as we can regardless to our size.

 

[NewLeaf]

Korrie you're so right about the change factor, we can change things about ourselves that we don't like. For instance, I notice I am horrible about getting upset with something that happens at work or with someone close to me and keeping it all in, which like Dana leads me to eat. In the last couple of months I've tried to correct this. Lately if I get upset or hurt by someone I'm trying to express myself more or I go for a walk, by the time I get back from my walk I feel much better, I've cleared my head, I've gotten in some exercise and it's 400 calories less I was going to put into my mouth. We recently did some team building at my work and I think that's the best thing that could have ever happened to me. We discovered that I take on the mother role and that I have to make sure everyone is alright and in doing so I'm don't take care of myself. I discovered that just because someone is upset or down doesn't neccessarily mean that I'm the cause of it, they could just be having a bad day.
These little revelations have really helped me in my work environment and I'm trying to incorporate them into my daily life.
Just a little note from the dorkett of the forum

Wow, Angela can I relate. I think you're definitely in some great progress with discovering and handling why,when,what you eat etc., much like myself! I'm so impressed to hear how its going for you. That's great!! What do you do for work anyhow?

 

[gonnab2cute]

Thanks Dana, it's a long, tough journey but I'll get there I'm a branch administrator for an IT Consulting firm, basically how my boss puts it I'm the face of the company I do reception work, billing, payroll, sourcing, and consultant management. I really like the people I work with and it's a rewarding job so those things combined make it easy to enjoy my work. Before I relocated out here I was a cosmetologist though and I still do hair on the side just could mesh with the personalities in the type of salon I wanted to be in.

 

[NewLeaf]

Angela, yes..we'll get to the end of our road at some point. Sounds like an interesting job! More exciting than my administration for this financial firm, at least right now anyways!