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[TalaB82]

Hi I'm 19 years old and i have been with my Fiancee for 4 years. well I'm 5'6" and i weigh 280 pounds I don't look that big unless I'm in a bikini see my belly fat hangs down and i have tried everything and i get so discouraged about my self. my fiancee tells me i look good and have nothing to worry about but I'm getting married this September and I'm starting to freak out because i see my flaws and I'm embarrassed of them he is athletic type so he is slim and i just feel like if i was smaller then i would feel like he would love me more. I dot really have any one to talk to they are all skinny and look so good so i don't really take them serious. My Family is all big but i don't want to be like everybody and i honestly want to be healthy and when i try to work out i get so sick of self and i stop. what can i don't have any money for fancy things to help belly fat and i try to eat healthy but im more of an night owl and i know its bad to eat after 8 p.m. but i do. Anyways Has anybody ever have/Had this problem if so what did you do?

Thank you sooo Much

 

[ijustwannabefit]

It's great that you want to be more healthy. It's important that you do this for you. Love is not defined by weight. Losing weight will not change who you are. These are some things that I have learned through my weight loss journey. Also, losing weight to be skinny is not a good goal (from my experience). I found it was better to plan activity goals and the weight loss was a nice side effect. You have to do what it takes to maintain your weight loss so it's a good idea to start enjoying physical activity and healthy eating. Fake it till you make it! Pretend you love running/biking/Zumba (what ever activity you are going to do) and one day you won't be faking anymore. You can do it!