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Skrillex1

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I HAVE MADE A DIARY VIEW IT HERE http://weight-loss.fitness.com/weight-loss-diary/47336-skrillexs-diary.html#post766191

Hey everyone

Its 4:34am here in eastern Australia and i cant sleep. I've been wanting to start doing something to get healthy for a while now but I've never had any will power or commitment. Before i go into all that i should probably give you a bit of information about myself.

I'm 21 due to be 22 in 10 days. I weigh roughly 105 - 110 kg (guesstimate from last time i weighed myself) i am 6.2" and currently in bad to borderline very bad health. I am currently almost a pack a day smoker and have been since i was 15. Suffer from Depression caused originally by feeling socially awkward about my weight (i use to be about the same weight but a lot shorter) and had a 2 year long term heavy drug addiction of anything i could get my hands on. For as long as i can remember i have always been the fattest person in my social circles and have always said something along the lines of "man, when i get in shape one day I'm going to be so good looking and muscly" and everyone has always agreed and asked when am i going to start. The truth is, I'm scared to start. Afraid of failing again, adding another pathetic failure to my already large list of things i have failed at doing. All i have ever wanted has to be a healthy size and in good shape, of course we all dream of being super models and body builders but i just want to be healthy...

I live a very bad life style. Majority of my work has been in fast food and as a result i ate more then i should have. I play excessive amounts of video games and do almost no exercise in any way shape or form. I find it hard to sleep so i stay up all night like tonight, and then sleep all day and then use that as another excuse to why i don't have the time for exercise.

I want to change to my life style, and i want to be healthy. That's why i came to you.

At this current point in time i have been made redundant in real estate (another thing i failed in) and have been out of work almost 2 and a half weeks. My depression is starting to rear its head again and because im getting older and still have achieved nothing in my life im losing hope quickly.
In a spur of the moment decision i decided to do something about it, like i have many times before but this time i WANT to do it and i HAVE to, otherwise i feel i wont be here for much longer.

So, i have all this free time at the moment while im looking for work, and i want to try and do something with it. Obviously im broke and i cant afford a gym membership or diet shakes or acia berries or any of those things but i want to know,

Where do i start? What can i do to start changing my life and how do i do it? im sorry if im asking to much i just have literally no idea and no form of a support network at all. What should i be eating? how much and how often? what is the best way to exercise on a budget of zero dollars?

Im the sort of person that needs "rewards" to feel like im achieving anything, so maybe something that is a bit harsh but will get a least some minimal result quickly so that i can use that as motivation and a reward and are in turn more likely to continue trying to rectify this mess i call my life and health.

Thanks for reading all this i know it was almost a novel, if you have time and wouldn't mind do you think you could post back and help me get started on my way.

PS i bought my last packet of cigarettes today with the intention of quitting but also because i honestly cant afford it anymore so maybe it will help in the long run.

Chris
 
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Hey sweetpea.

You're quite a sad panda, aren't you? :( Well first of all CONGRATULATIONS! Because you have made the first step to changing your life--Joining here! Seriously, this place is amazing.

Step One: Go to bed! What's that saying, "Early to bed, early to rise, makes a man healthy and wise! ;)

Step Two: Get your butt over to here: Weight Loss Diary - Weight Loss Forum
Make a diary. Log your food and your exercise (when you start exercising) every day. Make friends. Talk to people. Rant. Complain about how shit it is having to diet--We all feel the same way some days!

Step Three: START YOUR NEW DIET!

I'm a smoker as well. I've struggled with drugs. I'm your age. I get worried that my life isn't going anywhere. I'm over-weight. But I've lost weight. I come on this forum every day, I write in my diary, I talk to friends I've made and I read other peoples diaries to get motivated.

Start small. Do you live at home? Cook for yourself? You've just been laid off. Use this as an excuse to get your butt into gear. Sort your sleeping pattern out, try getting up early. Or if you find you work better at night, then do some night walking! I've be awake at 3am before and fancied a walk!

Here you can work out how many calories you should be eating: Calorie Calculator - Daily Caloric Needs

Rewards are a great way of helping yourself along. Others don't recommend it but I say to myself "If I drop 2lbs this week, I'll treat myself to a bar of chocolate." If you deny yourself what you want, you will struggle. Cut your portions, don't get take-outs, drink tons of water.

Woahh, I just rambled at you. Seriously, start a diary. All of us will be willing to help you out and you don't have to do this by yourself!
 
Sunflower said:
Hey sweetpea.

You're quite a sad panda, aren't you? :( Well first of all CONGRATULATIONS! Because you have made the first step to changing your life--Joining here! Seriously, this place is amazing.

Step One: Go to bed! What's that saying, "Early to bed, early to rise, makes a man healthy and wise! ;)

Step Two: Get your butt over to here: Weight Loss Diary - Weight Loss Forum
Make a diary. Log your food and your exercise (when you start exercising) every day. Make friends. Talk to people. Rant. Complain about how shit it is having to diet--We all feel the same way some days!

Step Three: START YOUR NEW DIET!

I'm a smoker as well. I've struggled with drugs. I'm your age. I get worried that my life isn't going anywhere. I'm over-weight. But I've lost weight. I come on this forum every day, I write in my diary, I talk to friends I've made and I read other peoples diaries to get motivated.

Start small. Do you live at home? Cook for yourself? You've just been laid off. Use this as an excuse to get your butt into gear. Sort your sleeping pattern out, try getting up early. Or if you find you work better at night, then do some night walking! I've be awake at 3am before and fancied a walk!

Here you can work out how many calories you should be eating: Calorie Calculator - Daily Caloric Needs

Rewards are a great way of helping yourself along. Others don't recommend it but I say to myself "If I drop 2lbs this week, I'll treat myself to a bar of chocolate." If you deny yourself what you want, you will struggle. Cut your portions, don't get take-outs, drink tons of water.

Woahh, I just rambled at you. Seriously, start a diary. All of us will be willing to help you out and you don't have to do this by yourself!
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Thanks for posting back, im gald at least one person did. i honestly don't think i would of been able to come back tonight if i didn't get at least one response.

Firstly i didn't go to bed until about 5.30am, pathetically i sat here and clicked refresh every five minutes praying (even though i'm not religious) that someone would respond and i want you to know that you made my night by replying. I was to tied to write back so i went to bed and came back tonight (3.00am again but with justification). So thank you and know that you made someone on the other side of the world feel like they had a chance and went to bed with a smile because of you.

Secondly i'm about half way through my diary but i wanted to respond here first so you would see that im back, i believe your online based on the green thing next to your name. Back to the diary, i decided i wouldn't use it as such to log my eating habits but more to track my progress and my goals and hopefully what i am starting to achieve.

Thirdly Im about to, hopfully within the next few days, just waiting on a particular 14 day harsh diet im going to do before i start my heart foundation overall well being diet.

I'm sorry you have had to experience it too but at the same time i am sort of relieved to find that i am not the only one. I am planning on coming here every day as well and hopefully if this all pan's out sticking around after to help support others.

I did live out of home but that was during my two years of drug abuse. I came home to get clean and start sorting out the large amount of debt i had accumulated. I can cook basic things although i was a chef for 3 years and prided myself on my "artworks" as i called them as that was my passion, i loved making desserts and its something i will miss greatly. My greatest artwork was a seven layer wedding cake that i made for fun that took me about 12 hours including frosting and all design work that i did myself, i even created a little man and woman holding hands on the top from icing.

Honestly i meant more as in physical rewards like noticing the weight loss and having others comment who didn't know what i was doing. giving up junk food won't be an issue for me though because in regards to fast food, chocolate, lollies, cakes etc i don't really care about them and they are not that important to me. My Achilles heel is ice cream, i love it. i could eat it all day and i love all flavors and styles even if i normally don't like a particular taste.

I had a lot of big things happen to day which were steps in the right direction and my first achievement. i believe that if i was able to still feel the same way 24 hours later that was an achievement itself. I will put a hyper link in my sig after i finish my diary if your interested to see what happened.

Thank you again, that one reply seriously meant the world to me.
 
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Skrillex said:
Thanks for posting back, im gald at least one person did. i honestly don't think i would of been able to come back tonight if i didn't get at least one response.

Firstly i didn't go to bed until about 5.30am, pathetically i sat here and clicked refresh every five minutes praying (even though i'm not religious) that someone would respond and i want you to know that you made my night by replying. I was to tied to write back so i went to bed and came back tonight (3.00am again but with justification). So thank you and know that you made someone on the other side of the world feel like they had a chance and went to bed with a smile because of you.

Secondly i'm about half way through my diary but i wanted to respond here first so you would see that im back, i believe your online based on the green thing next to your name. Back to the diary, i decided i wouldn't use it as such to log my eating habits but more to track my progress and my goals and hopefully what i am starting to achieve.

Thirdly Im about to, hopfully within the next few days, just waiting on a particular 14 day harsh diet im going to do before i start my heart foundation overall well being diet.

I'm sorry you have had to experience it too but at the same time i am sort of relieved to find that i am not the only one. I am planning on coming here every day as well and hopefully if this all pan's out sticking around after to help support others.

I did live out of home but that was during my two years of drug abuse. I came home to get clean and start sorting out the large amount of debt i had accumulated. I can cook basic things although i was a chef for 3 years and prided myself on my "artworks" as i called them as that was my passion, i loved making desserts and its something i will miss greatly. My greatest artwork was a seven layer wedding cake that i made for fun that took me about 12 hours including frosting and all design work that i did myself, i even created a little man and woman holding hands on the top from icing.

Honestly i meant more as in physical rewards like noticing the weight loss and having others comment who didn't know what i was doing. giving up junk food won't be an issue for me though because in regards to fast food, chocolate, lollies, cakes etc i don't really care about them and they are not that important to me. My Achilles heel is ice cream, i love it. i could eat it all day and i love all flavors and styles even if i normally don't like a particular taste.

I had a lot of big things happen to day which were steps in the right direction and my first achievement. i believe that if i was able to still feel the same way 24 hours later that was an achievement itself. I will put a hyper link in my sig after i finish my diary if your interested to see what happened.

Thank you again, that one reply seriously meant the world to me.
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Hi Skrillex,

Sometimes it seems like life is dumping on us. We get mired down in the mud that is thrown at us. You have overcome a lot at such a young age ( I am 49-lol) Don't give up on yourself or what you want out of life. Things will improve- they always do.

Now about weight loss. By cutting out some bad eating habits and getting regular exercise you can lose weight. Will you have setbacks? Probably- everyone does. Walking(and eventually running) is a great exercise to start with. It doesn't cost anything- you get outside for some fresh air. I have kids that play video games all the time and I have to kick them outside for some away time-lol. They need it- sitting in front of a television all the time is not good for you as you know.

Controlling what you put in your mouth is another step. You say ice cream is your achilles heel. I think everyone on this forum has an achilles heel of some type-lol. Can you have ice cream when you are trying to lose weight- absolutely. Can you eat a tub of it? Probably not a good idea. There are lots of lower calorie, lower fat ice creams and frozen yogurts on the market today. Try one- look at the suggested serving size and stick to it. That way you know how many calories you have just eaten. Tracking your food is a must especially since you said you have no idea what to do. I use My Fitness Pal to track my food. It isn't always that accurate on the calories but it gives me a guideline. I started way heavier than you are- 320 pounds. I am now 184 pounds. I was always the fat kid growing up. I am changing that now. You can change too. This forum is full of great information and all the support you will need. Good Luck on your journey!!
 
Hey Cowboy48,

I know what you mean, it seams like every time we pull our head about the (*cough*) mud and open our mouth for a breath of fresh air, someone is waiting to throw another heap of (*cough*) mud in our face.

I like to think of myself as a realist so i know that there are going to be problems and challenges ahead but i want and need to over come them and i think finally i might have the will power and drive to actually do it this time. I defiantly know that it is no good for you, but it does give you an escape from this harsh reality we call life and on a more petty scale it gives you a small sense of achievement, thus helping to satisfy our primal urges to complete tasks and feel like we have achieved something, hopefully this diet and exercise plan i will start will give me that satisfaction and i will be able to cut back. It is a passion of mine though and i will never give it up completely.

I do plan on having a small amount occasionally so i don't go mad, well madder would be more appropriate ha ha. But i want to prove to myself i can start on the right foot. one of my goals is to go my first 3 weeks without any form of "junk" food, chocolate or ice creme, just so i can prove to myself that i can do this.

What is My fitness pal? can you tell me about it because currently i have no idea about that "stuff" and want to learn and it may in turn help me to keep a rough, as you said, guide to how i am going on my day to day intake.

Also WOW! and congratulations on losing almost half your weight so far. That is amazing and i hope you are proud of yourself that is a great effort! Do you mind me asking for a link to your diary so i can see how you went? where you started and use it as inspiration?

Thanks for posting here i appreciate it.
 
Skrillex said:
Hey Cowboy48,

I know what you mean, it seams like every time we pull our head about the (*cough*) mud and open our mouth for a breath of fresh air, someone is waiting to throw another heap of (*cough*) mud in our face.

I like to think of myself as a realist so i know that there are going to be problems and challenges ahead but i want and need to over come them and i think finally i might have the will power and drive to actually do it this time. I defiantly know that it is no good for you, but it does give you an escape from this harsh reality we call life and on a more petty scale it gives you a small sense of achievement, thus helping to satisfy our primal urges to complete tasks and feel like we have achieved something, hopefully this diet and exercise plan i will start will give me that satisfaction and i will be able to cut back. It is a passion of mine though and i will never give it up completely.

I do plan on having a small amount occasionally so i don't go mad, well madder would be more appropriate ha ha. But i want to prove to myself i can start on the right foot. one of my goals is to go my first 3 weeks without any form of "junk" food, chocolate or ice creme, just so i can prove to myself that i can do this.

What is My fitness pal? can you tell me about it because currently i have no idea about that "stuff" and want to learn and it may in turn help me to keep a rough, as you said, guide to how i am going on my day to day intake.

Also WOW! and congratulations on losing almost half your weight so far. That is amazing and i hope you are proud of yourself that is a great effort! Do you mind me asking for a link to your diary so i can see how you went? where you started and use it as inspiration?

Thanks for posting here i appreciate it.
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Google My Fitness Pal- Once you are at the website- create a profile and away you go. It gives you an idea of your daily calories based on your height and weight- how much weight you want to lose etc. Try it and see what you think.

With my weight loss- I found this forum when I was almost half way through it. I never did start a diary. Now, with just 9 pounds to go till I hit my goal of 175 it seemed pointless to create a diary. I have been heavy my whole life - from the time I was a baby. I have been up and down in weight my whole life and when I turned 49 I thought to myself- I have spent 50 years of my life FAT and I am tired of it. So the day after my birthday I started my journey. A journey I have done many many times before. At my heaviest I was 330 pounds. I lost 100 pounds and then thought I would give my body a rest before continuing on. I wanted to maintain for 3 months and then hit it hard again. Well the three months turned into 2 years and I gained about 25 pounds. So I started my latest journey at 255 pounds. It has taken me about 30 weeks to lose 71 pounds but they will be gone for good this time. I started running- very slowly at first but now I am running 10 K. I love it and it is good for the waistline-lol. Everything in moderation has been my motto. I still eat the things I always have just a lot less of them. My mindset is completely different this time around. I have adopted this as a lifestyle change and I don't think I will go back to my old ways. The new thinner me is here to stay.

Keep this in mind now that you have started your journey. A lot people start off gungho. They start exercising and eating right and then something happens- they hit a plateau or they can't exercise because it is too cold or whatever. The excuses are endless sometimes-lol. If you really want this you will have the same will power and stamina three months from now that you do now. That is what I have learned from my endless weight loss journeys. I always made an excuse for not working out or just having another piece of cake(one more won't hurt me-lol) . This really is about changing yourself from the inside out. I really like being thinner. I feel good and I am healthier.

This is a very good forum. The people here are wonderful and supportive and if you have a problem or run into a road block we are all here to help.
 
Hey Skrillex!

Just wanted to add my words of encouragement. I am also recently unemployed and feeling a little ineffectual. I had all these big dreams of what I was going to be when I was a kid, but it's just not panning out. Just wanted to say don't give up. I know now that I am not going to be as hugely successful career-wise as I originally hoped, but when I really think about what I want for myself, I just want to be healthy and surrounded by people that I love. Everything else is just....superfluous.

Like Sunflower said: use it to your advantage! It can turn into a positive or negative thing. When I was first unemployed I watched TV and played video games...pretty much all day. It was just me and my video games and my fridge. But I've managed to turn it around into something healthy...I realized I don't have any excuse not to work out. I didn't know anything about how to start so I did a lot of research on the internet, and also found a personal trainer that I was semi-related to and just picked his brain about dieting. Also, since you have chef experience, I bet you could learn pretty easy how to make some tasty, healthy, dinners. I had 1 week where I tried a new healthy recipe every other night, it was fun and I learned a lot about cooking.

I used to be a smoker too, I quit appx two years ago when I stared exercising. For me, I reached a certain point where I couldn't reconcile the healthy person that I wanted to be with the smoker that I was. I know that it controls your life and you feel like you need it, but please believe that it is 100% possible to quit, and once your out of it, you can't believe you were ever in such a huge hole.

You can do it!!! You can!!

P.s. Just curious if your name is a reference to the DJ Skrillex from LA? :)
 
Can't wait to go and read your diary, hun :) I believe that you can make the changes you need and happiness is just around the corner for you :D Keep posting and STAY POSITIVE. This wont happen overnight, don't expect instant results. It's a lifestyle change, not a diet.

Hugs from the other side of the world, hope you get an early night tonight! xx
 
At cowboy

Thanks for that ill be looking into that first thing tomorrow when i get home from my next interview (hopefully one of these will turn into a job).

i realize that but i am promising myself that i wont use those excuses again i have before and i want to do this for real. i defiantly don't think that this is going to be easy but i know i can do it this time, and im going to.

thanks for all the advice and motivation.

At Trill

im starting to see work the same way and know now that im not going to be rich and famous and it doesn't bother me anymore, i just want to be happy and have a job that is at least semi respectable and i am at least half happy to do.

Yea i am going to, my birthday is a few days away so i asked the people in my life that wont stop asking what should they get me to get me healthy cook books etc. Things that can help me and i will feel a lot more inclined to use.

Yes it most defiantly is from DJ Skrillex, he's my third favorite DJ and who i am currently the most into. Scary Monsters and Happy Sprites is one of my new fav songs haha. glad to see im not the only one with good taste in music around here haha

At Sunflower

thanks again, yea i am working on it and realize its a whole life change not just a quick fix. :)
 
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