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*HaveCourage&BeKind*

*HaveCourage&BeKind*

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Ok so actually not that long but about a month I have discovered this site and been creepin on diaries posted :p I have been so inspired to join in & you all seem like lovely awesome people! I can't promise I'll log each day but as often as I can! Just a run down of me .. I have been a young single mom & now have a fiancé, I work full-time & ... My God.. it's hard to tell ppl abt yourself? I struggle a bit w/ anxiety.. I have been struggling w/ my weight..fluctuating up & down for years now.. a site I found before was what I thought was a decent influence at first but no longer has been..it's more targeted toward ED's & I ended up not making good decisions and now find the site for the most part a negative factor in my life.. Just to let you know.. I am upset.. and stressed & been drinking & this all sounds off the wall if you choose to over-analyze it.. I am already picturing in my head what readers will say to what I have wrote such as "Single mom doesn't define you! & working 40 hours a week, we all do, you can still lose weight!" also "How do you find a Pro-Ana forum a decent influence?!?!"... I'm sure I am jumping the curb here but.... Idk... I am stressed tonight and upset..at a couple big things in my life... I am drinking to cope. want to lose weight..never diagnosed w/ any disorder just FYI.. perhaps just a lost 28 year old.. I have found true happiness before..when I worked out and ate healthy and was so organized and shit.. looking fwd to anything..ready to take on the world.. well that was in 2010-2012.. then I fell off track..gained..drank and smoked cigs more.. etc etc whatever.............................

I find some relatableness (apparently not a real word..) in all of you that update your diaries.. I would like to post (more soberly & less distraught??) here often.. open to advice and shit..excuse my language..thanks..ok goodnight ya'll..
 
Never mind about the over-analyzing: I only do that to myself ;) Welcome to the forum, Kind&Courageous! Being a single mom and working full-time would be my personal hell so you have my utmost respect for dealing with that any way you can.
I'm glad you recognized the other forum wouldn't be doing you any favors in the long run and wish you all the best in tackling stuff the healthy way!
LaMa
 
LaMaria said:
Never mind about the over-analyzing: I only do that to myself ;) Welcome to the forum, Kind&Courageous! Being a single mom and working full-time would be my personal hell so you have my utmost respect for dealing with that any way you can.
I'm glad you recognized the other forum wouldn't be doing you any favors in the long run and wish you all the best in tackling stuff the healthy way!
LaMa
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Lama! OMG so happy to see you reply! I have enjoyed and found inspiration thru you as well as others. Again, happy to be here.. & I will update soon again. & yes, after some time I realized short cuts don't work as well as a true journey to weight loss .. I just find trouble in not drinking alcohol now-a-days.. eating healthy and low cal (even healthy low cal intake) comes easy to me.. but not having an alocoholic beverage of any sort after work is hard for me.. but I do hope so much to overcome this. Thanks you for the reply. Means quite a bit right now.
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Sounds like you might need a hug; sending some your way right now :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug:
I´m fine with not drinking alcohol (unless people make me... :blush5: ) but I have a very similar problem with eating something sweet when I get home. Maybe you can turn it into one non-alcoholic cocktail?
 
Kids and a job? Yeah, no shit you need a martini.

Which is to say instead, that you need stress relief. The alcohol is chemical stress relief. What if your fiance gave you a massage instead? I gave up alcohol a month ago, and while I personally choose to still use marijuana, some nights just a cup of tea and a good book, or hell, staring at the wall socket will do it. It's not the alcohol per se, it's giving yourself permission to unwind, and actively enjoy it.

With conditioning, exercise can be this stress relief. For advanced users, but definitely possible. My exercise is still a chore, often, but it does destress my body.

The major benefits of 'active' relaxation like when we were kids instead of 'passive' relaxation we learned as adults are the effects on the body, yes, but you also seem to get more time. Which is more relaxation overall. A half hour with an ASMR video can feel like three hours with vodka.

Experiment. Your mileage may vary.
 
Hey sweetpea - first of all, SO glad you are no longer lurking and have joined us crazy lot with your own diary. I can relate hugely to the drinking thing - It's an ongoing struggle for me and one I am now getting help for. Is there services available in your area? I have a well-being worker and she's been very helpful. Kudos to working and having kids - I'm 27 but childless (for now..) and find it very difficult to find time/motivation for exercise.

How much do you want to lose?
 
*HaveCourage&BeKind* said:
Ok so actually not that long but about a month I have discovered this site and been creepin on diaries posted :p I have been so inspired to join in & you all seem like lovely awesome people! I can't promise I'll log each day but as often as I can! Just a run down of me .. I have been a young single mom & now have a fiancé, I work full-time & ... My God.. it's hard to tell ppl abt yourself? I struggle a bit w/ anxiety.. I have been struggling w/ my weight..fluctuating up & down for years now.. a site I found before was what I thought was a decent influence at first but no longer has been..it's more targeted toward ED's & I ended up not making good decisions and now find the site for the most part a negative factor in my life.. Just to let you know.. I am upset.. and stressed & been drinking & this all sounds off the wall if you choose to over-analyze it.. I am already picturing in my head what readers will say to what I have wrote such as "Single mom doesn't define you! & working 40 hours a week, we all do, you can still lose weight!" also "How do you find a Pro-Ana forum a decent influence?!?!"... I'm sure I am jumping the curb here but.... Idk... I am stressed tonight and upset..at a couple big things in my life... I am drinking to cope. want to lose weight..never diagnosed w/ any disorder just FYI.. perhaps just a lost 28 year old.. I have found true happiness before..when I worked out and ate healthy and was so organized and shit.. looking fwd to anything..ready to take on the world.. well that was in 2010-2012.. then I fell off track..gained..drank and smoked cigs more.. etc etc whatever.............................

I find some relatableness (apparently not a real word..) in all of you that update your diaries.. I would like to post (more soberly & less distraught??) here often.. open to advice and shit..excuse my language..thanks..ok goodnight ya'll..
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Which site were you using before? I've been LOOKING for a pro-ana site for years that's actually active. Posters there *get* me more. I used to be apart of it YEARS ago, but I haven't found a good one in awhile.
I'm sorry it was a negative experience for you, though. Some people are affected differently.
Welcome!
 
Welcome to the forum hon! I over analyze too & also enjoy a glass of wine at the end of the day. I'm glad you have joined us too. We are a friendly $ supportive bunch, but it's so busy at the moment. I'm sorry I took so long to welcome you. Cheers, Cate
 
La Dauphine said:
Which site were you using before? I've been LOOKING for a pro-ana site for years that's actually active. Posters there *get* me more. I used to be apart of it YEARS ago, but I haven't found a good one in awhile.
I'm sorry it was a negative experience for you, though. Some people are affected differently.
Welcome!
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If you are going to discuss this please do so over private message guys - we have some vulnerable folk on this forum and I wouldn't want people to come here for happy, healthy forum times and be drawn into some pro-ana stuff. As HaveCourageBeKind says, she's realised how damaging those forums can be and wants to focus on being healthy and positive now - don't want any of the young'uns thinking those forums are a good idea. xxx
 
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