Miscarriage 2nd trimester.

Hecticme

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Hopefully I don't upset anybody by posting this here. I am a mommy to 5 - 3 mine and 2 step children. Well we had our tubes burnt 3 years ago -- which added weight on me. Than 6 months ago to our amazement we were pregnant. Just last week we lost the baby due to unknown causes, we were 27 weeks. Talk about a ROLLERCOASTER ride I would have liked to skip. So now I am here looking for support. I need to lose all my baby weight from all pregnancy's. I am an active mom , but many times I am so busy either I skip meals or replace with really bad choices. Any moms have tips on things I can do. Little things like snack options and mommy friendly activities or extra ways to burn calories around the house type of things? Any and all help is appreciated.
Thanks for reading.
 
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Gee, I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my first one years ago, and it doesn't matter if you're one month or nine, it still hurts. And afterwards, I was so depressed that all I did was eat. That's part of how I gained all the weight I'm now (at age 55) trying to lose. For me, losing weight is all mental. You just have to tell yourself that being heavy isn't the way you want to live the rest of your life. You have five kids to live for. And they deserve the best mom you can be. I ate because of depression and being a stay at home mom, I was bored. It gets tedious taking care of the house and kids. Food picks you up, gives you instant gratification.
All I can suggest would be to get as involved with the kids as you can. Can you join a gym with them or do mother,child exercises with them? It sure wouldn't be harmful for them to "work out". Instead of having cookies and cakes in the house, have grapes and apples (sliced apples served with cinnamon and Splenda....YUM). And if your kids have a snack before bed, have one with them, but something lite. Sugar free Creamsicles or Fudgesicles are really good and only 20 calories for Creamies and 40 for Fudgies. And instead of popping something in your mouth when you get some down time, come on here and talk with us. Hang in there. We're all in the same boat.
 
I"m sorry for your loss. I cannot imagine the emotional toll it can take. Hugs!

Here are some tips I used after I had my son to help with the weight loss (I gained over 50lbs when I was preggy and have since lost all of it):

* If I cannot eat breakfast, I drink a replacement meal shake (at least u will get the vitamins and minerals rather than nothing). I keep different ones in my fridge so they are in sight and a reminder to have breakfast.

* I try to eat what I feed baby.....I ensure he gets a healthy daily dose of fruit, veggies, grains, etc so I just eat what he eats in larger portions of course. He gets 3 meals a day with 2 snacks in between so I force myself to eat during these times too. (skipping regular eating causes me to binge and overeat at night and feel guilty).

* Every day I go outside with baby - the walk and the fresh air makes my step lighter and my waist thinner - brisk walking for at least 1/2 hour makes a diff with me....I pull him in the wagon or we go in the running stroller.

* In our back yard I take out all the balls we have in the house (beach ball, yoga ball, football, basketball) and we run around and yell and throw balls and I lift baby to jump on the yoga ball (hence working my arm muscles - in a controlled manner of course) and I bounce on the ball and we act silly at the same time I am exercising. I do crunches and pushups and he's running around and loves it!

*Inside, I jump jacks and baby mimics me and has fun, we march around the room and I lay down a blanket and we play a game of marching around the outside of the perimeter,,,then mommy jumps on the blanket and dances a silly step and then goes back to marching.....then it's baby's turn to jump on the blanket and silly dance....just alot of fun for baby but exercise for me. All the while I tuck in my belly and tighten my glutes - aware of exercising the whole time.

* I drink water all day long and ensure to not pick at food in between scheduled snacks and meals....I feel the urge to pick or eat munchies as I"m home all day long BUT it's crucial I do not do this. It makes a big difference! So, I input my food to fitday and I count my daily calorie intake. It does take a little work but WORTH IT. In the kitchen I have a little book on the counter that I write down EVERYTHING that I eat so when baby is in bed I log on to fitday and input all the food.

I bought an eliptical machine (inexpensive one at Walmart) and use it at least every 2nd day....even if it's for 15-20 minutes - worth it!

* I lay out my workout/gym clothes and socks and runners by my bed so every morning I get up, I automatically put it on and I get in the exercise mindset right from the very beginning. I also am in the habit of wearing a cool headwrap and pull my hair into a ponytail - simple and fun for me.

* I attach a pedometer to my waistband (inexpensive at Walmart) so I can monitor my walking...they don't always work so well BUT it keeps me mindful of moving as much as I can throughout the day).

*I come on here as often as I can and look at pictures and read success stories.

*One other thing that helps me stay motivated.....I try on my bathing suit and look at myself in the mirror...this gentle reminder that summer is approaching and I want to get back into the swimsuit and feel good is very motivating!

I have my days where I fall off the wagon (especially PMS time) but if I fall off, I just come to my senses and just start all over again.

Good luck and if you want a buddy feel free to email me at sandradbaggio@yahoo.com

Sandy
 
WOW you sound like you are ontop of it thanks for all the tips. You gave me some new ideas which I really need. I bought some slim fast shakes today b/c I am noturious for skipping breakfast. My weak ness that I have found is water. I hate plain water - I like to spice it up a bit with a little bit of lemon and 3 TB of Sugar -- to 16 oz of water, but I wonder if the sugar hurts me more than helps I heard that lemon helps you burn calories but I am not sure. Anyways I added your e-mail thanks again


Felica
 
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