Loosing Weight while living my life.

Verobc1

Verobc1

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Hello people


This is my fith diary on here, I have been in standing still in the 180'slbs for the last couple of years. Last week I had decided that the website just wasn't working for me annymore and that I was calling it quits. The biggest problem with me is that I am a perfectionist, if I don't do something 100% or don't do it well then I just say the hell with it and move on. I have to stop trying to reach perfection, bad days happen I just have to pick myself up and do better the next day, Also I have stop expecting my life to fit my weightloss, but rather I have to make my weightloss fit in my life. I have two little kids and a not so supportive husband. He just doesn't get it, he is thin always have been and he can eat anything he wants, the guy drink pop and eat candy and chips every day and his weight is perfect. He thinks that since I am a mom I should just accept my body the way it is and stop trying. I beleive that I am more then just a mom, I am still a women and I need to feel good about my body in order to be confident in all other areas of my life.....I think men or mabe it's just people that have never struggled with their weight. I have a very full life....not exiting just very full the days are always a big rush...I wake up in hurry to get ready make the lunches and get two kids ready one for school one for daycare. Then I rush to get to work on time, then I pick up the kids from daycare in a rush to get home to get diner done and on the table feed the kids clean up the kitchen give the kids a bath read a story and get them in bed by 7. At 7 I am exausted but I still have laundry and regular house work to do usually I get to bed at around 11pm only to start everything over again the next morning at 6am....I want to work out I want to take college classes (online only) I just don't know where to fit it all. I wish my husband could help with the meals but when he does it's frozen junk like chicken nuggets and fries or pasta two things that will not help me at all. I sometimes feel like I am a single mom, we are still married and living together but lately....when he is home he is sleeping of playing video games.... So I am sure I am not the only mom on here....how do you get your spouse to help out?? Anyone out here with quick healthy meals ( I don't eat red meat or pork) ? I am open to suggestions of anykind that can help me get out of this plateau and back to loosing weight.


I am planning on eating 1485 cals a day I will use the site loseit.com to help me count calories.


My first challenge is to not stress eat I binge when I feel ....anything like stress, anger, or depression (mostly due to TOM)

I also got to drink water again lots and lots of water!
 
Have you taken a look at the New Moms section? That might be a good place to look for others in the same situation as you. Definitely try to separate your emotions from your food... It's not easily done, but if you can eventually conquer that, it will probably help you a lot. Regardless of what your husband does, you need to put less pressure on yourself to be perfect. Stress has negative effects on both your mental well-being and you weight.


Could you work out at home? Even 20-30 minutes of some strengthening exercises 3 days per week can give you many positive health benefits (including weight loss). Do you know any other moms that you could go walking with on a regular basis? Having a workout "buddy" can be very helpful for some people
 
New diary! Ah your life truly sounds hectic! Something I find works for me is whenever I have a spare two minutes, I'll plan all my meals for the next day, pop it into fitday and write it in my journal usually... then I don't think about it again. That is just what I'm eating the next day. Planning is important!


I think while your husband keeps bringing junk food into the house then that will be a challenge for you too... my husband is a MASSIVE junk food eater, but I've told him no junk food in the house, and if he's going to bring any home, he can only bring what he will eat straight away. If there's crap in the house and I know it's there then I can't stop thinking about it.


Quick healthy meals, hmmm here's an awesome snack:


Chocolate fudgsicles

Makes 4 pops


2 tbsp unsweetened cocoa powder

1/2 cup canned coconut milk

2 small very ripe bananas (around 200g)

pinch of salt

1/2 tsp vanilla extract


Throw everything into a food processor, then divide into popsicle molds and freeze. 156cals, 9g fat, 16g carbs, 3g protein.


Meals I'm pretty bad with at the moment because I'm working all the time, so it's pretty much some form of protein I can grill within 10 minutes and a salad, haha! Pretty boring really, I should be more organised and prepare things ahead of time so I can throw something in the oven when I get home. I usually make bulk meals, like a cheesy vegetable bake, or a lasagna, or curry, or I'll make pita bread pizzas, then cook them later and divide and freeze leftovers for dinner later in the week.
 
Originally Posted by PLBFitness


Have you taken a look at the New Moms section? That might be a good place to look for others in the same situation as you. Definitely try to separate your emotions from your food... It's not easily done, but if you can eventually conquer that, it will probably help you a lot. Regardless of what your husband does, you need to put less pressure on yourself to be perfect. Stress has negative effects on both your mental well-being and your weight.



Could you work out at home? Even 20-30 minutes of some strengthening exercises 3 days per week can give you many positive health benefits (including weight loss). Do you know any other moms that you could go walking with on a regular basis? Having a workout "buddy" can be very helpful for some people
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I working on the home workout....our place is very tiny and we have way to much stuff so I have to clean before I work out...I need to chanel my inner strenght I feel so tired emotionally and physically,,,I find that with the work out at home I am not as much into it...the phone rings I can see the laundry or the dog is in my way,,,,when I used to go to a gym...there really is nothing else that needs to be done there then workout, that was pre kids and when I lived in the city. Ad far as other moms I know no one in my area...I didn`t grow up here and since I work in another little village I don`t get to meet many people....when I go to the park I talked to people there but I find that since a lot of the people grew up in this small village I get left out...they gossip about people I don`t know so it`s hard to contribute into a conversation! I am gonna make this work.
 
Try and set a realistic calorie deficit for the day which leaves with enough energy to get through, eating food at the right times is key to make sure you have the energy you need at the right times of the day, you want to be eating just before you're rushing around to get the most of the calories.


PLBFitness made a good comment about separating your emotion from your food, you need food to be purely a source of energy and not comfort. It's good to have support but try and make sure you're not relying on your hubby for support, he may or may not be supportive but you can't let your own success rely on his behaviour, it's not necessary for other peoples help or approval for losing weight, plenty of us manage it every day. It's something you can achieve on your own irrelevant of what's going on around you, you just need to believe that and stick to your diet and routine as best you can.


Good luck :)
 
Originally Posted by luzdafuzz


New diary! Ah your life truly sounds hectic! Something I find works for me is whenever I have a spare two minutes, I'll plan all my meals for the next day, pop it into fitday and write it in my journal usually... then I don't think about it again. That is just what I'm eating the next day. Planning is important!



I think while your husband keeps bringing junk food into the house then that will be a challenge for you too... my husband is a MASSIVE junk food eater, but I've told him no junk food in the house, and if he's going to bring any home, he can only bring what he will eat straight away. If there's crap in the house and I know it's there then I can't stop thinking about it.



Quick healthy meals, hmmm here's an awesome snack:



Chocolate fudgsicles

Makes 4 pops



2 tbsp unsweetened cocoa powder

1/2 cup canned coconut milk

2 small very ripe bananas (around 200g)

pinch of salt

1/2 tsp vanilla extract



Throw everything into a food processor, then divide into popsicle molds and freeze. 156cals, 9g fat, 16g carbs, 3g protein.



Meals I'm pretty bad with at the moment because I'm working all the time, so it's pretty much some form of protein I can grill within 10 minutes and a salad, haha! Pretty boring really, I should be more organised and prepare things ahead of time so I can throw something in the oven when I get home. I usually make bulk meals, like a cheesy vegetable bake, or a lasagna, or curry, or I'll make pita bread pizzas, then cook them later and divide and freeze leftovers for dinner later in the week.
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Thanks I am gonna have to try those snack they sound delicious!
 
Originally Posted by Frosteh


Try and set a realistic calorie deficit for the day which leaves with enough energy to get through, eating food at the right times is key to make sure you have the energy you need at the right times of the day, you want to be eating just before you're rushing around to get the most of the calories.



PLBFitness made a good comment about separating your emotion from your food, you need food to be purely a source of energy and not comfort. It's good to have support but try and make sure you're not relying on your hubby for support, he may or may not be supportive but you can't let your own success rely on his behaviour, it's not necessary for other peoples help or approval for losing weight, plenty of us manage it every day. It's something you can achieve on your own irrelevant of what's going on around you, you just need to believe that and stick to your diet and routine as best you can.



Good luck :)
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Thank you....That is great advise....I am working on the emotional eating....I am getting better at not doing it....it`s a work in progress!
 
ok So I haven't had time to make a full post on here in a while...I keep reading diaries but I don't always have time to post a whole lot....so life still feels hectic most of the time but I decided that I have to do things for me as well....so tommorow night will be my 3rd week of going to Zumba classes. I still don't have all the moves down but I am really enjoying that class....anyone who loves dancing and has the chance to try that class...it's great fun, and I always leave there all sweaty! I had a talk with my husband telling him that I need his support, and I explained that I needed help around the house more so that I would have time for me.....it's still a work in progress but we are heading in the right direction...I haven't weighted myself for the last 3 weeks and I am gonna wait till after TOM....I have to increase my workouts to at least 3 hours a week for now....I am also enrolling in a home studie course in order to help me be able to apply for the job I am doing if it becomes available full time....kind of weird that I am there till at least june but if it where to become available I can't apply cause I don't have a college diploma.....so it will be hard to manage everything from fixing my credit , to working full time, taking classes and taking care of two little ones...but many women do it....I also can't forget the weight loss I only got this one body if i want it to treat me right I have to take care of it! Got to go finish the laundry so good night and be healthy.
 
Hey Verob, glad to see you're still around! It's so exciting when you find something fun to do that also happens to be exercise. I'm WAAAY too uncoordinated for Zumba (I'm a terrible dancer!) Sounds like you're doing really well!!


Good luck with studying!! I hope you find a balance with family too and your husband helps out a little more, it'd make life so much easier for you!!
 
Originally Posted by luzdafuzz


Hey Verob, glad to see you're still around! It's so exciting when you find something fun to do that also happens to be exercise. I'm WAAAY too uncoordinated for Zumba (I'm a terrible dancer!) Sounds like you're doing really well!!



Good luck with studying!! I hope you find a balance with family too and your husband helps out a little more, it'd make life so much easier for you!!
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Hey Lucy,


I am not very coordinated myself and I so out of shap it`s not funny by the second song I feel like my lungs ans legs are on fire and I just want to quit but at the same time since there are so many people from all ages taking the class I my conpetitive side just won`t let me sit down! I don`t know all the steps yiet but I will get there I think coordination can be learned ....will see in a few weeks if I still feel that way!
 
I am very exited that today is wednesday! It means ZUMBA class tonight!..Now I have to get back on track with the eating here is what my menu looks like for today


breakfast

coffee

bagel 12 grain toasted no butter

whole egg

and a slice of proscessed cheese ( I am out of the real thing :()


Lunch

a subway 6 " chicken sub (wholewheat bread, chicken breast, hot sauce, 1tbsp of cheese toped with lettuce cucumbers green pepper olives and pickles)

a sprite (trying to quit pop once again)

a cinabun bar (why did I buy these not ealthy nothing good out of those)


Diner

Boost Meal replacement (can`t Zumba on a full stomach)


late night snack

a vegi salad after zumba will find some protein to add in here


also I started taking my multi vitamines and my iron everyday so I am already seeing the difference!
 
Hello Forum Friends


I am feeling great today! Always do after Zumba...I bought myself some new runners cause my last where realy used and not comfy anymore so I can`t wait to give those a test drive next week!


food today


breakfast

coffee

yogourt,granola,strawberries parfait


Snack

coffee


lunch

thai wrap

water


diner

salad with either tuna or chicken.

water


I am gonna have to go shop for a better bra I have a hard time with the jumping not only cause I am so out of shape but the jumping arouns really hurst my rack....I will do that with the next paycheck.


take care

water
 
Hey, glad you're enjoying Zumba! After one of the groups that I teach there is a Zumba class for little kids... Zumbatomics, I think it's called. Probably one of the cutest things I've ever seen :)
 
Originally Posted by PLBFitness


Hey, glad you're enjoying Zumba! After one of the groups that I teach there is a Zumba class for little kids... Zumbatomics, I think it's called. Probably one of the cutest things I've ever seen :)
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It must be adorable!!! A few of the women bring there kids to our Zumba class, I think it's ok when they are dancing but a few just run around us when we are dancing and the mom doesn't do anything but smile, I kind of find it distracting, if they are dancing or just watching it's ok but the ones that run around annoy me but I just let it go. I will have to check if they have this around here my daughter dreams of dance clases but we don't have the 500$ it takes for her to take the clases!
 
Hello Forum friends


I have been busy in the last couple of days! I had a training on Friday the whole day so I didn't get to come online at all. I ate badly on friday the whole day I skipped breakfast drank a load of coffe and had poutine for lunch so no succes story for that day. I was feeling angry on friday, Husband and I haven't had a date night in over a year, last saturday we had ticket to the Micheal Jackson world tour and my mother in law was keeping the kids overnight, and TOM started 3 days early so I was pissed at my own body! We still had a great night the show was spectacular if you have a chance to see it I recomanded it, Le cirque du Soleil did an amazing show as usuall. I ate farely well on Saturday I had an home made egg and cheese on an english muffin, with a home made coffee, for lunch I wasn't really hungry so I had a salad (should have added protein but didn't) then at diner time we went to Montanas they have the best Veggie burger overthere

it was soooo good they top off the veggie pattie with apple wood bbq sauce and feta cheese and sauteed mushrooms pepper and oignions Y|UM!!! I didn't order desert and once we got to scotia bank place I decided to have coffee instead of a drink . That was it for for saturday even if I went to bed at 4 am i stayed away from eating!


Woke up late on Sunday so I had a bagel and coffee on the way to pick up the kids then I didn't eat till diner wich was a very spicy thai chicken soup and 2 slices of Pizza. I have to stope skipping meals cause then I over eat, I also ate some chocolat on sunday evening while watching Scream 4. So even if today is a holiday (thank giving) I decided to just eat like I would on a regularwork day.. except for the Chicken a la King wich will replace the turkey this year, waking up at 12 pm yesterday kind scraped our thankgiving diner. We had Pizza but we still said our thanks for all the good things that happen in the last year. I am finnally feeling better about life, still overwelm sometimes, there are a lot of balls up in the air and I often feel like I am the only one juggling them but the husband is comming around, and helping out! I have to get back to my studies but I will be back later today to read up on other diaries.


Food today


breakfast

egg, cheese on eglish muffin

coffee


lunch

corn on the cob

a tiny bit of butter


diner

Chicken a la King with out the pastry shell I forgot to buy them!
 
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