Newbie in need of support system

[Ramzey]

Hello everybody.

My name is Ramzey. I'm 27 years old and weigh 265lbs. I've always ever been overweight. I've tried many different things over the years with limited success. I have a terribly negative inner dialogue and don't generally believe that I can sustain any effort to lose weight. I generally eat fairly healthy meals for breakfast, lunch, and dinner, but have a bad habit of snacking and am a very emotional eater.

I'll tell you a bit about my existing support system. It's pretty much my wife. She....tries to be helpful, I guess. She's not a mind reader. She has her own ideas of how to help me which I sometimes find extremely infuriating. I feel like I need to expand on my support system because when we have a difference of opinion, then that system becomes broken. Furthermore, I would like to help and be helped by people who are going through the same thing.

I know this is going to be a long hard road for me. I'm worried about keeping to it because of my bad track record. I've come on to this forum because I want to be part of a group with a common goal.

Look forward to talking with you all.

Ramzey

 

[Kyoropaladin]

Well met, Ramzey. Like yourself, I have been struggling for years with my weight, even hitting 270lbs at one point (I did not like those days). I actually lost a lot of that mostly by luck and an Alaskan setting (love this state).

Hopefully you'll find people here who have similar ideas and ways of thinking. My "fit" friends are like your wife; they try to help out, but they're already there, so they don't think the same way.

That pessimistic inner dialogue I can seriously relate to more than anything. That will be one of the harder things to overcome, imho.

Well, best of luck to you, Ramzey. It'll be a long hard road for the both of us. But the harsher the path, the greater the rewards. Well, unless you're evil.

 

[Ramzey]

I know the inner dialogue is toxic, but I have a hard time taking encouragement and optimism seriously. I've decided that one of the best things I can do for my own weight loss (as well as other personal issues) is to consult a psychiatrist. I've sabotaged myself so many times and I'm just sick of it and I don't want my state of mind to get even worse.

One of the best things I've done for myself is to join this forum. I've told myself so many times that I don't need anyone's help to achieve my goals. Realizing that that isn't true any more is quite.....humbling.