Not on a diet diet

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Wishful

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Hi I am not on a diet yet, if fact doing very badly with my eating. Done all the usual diets, but sort of lost my way a bit. However, been to the Doctors and had a scare as my blood pressure has risen even more and he is very very concerned.

I feel I am a bit of a compulsive eater and need to find a way to get out of the eating, dieting, eating, dieting syndrome. I am going to try a bit more excercise. Am going to borrow a walking/running machine this week, if it works I will buy it.

I am 6 stone overweight, but I am happy. I am not happy being fat as it restricts all I want to do, as we are a horsey family.

I find the trouble with diet forums they seem brilliant when you are on track and a great booster, but when you a failing you feel left out in the cold, feeling lonely and despressed.

I do hope I will be able to stay on this forum even though I am not dieting yet as I want to get my eating back in control and it is now that I need more support. When I am managing to diet, I need less motivation.

Is there anyone else out there that feels like this?
 
Many of the people on this forum, myself included, if you ask them, are not dieting - we're lifestyle changing.. :D

I hope you'll find that we're different than other diet forums on the web.. you are responsible for your own choices you make - -and we can't make those choices for you... We can encourage you to make good choices and offer you support along the way, but (unless you request occassional arse kicking) you won't be made to feel bad about choices you make...

SOmetimes just spending time around here - reading about other people's successes and challenges can inspire you to do have your own success and talk about your own challenges.... And when you are ready to "diet" or change your lifestyle as it relates to food, you will be a step ahead of the game.

Feel free to start yourself up a diary - it gives you a chance to get support in one place and it helps us get to know you better.

Welcome to the forum and have fun -and much success on your journey..
 
Hey Wishful!!

Welcome to the forum!!

I have been here a week. The first few days I felt really strong. I didn't need the motivation. BUT, I was able to encourage others and share advice.

Now the last few days have been a little down and have found encourgement from others.

So this site has been useful through both ups and downs.

I completely agree about not wanting to mess with a 'diet'. All it does it make you feel deprived when you stick to it and guilty when you stray from it.

That's why like maleficent says, it's just a change in the way you live.
It's all about choices. I chose to eat one piece of pizza instead of four. I choose to have a little mayo on my sandwich instead of extra. I am going to have a glass of water instead of soda with my dinner. . and maybe i'll have soda for lunch.

I'm not looking for big numbers like on the biggest loser. A pound a week would be great and before I know it, it'll be gone.

Good luck and I hope you stick around!!!
 
I scared myself a few weeks ago by purging my food because I had eaten so much I was sick. This was a daily habit (the eating too much... purging only once thank god) and when I went to that length I knew I had to do something!
The term diet isn't right... I hate diets. I don't like being restricted. I am emotional eater and if I want something I want it NOW! Maleficent is right: it's a lifestyle change. You have to decide that this is something that you can commit to forever. I am in my honeymoon just done this a week phase but I had a Jr. frosty today and it was only a couple hundred calories! It didn't break the bank and even though it was small it was satisfying! I am trying to make different choices (eating low carb tortillas and skim milk,etc.) but it gets easier! Eat what you like just make healthier choices and watch portions. I feel really picky and read labels now but it is worth it if I see the scale drop!
 
Diet in Reverse is TIED

The term diet is so stigmatized! For me personally, it's not about restrictions but mostly making a concious choice of food varieties. I am an emotional eater as well, in the past I couldn't handle the events in my life and the only way that I felt in control was through eating, talk about irony.
I am on a strict menu now and it's only been a few days but for me this is in my own way, a test. I want to see how far can I go as in my endurance level and I just want to find myself again, deal with my problems by forcing myself to let go of my in denial comfort zone that ends always with the wrong solution that food could cure my pain. It doesn't cos it adds even more.

It didnt take a day to gain all this weight so I know it would be doubly hard to 'pay back' the years that went by when I was so gleefully happy stuffing unhealthy but tasty food into my mouth. I won't deny that the temptation is there, hell 'bad' food is really tasty but in the long run, short burst of 'food pleasure' will never equal to the real pleasures of what life can offer.
Get back on track first by taking small steps, you have to be ready and you yourself is your best motivator! Of course this forum is fantastic and very different, people here are so caring and signing up just kicked start me into persevering and having more strength, corny as it sounds but it's true. There are so many people out there having weight issues and want a change in their life for the better, healthier and happier future. I want that too and I wish that all of us here could achieve that one day soon. Cheers! :p
 
Hello Wishful, welcome aboard!

Some of us don't like the notion of 'dieting' - as Mal stated, its got to be about lifestyle change if its going to be longterm. Lots and lots of people fall into the trap of 'yo-yo dieting'. They either half starve themselves, or deny their bodies the full balanced diet that the body requires for good health. Everytime that they starve themselves to lose weight, they actually damage their metabolism further - losing as much weight from muscle and organ tissue as from body fat. On a long term chart of their weight, you can see an increase over the years despite the blips from yo-yo dieting.

Lifestyle change - thats the real solution. It means learning to eat healthy food better - whilst at the same time injecting exercise and activity into your life. Start considering that. Eating better means eating wholesome healthy food, more often but in smaller portions. Combine it with drinking plenty of water. Exercise can mean 30 minutes of brisk walking each day, joining a gym, using home workout DVDs, cycling to work, or whatever activity that you find works for you. Start thinking about the person that you would like to be, and what sort of activities that they would enjoy.

If the pounds don't come off, then sure, look for the problem - you are perhaps consuming too many calories - cut them down, but don't go hungry - eating the right foods, drink water, and you shouldnt feel hunger. Cravings are another thing - sometimes we have to force new habits and tastes - but it can be done!

I wish you the best of success whatever route that you take.
 
Hey wishful, You can do it I beleive in you, you know healthy eating and healthfull food is really yummy, I thought it was boring and bland but it's not, it's beautiful. I thank God for changing my desire to pig out on sugary foods and fatty foods. When you start to make the changes and try to go back it actually tastes really bad,[that's when you know you've made progress]and it's a long road, don't let that discourage you, because lifelong changes don't happen overnight but they do happen, like someone said it's small choices incorperated into daily habits, that make for lifelong change. Diet for me is what you eat from the 5 food groups on a daily basis for optimum health. It's not restrictions but a sensible amount of food for good body function and digestion. My personall rule is one dinner plate of food three times a day. No seconds!!!! If it don't fit on your dinnerplate you don't need the extra calories. I used to love desserts [still do] but I have to curb myself and have low fat yoghurt and fruit regualarly and keep the high fat and sugar ones for special occasions only[there's a KEY] celery is really good to lower blood pressure also cut out as much salt in your diet as you can find, this is a biggy for blood pressure. All the best to you I will be here for you to help and encourage you, just be honest and you will get all the help you need to succeed.If you don't quit you'll win!!!!God bless from Sue Australia
 
:) Hello!
I must agree with much has already been said. Diets just don't work. They say it takes 21 days to form a new habit and when I need to make a change because I've been overeating out of emotion, etc. I start looking at it in that way. I have some bad habits and I need to make them into good habits. It is a constant struggle for those of us who have emotional eating, food addiction problems but it is worth the work. I'm glad to have found this site for support.
 
Wishful said:
I do hope I will be able to stay on this forum even though I am not dieting yet as I want to get my eating back in control and it is now that I need more support. When I am managing to diet, I need less motivation.

Is there anyone else out there that feels like this?
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On a week where you've lost, you're on top of the world, but on a week where you've worked hard and lost nothing, naturally that is when you are going to feel like you're failing and there's no point. I think EVERYBODY feels like that.


Wishful said:
I find the trouble with diet forums they seem brilliant when you are on track and a great booster, but when you a failing you feel left out in the cold, feeling lonely and despressed
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I dont know about other forums but I have certainly not found that to be the case here. At the times when I have been feeling down and pessimistic about my weight loss I have found peoples comments and support very valuable and motivating... the forum has been a huge help throughout, for me.

Anyway good luck with your weightloss... it sounds as if you stand a lot to gain from losing; better health, being able to do more with your riding etc. :)
 
Welcome to the forum family wishful and satrt yourself a diary!
 
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