Pregnancy sucked. Am I alone?

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Ok ladies.... am I the only one out here who thinks that pregnancy totally blows and is possibly one of the worst experiences one can ever have physically, mentally and emotionally?

Don't get me wrong, I love my baby boy! He is just precious.... but honestly.... getting pregnant and going through what I went through was pure hell. I'm a freakin mess now. Weight gain, stretch marks, c-section, hair problems, nail problems, skin problems, etc. I mean.... everyone kept saying *oh pregnancy is so beautiful*..... umm..... I'm still waiting for the beautiful. I'll tell u the beautiful part.... my baby is here and I'm no longer pregnant! That's the beautiful part.

Thoughts?

bluemomma
 
I feel exactly the same way. IT SUCKED BIG TIME! I lost my gallbladder after my first pregnancy and my second pregnancy caused me to go from 170 all the way up to 220! I have stretch marks, i couldnt move around efficiently without getting out of breath or being uncomfortable during sleep. It was a nightmare. I am so glad to have my body back but i didnt get it back in the same condition i had it prior to my pregnancy. Now I am a sugar craving, lard @ss who just left WENDYS and ate a bacon burger combo with cheese and supersized it. I lost all confidence, i have no motivation to get back on my weight loss journey. i have nasty stretchmarks across my tummy, my belly button is ugly now due to them using the little camera to do my surgery and entering through the belly button, and its like i have a tire around my waist
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i know exactly how you feel. i wish i had more motivation to lose weight. my hubby just keeps buying me junk food, my birthday was yesterday and he bought me a huge carrot cake UGH! my toddler only likes fries so i go to buy them from fast food joints and i eat a few on the way home...my weight is out of control and i feel so depressed about it.
 
HUGS XOXO.... FINALLY..... someone who KNOWS what I"m going through! God bless you for stepping forward. I've been back and forth all over the place emotionally.... did the A&W thing on the weekend.... *sigh*. It's been almost 13 months since my son was born..... I'm still a damn mess. There have been days when I really thought my husband and son would be better off without me. Gotta love PPD. To top it off, the whole body went to hell and I have all kinds of whacky pains in strange places. Well today (I just finished actually), I went to the gym. The traffic was a bit crazy so I didn't get the workout in that I wanted but something is better than nothing I figure. Still.... As I'm putting on my makeup (why bother but anyway...) I cant' help but see my reflection.... NASTY..... no other way to describe it. My husband (God bless him) says he still finds me attractive. Love really is blind I guess; I'm grateful for it. I have all the mirrors covered at home. I've decided that I need to do something about this; at least try. I am going to keep exercising and eating properly (like I did before). When I lose enough weight to be where I want I'm going to have surgery (tummy tuck). Frankly, I really don't care what it costs and I REFUSE to look like an onion for the rest of my life. My biggest issue has also been motivation. I figure why bother.... i have all these stretch marks, and fat and so forth.... oh loose skin - gotta love the loose skin. This is after ONE pregnancy. Needless to say, I'm not getting pregnant again. This has been the absolute most horrible experience of my life. I love my son and I am grateful to have him but pregnancy totally blows. I hit rock bottom Friday night..... my husband just flat told me that *weight loss* has consumed me; that I'm so preoccupied with being overweight and feeling unattractive that I don't enjoy anything in life anymore and can't think about anything else. He's right. I'm always irritable, and just miserable. After he left the room, I sat there for a while thinking. I have a choice..... I can let it consume me and be miserable, OR, I an acknowledge that I need to do something about it and work towards a goal and at least FEEL like I"m doing the right thing. If it doesn't work, I'll have gastric bypass, tummy tuck or whatever it takes. But, I can't be so self-absorbed that I neglect my husband and son -- not fair to them. Anyway, THANK YOU for replying. Let's do this together :)...... we can get back to where we were :). One workout at a time. One meal at a time. :)

Hang in there..... :)

bluemomma
 
I know exactly where you are coming from. I just had my third baby and it was the worst. I was unhappy my entire pregnancy and couldn't enjoy the experience. I'm surprised my husband didn't leave me (God bless him). I had my baby 4 weeks ago and haven't had a chance ti even try to work on myself. I swear pregnancy destroyed my skin and my hair. Not to mention the pony keg around my waist. I lack the motivation to get back in shape and looking for someone to work with me and give me strength. So you have inspired me bluemomma. Let's do this and work together!
 
Well..... you really made me smile. I would have thought I'd be the last person one coudl call "motivational" right now LOL. But I'm glad that you feel that way.

Motivation for me is a huge problem but I've come to the conclusion that if I neglect going to the gym and eating properly because I"m depressed and unmotivated, then I'm not doing anything to help myself out of this. This morning I just wanted to stay under the covers and hide.... but I didn't. I got my fat a$$ up out of bed and went to the gym. My new motto is *ONE WORKOUT AT A TIME*. If I can do that everyday, and eat well, then at least if the weight DOESN'T come off, I can say to my doctor, "hey, we have a problem and it's gotta be medical because I am doing all I can do -- and all the right things, and nothing's happening". It gives me a partial sense of control at least.

You can do it!! If I can, then anyone can! IM me if you have any questions.

Cheers,
bluemomma
 
hevtrecal said:
I know exactly where you are coming from. I just had my third baby and it was the worst. I was unhappy my entire pregnancy and couldn't enjoy the experience. I'm surprised my husband didn't leave me (God bless him). I had my baby 4 weeks ago and haven't had a chance ti even try to work on myself. I swear pregnancy destroyed my skin and my hair. Not to mention the pony keg around my waist. I lack the motivation to get back in shape and looking for someone to work with me and give me strength. So you have inspired me bluemomma. Let's do this and work together!
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Hey, my second pregnancy destroyed my hair and skin too. I was 10 shades darker, my hair was brittle, I swelled up in my legs and feet to the point where I couldn't even wear shoes after giving birth.

Just wanted to let you know that it is not permanent. After about 6 weeks my skin started to brighten up again, and after 8 weeks it was glowing better than before. My hair became normal and I began to get the motivation that I was back to me, besides the extra weight, but seeing my beautiful face and glow made me want to start the weightloss process. While you are transitioning, remember to continue to take your prenatal vitamins, and take some vitamin C and E to help aid your skin back to health. Your hormones are still out of whack, but give it some time, your body has to adjust. It took me 6 months before I could even start losing any weight because of my hormones. Take a walk with your baby everyday, once you start to get out then you'll begin to see a difference in your attitude and your motivation about losing weight. Good Luck.

My baby just turned 8 months June 25th, so I just went through this. It helps, I promise.
 
Thanks for the advice ladies. Yesterday I didn't get a workout in but I did concentrate on what I was eating and was really proud of myself and I got the motivation to write out a plan for myself to follow. My birthday is in november so my goal is to lose atleast 20lbs by then. So hopefully I can get the stamina and motivation I need. Like u said bluemomma just one workout at a time :)
 
God yes being pregnant has been horrible for me. From the time I conceived my 4th baby I was constantly sick. I went 9 months throwing up everyday feeling nauseated every second, and having no energy. I had marriage problems during this time also because my ignorant at the time husband didn't realize that I was really that sick. I was in and out of the hospital from the time I was 18 weeks until I delivered at 34 weeks. I was 218 when I got pregnant and delivered at 190 because I couldn't keep anything down the whole time. Everytime I saw one of those happy to be pregnant women I just wanted to slap them. I always wanted to have several children but every pregnancy I have had has gotten worse and worse finally my doctor made me get my tubes tyed saying my body might not make it through the next one if the pattern continued. Oh ya and also before I had kids I could eat anything I wanted and not gain an ounce, now I eat a grape and gain 10lbs (not literaly but thats what it feels like). If I had know how sucky pregnancy was going to be for me I would have hired a surragate because seriously it was the worst thing I have ever done. I have had a total of 64 hours of labor and all of them have ended in c-sections. So ya to sum it all up pregnancy for me has sucked balls.
 
I agree, my last pregnancy was so bad, i spent most of it in and out of hospital with problems. The first problem was the doctors thought i was having an eptopic pregnancy because i had extreme pain in the lower part of my stomach. It was so early into the pregnancy that the scan didn't show anything so i had to wait a while before i found out which was the worst time of my life. Then i had what they call a Familial hemiplegic migraine(dunno if anyone else has experienced this?) but it was so awful, it has the same kind of symptoms as a stroke, i thought that i was having a fit or somthing. Well because of this i ended up having to have a brain scan which of course is very dangerous for baby. Then i find out i have placenta previa so my baby couldn't get out by himself. I had a c-section which was the best bit of the pregnancy, it was amazing, i was out of hospital in 2 days, i felt great, i think i was just happy to have my body back! Plus i lost every pound that i gained in pregnancy straight away, i was ecstatic. Unfortunately i went through a stressful time recently and gained about 30lbs so im not happy!
Edit- oh and after my pregnancy i lost alot of my hair, it started falling out in clumps, if this happens to anyone else dont panic, my hair is back to normal now.
 
Yes, I so relate to all of you. From the moment I got pregnant I was vomitting everytime I was in the car, hungry.. sometimes I'd just vomit for no reason. I also had horrible headaches and couldnt enjoy my days. My husband loves to go out and would force me out and understand little of what it actually feels like. I gained TONS of weight I went from about 140-over 200 pounds. Now its been 4 months after my labour and I am 168 and having a difficult time dropping it. My labour was the worst part of it all... It was 19 hours of induced labour with 3 good hours of pushing. My vagina looked like sausages and couldnt walk at all without someone holding me. I had a student doctor do an episiotamy and it was also done horribly... thank god my husband tells me I still look beautiful.. although I know he says it out of love. I have a healthy lil girl and that makes me happy but yes I understand all of you..my body is not the same as what it used to be. I have tons of stretch marks, lose skin, mommy belly, one of my breasts is becoming bigger than the other one from breastfeeding.. and i am trying to make sure that they are drained equally. The worst part of it all is geting the motivation to go through with it. I am constantly hungry, crave sweets, and am not into exercising at all. Its been four and a half months and I am tired of still wearing maternity clothes.
I would like to have another child, so lil Julia has a sibling. But I don't know if I can go through this again..
 
I hated to be pregnant lol

I had backpain and I could hardly walk during my whole pregnancy time
and I lost my motivation to train etc

so yeah it is not nice all the time
 
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