I agree. I was a fat kid too and, although my parents recognized it and tried to make an effort at making me healthier, food was used in an emotional way. Always emotional. It was always, we did well today, let's get ice cream, it's the weekend, we worked hard at work so we can have pizza on Friday night, funerals have big buffet luncheons aftewards, graduations are celebrated with huge dinners and keggars, births are celebrated with cake and ice cream, birthdays have big dinners to celebrate, etc. I can remember at the end of my first week at a "get healthy" program at a hospital in my town, my mom said that we did really well, and took me to get ICE CREAM. I was in sixth or seventh grade and weighed between 180-200lbs as an 11 or 12 year old. We did well at weight loss class, let's have ice cream? Where is the logic in that? But I understand now that my mom meant well. The only way she knew how to express her happiness with my success that week was to buy me food, because she knew that food made me happy. Instead of just telling me how proud she was and knowing that it would suffice, she had to show her affection through food.
Now as an adult I am trying to overcome that. In the evenings especially I have to understand that my cravings for something sweet stem from the fact that I am tired and want to reward myself, as opposed to actually needing the calories from the food to survive. So I have to find other things that I enjoy doing or that are treats to me. Sometimes in the grocery store I will buy a magazine and keep it around the house for the evenings, so that I can read some articles or look at fashion or gossip. But really, when it comes down to it, nothing makes me feel the way that food does, which is scary and depressing to me. But that is my job to recognize it and change it!!! And I don't think children can do that. It is so hard for kids to understand the connection between emotions and food, and how unhealthy it is to have such a strong connection. Even adults can't figure it out!!!!