Military husband helping me workout?

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Hello everyone I haven't been in this forum for a while, because I started working out then I stopped. Which is what I do every year. I am about 5'9 and I weigh 293 pounds. I think I might weigh a bit more than that since my digital scale is not working right. I am obese as you can tell. My husband thinks I'm just overweight.

Well my husband thinks that when you first start off working out for the first two weeks you are suppose to work so hard that you are constitenly in pain even when your not working out. And when you are working your suppose to have tightness in your muscles. And your suppose to be breathing so hard that you almost faint. Is this true for an obese person?
 
In a word, no - it sounds like your husband's trying to put the way he's learned to exercise on to you. As a newbie exerciser yourself, that sort of thinking would almost certainly lead to injury but chances are you'd be burnt out on exercising way before then.

Will you have tightness/soreness in your muscles? Yes, because you haven't worked them in a long time. But that's not a goal to work for unless of course you're a masochist, then have at it. If you aren't a masochist, you'd want to find a training regimen that you can do, and do consistently. One that is challenging enough that it will make you work, but not so challenging as to cause injury.
 
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At 5'9" and 293 lbs you should probably go and get a check up with your doctor first just to check that things like your blood pressure are OK.
I would then suggest getting a good personal trainer. Your husband is probably extremely fit if he's in the military but he probably started training when he was already in pretty decent shape and therefore could start training at a higher intensity.
 
Agree with both of the posts above. I am sure your husband has all of the best intentions of helping you out and that is great support, but he is on a different performance level right now. Go see your physician about your intentions, and after he clears you for a fitness routine, take advantage of the services provided by the fitness center and wellness center on base/post. While working out in a military gym might be a little overwhelming at first, many of the classes and guidance the wellness center can provide to you will be more than enough to get you started on your way. While not all centers can provide one-on-one training, most can assist you with an appropriate fitness plan for your level. As a military spouse, all of this should be available free of charge to you.

Congrats on making the decision for yourself and welcome back! I think if you find a proper program for you right now it will go a long way and keep you from getting discouraged.
 
I agree with above.
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Yes, to get results, everyone must actually work -out. Many women, in the name of not pushing themselves too hard in the beginning, barely lift a finger, leave the gym to go get a latte, then wonder why why haven't lost weight.

That being said, there is a safe level at which to start - and almost fainting/so sore you can't hardly move is not it - especially at your current weight. First, get checked out by a doc, this is very important. Then, start out sensibly.
 
Thanks for the responses. Yes my husband is in very good shape. Yes I've been to the doctor and I don't have high blood pressure. Thank goodness.
 
That is the typical military attitude towards training. This is because they initially use the training to not only build you up physically, but also use it to break down mental barriers and make you mentally stronger by pushing yourself past the pain and getting the job done. The trouble with that is...you are not military and don't need that kind of training. Although military tend to be in far better shape than the populous, we are not always the best at giving training advice to civilians because the difference in personal goals is not always apparent to everyone.

For you, starting out slow is the best thing you can do. This will allow your body to adapt to the (hopefully) increasing stresses you will be putting it through. Also, you will not build up mental barriers to the process. The subconscious can be pretty powerful. If you know you will be in pain later, it can push back by putting little excuses in your mind. This is highly counterproductive because motivation is a necessity for staying on track. You need to keep that positive attitude and motivation to succeed. This, coupled with the results you will feel and see will keep you coming back to it, and hopefully letting it become a lifestyle.

The best adage to think about is "Two steps forward, one step back." This allows you to push, rest, and then push again. You are not always pushing forward, but in the long run you are making progress. See the bigger picture. The first few weeks are always the hardest. Go slow and give your body time to adapt. Only you can be the judge of how hard you are working because it is completely subjective. Just don't short change yourself because your progress will take longer.

Good luck
 
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