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Pristiq

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...as if..can't think of anything worse..(within boundries). My 8/10 clothes don't fit - i'm missing photoshoots and worse I care ..but kinda also don't give a eff.

My parents, are trying to help me...which is by way of informing me i'm fat - in of course a nice and meaningful way - but jesus after a life of being strict..starving..purging and the likes (like most these days I suspect)..i god damn think i've earnt that chocolate bar..that is now a daily chocolate block...for real doe's anyone else eat a block a day??? I don't even enjoy the taste..so guess i'm eating cos i've had enough of all the bullshit - pleasing everyone...

One thing i've learnt at being 55kgs is that being skinny does not make me happy - (neither does fat)...so where to now?? being kinda poor.and loving fashion I have only one option which is to lose weight to fit into my clothes..but where the eff do I start without abusing diet pills/starving ect... i DONT WANT quick fixes...I DONT want shakes...dizy spells, headaches..aka hell! Im so NOT motivated and yet I know I need to do something...so i'm here..its a small step in aim to find myself and meet like minded others :) would love some friends.
 
nip the chocolate in the bud... for serial offenders sometimes replacing that block a day with a couple of small low-fat hot chocolate drinks can help make the difference. Regular exercise will improve your happiness. Plan out a routine for each day and try and stick to it, dont beat yourself up about missing the odd exercise session, and try and make changes slowly. Don't eat lots at dinner, or if you do make sure its lots of lean meat and veg - not foods high in carbs as they go straight to your gut. Eat apples as well as they help to surpress hunger cravings. Don't expect instant results. Set yourself a 6 week plan and aim for something realistic - say to have lost between 4 and 6 pounds. When u achieve that make a new plan... makes it smaller and easier to break down.

With exercise daily exercise doesnt have to be sprinting until you nearly die, or drenching yourself in your own sweat for an hour on a cross trainer. It can be as little as going for a brisk 20min walk every morning or every evening. Start small and build. Obviously the harder and more you exercise the faster you are likely to see changes, but as i have learned in the past with previous failures it makes you more likely to burn out too.

I am just starting a new diet and exercise regime. I spent ages reading up on nutrition and sport science this time to try and make sure i got it right. I used to play a lot of rugby and had a very lean and muscular physique, but this has become flabby and neglected and having gone up from a 30 to a 34 waist in the last 4 years I really want to do something.

I know being leaner wont necessarily make me happier in myself. But I know that I should do something before the situation gets worse, Im 22 now and If i dont do something im just going to get fatter. I think that succeeding in motivating myself to achieve my goals will do as much for my self esteem as my outward physical appearance. You have to want to do it for you!

(removed) would be good to have someone to keep tabs on me and tell me off a bit if i start to slack off. Any questions you have about diet and exercise I can try my best to answer or point you in the right direction on.

Take it easy,

Paul
 
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Nothing will happen until you are ready. What needs to happen so you are ready?
I agree, potions, pills, quick fixes etc. are not the way to go but heathly eating a long with a healthy attitude to life and regular activity.

Confidence, a healthy mind, a healthy body, self belief and self love and are the things that make life enjoyable.
 
Paul - some of your post was removed - wow great response...yep I need someone to keep tabs to I can be your new Miss if you want ..lol like..."did you do your exercise?" (you) "yes miss" or "No miss" ..(me)"no?? kicks in balls..run bitch" :p :p

Just got back from a 4.64k walk - lets be online friends to keep tabs...your motivation sounds good and I keen gel from that.

Angel - "what needs to happen"....thats the golden question...and last night - i think I got an answer...my ex called (someone I dread hearing from) and yea just him contacting me has flicked the switch for me (im engaged to someone else..but that other guy..well just one of those scars that pains deep). I wasnt allowed to get above 57kgs with the ex..so maybe my weight gain was an attempt to get further from him..anyway..I feel ready and refreshed today ...feel like I have a massive journey ahead so would love hand holders :) lol corrrney hahah :)
 
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Paul - some of your post was removed - wow great response...yep I need someone to keep tabs to I can be your new Miss if you want ..lol like..."did you do your exercise?" (you) "yes miss" or "No miss" ..(me)"no?? kicks in balls..run bitch"
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That's pretty much what i need! Ate very healthily yesterday, but then a friend came up to visit who i havnt seen in a year and ended up going and drinking a fair bit... which probably undid a lot of the good work I have done over the last few days. Not beating myself up about it too much tho lol, and in fact talking to him has acted as a real motivator as he has spent a lot of time in the gym over the last year and is now looking really good!!
 
thx baboon - how are you going with things?

ski - bad boy..down and give me 50 :p ive been 5days of choc yayay hahah massive hard tho..and amped up the exercise..5ks walk/run..tho yesterday was slack and just did 30 mins cross trainer.

drinkings gross....you should take a look at pics of my guy - hes a body builder..barley drinks and yea lol his muscles are motivation for heaps of guys id imagine!! - i just feel like the fat fiancee at the moment compared tp him...hate it cos think that everyones thinking..'fuck how'd she get him' crieeessss :p :p
 
I don't care for chocolate all that much, but I have one sweet thing per day. Lately it's been sugar free pudding, but I need that little indulgence or I go crazy. If you budget for it within your calories, eating chocolate every day won't hurt you. Although, if you don't like the taste, maybe try something you do actually like. :)

My weight has never really affected my happiness level either. I've been blissfully happy at 200 pounds and at 140. Focus on things that DO make you happy. Immerse yourself in your favorite hobby. You say you love fashion, maybe learn to upcycle some of your clothes into new styles that you can wear. Have you seen New Dress a Day? It's a blog where a lady finds a dress at a thrift store and then modifies it into something awesome and wears it. It's a great blog, you should check it out.

As someone who was bulimic for years, and still wrestles with the want to binge and purge (and sadly still loses), I totally hear you on not wanting to live that life. Being consumed by food and eating and purging and restricting is miserable. Take it slow, figure out what foods you like, how many calories they have, and work them into your diet. Find out how many calories you need per day to maintain your weight (Something like this will help.) and then subtract up to 500 calories every day and easy peasy, you'll lose weight.

What has worked the easiest for me is planning out my foods in advance. I know what I'm going to eat all week, how many calories each meal is, and if I have any days where I have extra calories for a snack or dessert. If you don't need variety, think of a dozen of your favorite foods and memorize the calories in them, so can keep track of how many you've had without writing it down.

You can totally do this. :)
 
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