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NickyJ- Sweety it will always be a battle I'm sorry. You are replacing something that's missing with food. Is it how you feel about yourself? Are you dissatisfied still? "I have this & this & this & I'm still not happy with me?" It's maybe time for some counselling. I got counselling as I was losing weight as I had so many conflicting thoughts. It was one of the best things I ever did. I was hiding behind my fat & I am no longer. It only took 3 sessions with a delightful counsellor & was available for free through Medicare which was a big bonus. Ask your GP. There is absolutely nothing wrong with seeking counselling. There are so many books that will help as well. I don't like to sound like I'm spruiking for anything but the Beck Diet Solution I have found to be very helpful. It's all about cognitive therapy and training our brains to think like a slim person. I pick it up & read parts of it often. I bought mine from an eBay seller in the UK as I couldn't find it in any of our stores here in Aus.
Learning to love yourself & to feel that you deserve to be slim & attractive is a much better space to come from than feeling humiliated. I would never find that to be at all inspiring. Work on the brain NickyJ, that's our biggest hurdle. Sending you lots of love & lots of support. You deserve to be slim & healthy NickyJ, xoxo Cate
 
Hi Cate,

My intention wasn't to brag about what I have or don't have (and I know you're not saying that I am) but I finally understood the statement about how the more things change, the more things stay the same.

I am getting my head sorted out cause I tell you! even if I don't want cake, my mind tells me I have to have it and I end up giving in, what's worse than having an argument with your mind out loud? or even in silence for that matter.

If anything, the Cohen's diet has made me face that I can't keep running away. And the fact that I'm way too hard on myself and in turn I'm hard on my daughter as well. I beat myself up about alot of things, and up until I learn to be kind, I'll never slay this dragon! It's overflowing in everything I do.

I'm trying to introduce Cohen's into my 'diet' slowly but steadily, and this time because I want to, not because I have to. The yoghurt/egg option is out as I get too hungry until tea or lunch.
I have to go, will keep my diary updated! (Or at least try to)
 
NickyJ, That dragon in your brain dwells in mine too! You made me feel a little less insane as I fight those demons in my head almost on a daily basis. Looking up motivational sayings & affirmations & telling everyone that they are worth loving & deserving of good health is my way of fighting my demons & any negativity that can creep up on me at any time. I think we all know that demon or dragon that says "Go on! You know you want it! Shovel that food in!" It's hard to truly believe that we are worth cherishing & loving & that we deserve happiness but it really is true. It is also I think by far our biggest hurdle. I grew up feeling like the dumb, ugly sister. I have some photos of myself when I was in my 20's & I swear I think they can't be me. Attractive? Me? What a shame I didn't ever think I was. Too late now to worry about that but never too late to learn to work on my self-esteem. I used to think "why would anyone want me as a friend?" Now I think why not & make the move myself.
When I said that about coming from a place where you are loving yourself, rather than coming from any feelings of humiliation, because of insults or anyone else's opinion, my main point was to say that feeling good about yourself is the most important thing. Without that self-love we will continue to let the dragon win! I couldn't have done Cohen's if I had been feeling down or hating myself at the time. I'm glad I got that timing right!
You & what you feel about yourself are what counts most. Love yourself NickyJ. Tell yourself every day that you are a good, kind & loving person & deserve to be whatever you choose to be.
Got to go. DIL just arrived!
Sending you lots of love, xoxo Cate
 
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