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LizaK1020
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OK...so awhile back I found this article that I really want to find again but can't.
It was about backhanded compliments, basically. Or at least, how people feel that your weight loss is a right to horn in on your business.
It started with an anecdote about a woman who went to a dinner party (after having lost a little weight) and her friend brashly announced to everyone "X lost 20 pounds - isn't that great?"
The article goes on to talk about how people think your weight loss is an invitation to announce something incredibly personal to everyone else.
I was trying to find it to explain to my mother why I get annoyed every time she announces my weight loss to friends, family, coworkers...people in the elevator...the doormen...the woman that begs for money outside the corner bodega...etc. She can't understand why I don't want all that attention.
Because it's a really personal achievement and I will talk about it when I want but I don't need others to do it for me. It doesn't mean I'm not proud of myself, but I feel like she makes it the center of my existence.
She glossed right over the front page article I had in my college paper last week. I'd rather talk about that.
I tried explaining myself. She didn't listen.
Anyhoo, if anyone knows what article I'm talking about and has a link to it I'd really appreciate it. Thanks in advance.
P.S. Responses saying I should shut up and let her announce because she's proud of me and I should be happy about that are incredibly unhelpful and inappropriate. So let's just not go there, thanks.
It was about backhanded compliments, basically. Or at least, how people feel that your weight loss is a right to horn in on your business.
It started with an anecdote about a woman who went to a dinner party (after having lost a little weight) and her friend brashly announced to everyone "X lost 20 pounds - isn't that great?"
The article goes on to talk about how people think your weight loss is an invitation to announce something incredibly personal to everyone else.
I was trying to find it to explain to my mother why I get annoyed every time she announces my weight loss to friends, family, coworkers...people in the elevator...the doormen...the woman that begs for money outside the corner bodega...etc. She can't understand why I don't want all that attention.
Because it's a really personal achievement and I will talk about it when I want but I don't need others to do it for me. It doesn't mean I'm not proud of myself, but I feel like she makes it the center of my existence.
She glossed right over the front page article I had in my college paper last week. I'd rather talk about that.
I tried explaining myself. She didn't listen.
Anyhoo, if anyone knows what article I'm talking about and has a link to it I'd really appreciate it. Thanks in advance.
P.S. Responses saying I should shut up and let her announce because she's proud of me and I should be happy about that are incredibly unhelpful and inappropriate. So let's just not go there, thanks.
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