My Story: Tips Needed

BigBen2

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You guys have all been really inspirational to me. I cheer at your success stories, and sympathize with your struggles. This is the first time I have been able to really commit to my weight loss, and now that I’m struggling a bit I don’t want to lose that motivation.

I’m a 31 year old male. An even 6 feet. When I started my journey I weighed in at 265. I was skinny and scrawny for most of my life. I was in the Army for 5 years, and was in the best shape of my life during that time weighing a steady 168. I got out in 2003, and the next thing I know I’m huge. For a long time I tried not to think about it too much. We all come in different shapes and sizes. But I noticed that I lost a lot of my confidence, and lazy days were not just lazy days but seemed to end up involving depression and anxiety. It took me time but I realized for me, that I felt the healthiest mentally when I was at my healthiest physically. The first few times I tried to lose the weight I think I tried a bit too hard, doing as much as possible at one time. It felt futile, and I often felt hungry, weak, and discouraged.

3 weeks ago I tried a different approach. With the help of this community. Just make one change. One thing at a time, commit to that change. Instead of trying to overwhelm myself. And I am happy to say it has worked, so far. On July 20th I weighed 265. I didn’t change my diet at all, I started with exercise. Given my experience in the Army, I’m very familiar with various exercises that don’t involve any outside equipment. And I also have a good understanding of my body, knowing when to push a little more and when to stop. So I put together a short, but fairly intense 15-20 minute routine. It involved a good amount of cardio at near max heart rate, and some muscle conditioning during rest periods. And my immediate results were amazing!

I do my workout Monday through Friday and rest on the weekend. I first weighed myself on July28th. I was down to 249 in just one week. Naturally this gave me confidence that what I was doing was right, and I felt good. No pressure, and I hadn’t changed my diet so it felt like a small change that I could easily continue. I weighed myself again August 4th after another week of the same routine. 240! I couldn’t believe it I was down 25 pounds in just 2 weeks.

Now I know what you’re thinking because I remind myself of it every day. These are amazing results, and not all that common. I should be happy and very proud. And I am. This is my 3rd week of the routine and I have been weighing myself more regularly. I’m maintaining at 240-242, up and down day to day. This last week I also started to work on my diet more and counting calories. After the first week or so of working out I had begun to lose my huge appetite anyways and I was already cutting out a lot of food.

What’s happening to me now is I am getting terrified of eating. It’s like I feel guilty about wanting to eat something. When I do eat or when I want to eat, I feel like I have to work out right away or else I’m not doing myself any favors. During the first couple weeks, there was plenty of days where I was still taking in 3000+ calories a day. I’ve cut to well under 2000 a day, yesterday coming in at 1400. I know it’s hard to be exact when counting so I overestimate instead of under to keep the numbers realistic as possible. The hard part is that this is not making me want to give up, but make me want to work harder, but I’m afraid of overdoing it. Of making unhealthy choices (not overeating, but undereating) and ending up with a similar “unhealthy” feeling just on the other side of the spectrum.

So I’d really like to know what you guys think. Some tips that have helped you overcome getting “stuck” and continuing to see results as the weeks pass by. I’m super excited about the results I’ve seen so far, I just want it to continue. Thanks for reading, it means a lot.
 
Good job so far! You gotta lose that being afraid to "overeat" mentality tho. Thats bad mojo. But I do understand where you are coming from.

One thing I do is focus on protein. I set a calorie goal and a protein goal. Say 1800 cals and 100g of protein. Usually if I have a skimpy day (1200-1500) my protein will always be low. So I will eat some tuna or a whey shake or something to get in line. That way I have to focus on eating instead of NOT eating, but eating better foods.
 
Thanks. Could you give me some insight on how protein effects weight loss? Maybe if I understand it better it will be easier to convince myself to eat more.
 
The main factor? Your body is going to look to your own muscles for fuel as you cut calories. Increasing protien helps curb that down so your lean muscle loss will not be so much.
 
Well its not magic but it is definitely worth emphasizing. The most simple role that it plays is satisfaction. Cal for Cal, protein will keep you feeling fuller, longer. A 4 oz piece of grilled chicken with some greens will get you to your next meal a lot better than an order of fries.

Secondly, an important part of smart weight loss is muscle retention. Especially for us guys. Your body would just as soon eat lean muscle for energy as it would fat, so while in a caloric deficit it will eat whats available. Muscle and fat. One way to counteract this is to do resistance training coupled with adequate protein intake. Protein is used in muscle maintenance and growth so if you work your muscles and feed them (protein) they will stay. If not you may be surprised at whats left when you lose all that weight.

It actually gets a lot more complicated than that but thats it in a nutshell.
 
This is really tough. I want to thank everyone on these forums for keeping me motivated and inspiring me. Even though you may not respond to my diary, or even read it, your contributions are what makes this forum and helps people like me and many many others. So I was stuck at 240, and it was getting me down, I can't lie. Constantly going up and down 240-242 day by day. But I kept to my program, kept working out, counting my calories. I let myself eat a bit more. I keep it between 1500 and 2000 as often as I can, my problem is ending up lower, not higher. And squeezing in as much protein as I can get, my sources are mostly peanut butter and eggs. Unfortunately for me I'm a very picky eater so the foods I do like that have protein are a lot less than others.

But today was a breakthrough day! I stepped on the scale and weighed in a cool 237! Breaking that 240 barrier is huge for me. It feels amazing and has not only motivated me to continue, but has justified my dedication to continue and validated everything I read on these boards. So as my first month comes to an end I have lost a total of 28 pounds. I feel great, and I am excited about what next month might bring. Thanks for reading.
 
This is really tough. I want to thank everyone on these forums for keeping me motivated and inspiring me. Even though you may not respond to my diary, or even read it, your contributions are what makes this forum and helps people like me and many many others. So I was stuck at 240, and it was getting me down, I can't lie. Constantly going up and down 240-242 day by day. But I kept to my program, kept working out, counting my calories. I let myself eat a bit more. I keep it between 1500 and 2000 as often as I can, my problem is ending up lower, not higher. And squeezing in as much protein as I can get, my sources are mostly peanut butter and eggs. Unfortunately for me I'm a very picky eater so the foods I do like that have protein are a lot less than others.

But today was a breakthrough day! I stepped on the scale and weighed in a cool 237! Breaking that 240 barrier is huge for me. It feels amazing and has not only motivated me to continue, but has justified my dedication to continue and validated everything I read on these boards. So as my first month comes to an end I have lost a total of 28 pounds. I feel great, and I am excited about what next month might bring. Thanks for reading.

Good for you! Keep up the good work! We are behind you on this!
Stay healthy =)
 
The lower I get the harder it seems to get. This post, and these forums especially have helped me stay motivated. It can feel defeating at times when the increments are smaller, and it takes longer to reach them, but I am still quite happy with the results, and not at all disappointed. Breaking 230 was my next goal, and I worked and worked at it. For a while it seemed impossible. I wasn't gaining, but just maintaining at times felt like failure. Today I am happy to say I weighed in at a very easy 227. That's 38 pounds since I started. In about 3 months. My BMI is down to 30%. That's a 5% drop from when I started. I'm still considered obese, but just barely now. 29% I will be considered overweight, and I can get that if I get down to 220.

Thanks all for the support and stories. I am going to keep on swimming. Is 200 in my future? Here's hoping :)
 
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Weekend's scare me, well Monday does. I always feel like I'm going to pay for the weekend no matter how hard I try so I was scared getting on the scale this morning. I felt a little fatter, and my belt felt a little tighter. And I just kept telling myself so long as I'm not back up to 230 or higher it will be ok. I stepped on the scale, moved the slider to 230 and it sank down. Okay good! Less than 230. I kept moving it down and settled on a very happy 220 even. First time at 220. This is a comfortable 220. A couple weeks ago I hit 221, but I wanted to make sure it wasnt a fluke, I settled in the newer weight and watched the ups and downs and as I maintained it stayed right around 221-223. So after a weekend where I normally intake the most calories coming in Monday at 220 is very promising for the next couple of weeks.

220 also means I am no longer considered obese by standard BMI calculators for my height of 6'. That is super exciting! I was talking to a friend of mine who has been supportive since the beginning when I decided to do this, and he said when I first started talking I was conviced I would never even hit 230. My next goal will be to comfortably break 220 and start maintaining under it so I'm really looking forward to the next couple of weeks.

My only big thing is I still feel really fat. Like I said, coming off the weekend I actually thought I had gained weight. 4-5 pounds at least. I'm scared i'll always feel fat. But I am happy with the results, so I'm not dwelling on it too much.
 
Hey BigBen,
I can totally relate to what you mean by feeling fatter even though you've lost weight. I think our minds just mess with us...
I wanted to show my support, and wish you the best with the weight loss. Be careful not to get too obsessive, you should never feel guilty for putting good healthy food into your body.
Congratulations on getting out of the obese section too, the day I got there (not long ago at all) I was so stoked. I can't wait to be out of the overweight section now :)
Looking forward to your updates,

Jess
 
Great job on moving out of the 'obese' category! You're making really good progress, keep it up.
 
There's not a lot of comfort to be provided on the subject of feeling fat, being afraid of feeling that way, etc.

I've lost a bunch of weight, and I feel a lot better, and I feel like I LOOK a lot better, but there are still days (or even just times within certain days) when I look in the mirror, like, eugh; why do I even bother?

It's normal to feel that way; it isn't necessarily indicative of your progress or your efforts.

You're clearly doing well for yourself, and should be very proud.
Best of luck to you on the rest of your journey!
 
It's nice to be able to update again. It's hard to even motivate myself to make a journal entry when nothing has changed. Since my last post I had settled at 220. I'd fluctuate often, up a few, down a few. I never really got discouraged by this which is a great thing. I settled into the new habits I developed at the start of my journey. The biggest change was that I had moved, and that led me to stop working out. I was comfortable and had a nice routine that I enjoyed to keep me working out regularly, and I lost that when I moved. So I started searching for something new to get me active again. I felt since I was no able to maintain over a long period of time, if I added in the excercise again I should start seeing new results.

I found EA Sports Active 2 for my PS3. This is not promotional in any way. I often get that feeling too when I see people mention name brands and specific equipment or workouts. But this is a place we all come to learn and maybe pick up tips so I wanted to put out there what I was actually doing. So I started the Actice 2 and found a nice workout routine that I enjoy and can keep myself motivated to do. I hadn't weighed myself in two weeks. Even though I felt healthier from the workouts, I didn't think I was actually losing weight, only that I was balancing off some of the calories I was taking in during the day. Which was fine with me, I care mostly about feeling healthy than the actual weight number. I weighed in today for the first time since I started my new workout routine, and I was amazed and excited when I saw that setting the scale at 220 was just way too much. I slid the bar down lower and lower, and settled in at 212.

I would never have imagined I would lose 53 pounds at the start of my journey. I'm not going to crazy about the results and try and push myself so hard that I risk disappointing myself. But I do hope that I can continue to make good daily choices, not feel guilty about cheat days, and maintain a healthy lifestyle. Thanks for listening, I hope to update again in a few months with more amazing results.
 
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