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kristindiva

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Hey there,

So, here's my story:

I'm really struggling with a serious weight gain. I was diagnosed about two years ago with a chronic illness that left me really incapacitated and super depressed. Instead of going to the gym, I would eat and lie on the couch. Add to that losing friends because of my illness (yeah, people do that kind of thing - not really friends at all it turns out) and I'm coming off of a really, REALLY bad couple of years.

Now things are on an uphill swing: new job, managing my condition and making new friends here. However, I'm trapped in a body where I'm 67 lbs overweight. I have never been this heavy and I want this to stop. I would love some support with emotional eating, depression and overall motivation for me to get up off my duff and get to the gym! I really want to lose this weight and would love any support anyone can give me.

Hope to hear from you!:)
 
Hello Kristin,

I am sorry for what you are having to trudge through at this time. But I do know how you feel. I was diagnosed with cancer just out of high school. I was really athletic, and had - if I say so- a great physique, and the combo of steroid therapy and being nearly bed-ridden caused me to gain over 150+ lbs.

Finding yourself with this new different body can be a shocking and disheartening experience, but the people here are fantastic and can help with any thing. So, do not be affraid to ask, and if you ever want to just vent or talk with me -or any one here I am sure- just do so. :)
 
thank you

Thanks so much for replying! I'll take all the help I can get. It's so frustrating to deal with this, man. I find myself being really angry that I should have been tougher, had more willpower, gone to the gym despite feeling horrible but in the end...you know, woulda-coulda-shoulda doesn't get me anywhere. I am where I am now and that's all I can do. How did you deal with the depression from the disease?

Congrats on beating cancer btw. That's awesome! :)
 
The way I pulled myself out of the pit of self-pitty was tough! I had to restructure my self-esteem.

1. Get ready every day!
Too often those afflicted with an ailment that causes them to be inside all to much start figuring, "Meh, I'm not going any where. So I'll stay in my jammies." Don't fall into this!! You must get ready. Take a nice long shower and get really clean. Get out, and do your hair, and hell if you really want to up that esteem, do your make-up (if you are a girl of course). This is really important, as it begins to help us truely feel how we look.

2. Excersize every day: Now I do not necissarily mean run a marathon every day, but if it's after dinner, and you are just watching TV. Go out for a short mile walk. There is 24 hours in a day, it's not all too difficult to go out and walk with an iPod for one of those. And the emotional and physical benefit is AMAZING. Also the natural release of endorphins will help kick off your boost of "feel-goods" so you begin to feel better about yourself.

3. Make a plan for the day. Sure days where you just lay around flying by the seat of your pants are great, but make yourself earn those. Know what you will do most days, so that the weekends feel like a treat.

4. Do not be so hard on yourself. This one will come naturally after a while, but actively try to accept yourself for who you are.

I hope this helps. And if you have any other questions please, please, please, do not be affraid to ask.
 
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