My Weightloss (hopefully) Diary

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motherofthree

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Ok, so here we go thanks to my very first replyer...hypo hippo...here is my weightloss journal. Thank you for replying so quickly.

I can't say that I have tried a lot of diets. I want to be healthy. The only one that I have tried is the South Beach and I have tried it countless times. I can't seem to make it past the first phase. The longest I have ever made it is 9 days...after 9 days, I cheated and never have been able to do it again. I think that I am addicted to sweets. Everything I try and tell myself I can't have that is the first thing I want. How do you get rid of that feeling. Ok here is the deal.

I am a wife, and mother. I have a daughter, Kelsey, 10, Chase who is 7, and our baby Kylee who is 2. My husband loves sweets too. He is military. When he is deployed or gone for a while, it is easier to stick to a diet and not have the sweets in the house but when he is home, I feel obligated to make them happy and that is what makes them happy so I buy it. I know that it isn't teaching them (the kids) healthy lifestyles. I just don't know how to stop it. It has been like a downward spiral. I feel guilty if I don't have the snacks...I also keep fresh fruit in the house too though. But it seems to come as a last resort, only if the other sugar food is gone. The kids are very active though. Tae Kwon Do, T-ball, track...they aren't at any risk of overweight right now.

Right now I think I need to focus on myself though. I need to be able to be strong enough to wake up and say, ok today I am eating healthy...and then NOT walk downstairs and eat a handful of M&M's...Wow, writing this all out actually is scary, that I'm admitting it outloud.
 
seems like youre on the right track to me but the main thing that is hard to beat is the sweets im fighting that myself but getting a good support system is the key to help ya stay on that track in my opinion. You can still make your kids happy with stuff that is healthy yet has a sweet taste too it Im learning that Im a mother of 3 as well so know all to well about that. But think what makes it easy for me is my kids are up to try almost anything and find they like the healthier food alil better then the junk food. I still buy them some junk though cause they are kids and once in awhile cant hurt but mostly i goto the nutricional isles of the stores and buy their snacks there. good luck and hope all works out to make yourself happy. Good luck and feel free to drop me a line anytime
 
Right now I think I need to focus on myself though.
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Focussing on yourself is sometthing that's hard for a mom to do imagine, becuae you're busy taking care of the youngins... but you are correct.. ya gotta and you know you can...

I need to be able to be strong enough to wake up and say, ok today I am eating healthy...and then NOT walk downstairs and eat a handful of M&M's...Wow, writing this all out actually is scary, that I'm admitting it outloud.
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Don't be scared... we tend to be the scarest of things we don't admit out loud... Yell it if you want to... All you have to do is take it day by day... and you'll get to where you want to go... :)

Support and encouragement you've got plenty of here... :)
 
Hi Motherofthree and welcome to the forum :D

Instead of trying to stick to a preconceived diet, have you thought about limiting calories to 1200-1500 a day? That way, if you find you've 'slipped' a little, you can just factor that into the daily total of calories?

There is really no way I could follow someone else's plan - I came home from work (I only work one day) exhausted, and there's not much to choose from in the fridge and freezer, I had eaten about 500 calories throughout the day, so I knew I could make hashbrowns & eggs (450 calories). That is in no way diet food, but it was in my caloric range for the day.

I hate feeling deprived, and would only be setting myself up for failure any other way.

However you decide to lose weight, good for you for wanting to do something for YOU!!

Have a great weekend,
 
Hi and welcome to you! It sounds like you aren't going to be able to stick to a very strick regime and don't worry it doesn't have to be like that. Don't tell yourself ok I'm only going to eat these foods and nothing else, or I can't have any of these foods ever again. It isn't reasonable and you don't have to be miserable to be healthy and lose weight. M2Ms advice on total calorie intake per day is a much better way. We all know you can do it no matter what you decide to do! Good luck to you on your journey.
 
Hey there! First of all, you need to realize that you are not doing your kids or husband any favors by 'making them happy' keeping sweets in the house. You are doing them a favor by being the strongest, healthiest wife and mother you can be. You are doing an amazingly loving thing by teaching your kids that their cravings can be satisfied with healthy foods. You owe it to them, and yourself to succeed.

You've come to the right place for support! We can be tough, but we will always do our best to support you in your efforts!
 
I can totally identify with your challenges. I have three children--actually, they are nearly grown now (teens) and sadly, my youngest died four years ago. But food brought joy, especially the treats. I think it was the way we were raised. In the distant past, a treat was rare and truly a special treat. Today, we live in a society with an abundance of good things available every day. Treats are an everyday thing!

And, as moms, we love our kids and want to see them happy. We do anything to make them happy! They're so happy to be able to choose a treat at the store!

We do need to temper things and teach them (warn them) about poor food choices. We need to teach them moderation though, not to avoid foods completely. There was a neighborhood girl who would come to my house and pig out because her mother was a health freak and her idea of a treat was a carrot. Don't get me wrong, a carrot is great! We love our fresh, raw veggies, but this kid was deprived of anything that had sugar in it. She couldn't control herself when her mother wasn't around! My kids can take or leave the treats now. They know treats are available if they want them. Now that they're teens, they're concerned about their health and appearance so they avoid overeating the junk.

Anyway, as far as you and I...we eat or overeat for other reasons. It's identifying those reasons that will help us from overeating.

Sometimes, though, it just becomes a bad habit. Like you said you come downstairs and grab a handful of M&Ms. The candy was there in front of you so you just dipped your hand in. You weren't necessarily hunger or craving them.

I applaud you for coming out in your diary. It really will help to have the support of others. (hahaha! I say this and I haven't started my own online diary yet! Guess, I'm chicken!!!) But I do read others' diaries and I feel very motivated by them! Yours included!

Good luck!
 
When I started my diet, I told my boyfriend about it first. He said that he would support me and that he'd "hide" his candy (although I quickly found his hidding place, but I try to forget it! haha at least it's not in the open, right?) and that he'd try to help me if he could. We found foods that we both liked and foods that were good for me at the same time. That's what our dinner consisted of for the first couple of weeks. It was very easy that way, but we (he) got bored of the same stuff (chicken, broccoli, carrots, etc) so I started making a variation of the dish we had almost every night. For example, I would make Chicken Parmesian (something I don't really care for) and grilled chicken and herbs for me. When he gets a sweet tooth, I just get sweets that I don't like, so I'm not forced to eat them.

I know it'll be harder for you with kids that can be so picky at times, but you can do it!! :D Good Luck!!!
 
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