Today I joined. I need help. I have very low self-confidence and am not exactly in a "happy" marriage. I am an emotional eater. I put everyone before me, although I KNOW I need to take better care of myself. I am considering lap-band surgury. I never thought I would be at this point.
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DCarr10760
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Hi Lisa,
I'm sorry to hear that you are in a hard place. But the good news is that you know what the problems are and are looking for ideas and help. It's a good start.
Lots of times depression, anxiety and a host of ills masquerades as weight gain. It is not the problem in my experience, it is a symptom of other problems. Many of the core problems (lack of self esteem, self destructive behaviors, relationship problems, etc.) need to be addressed alongside eating better and exercising for you to emerge a beautiful, fit, happy person.
Losing weight is a good place to start because you can do it yourself. Now I am not a Doctor, or a Psychologist or a fitness counsellor- but you should talk to one of each of these professionals before making any steps involving surgery.
I know how the thinking goes: "If I lost weight, I would have more self confidence and my Relationship would get better (or I'd have the strength to end it) and all my troubles will go away!
Trouble is that if you don't deal with the thought patterns that landed you where you are now, then losing weight is just rearranging the deck furniture on the Titanic.
Wishing you Peace and Success!
David
I'm sorry to hear that you are in a hard place. But the good news is that you know what the problems are and are looking for ideas and help. It's a good start.
Lots of times depression, anxiety and a host of ills masquerades as weight gain. It is not the problem in my experience, it is a symptom of other problems. Many of the core problems (lack of self esteem, self destructive behaviors, relationship problems, etc.) need to be addressed alongside eating better and exercising for you to emerge a beautiful, fit, happy person.
Losing weight is a good place to start because you can do it yourself. Now I am not a Doctor, or a Psychologist or a fitness counsellor- but you should talk to one of each of these professionals before making any steps involving surgery.
I know how the thinking goes: "If I lost weight, I would have more self confidence and my Relationship would get better (or I'd have the strength to end it) and all my troubles will go away!
Trouble is that if you don't deal with the thought patterns that landed you where you are now, then losing weight is just rearranging the deck furniture on the Titanic.
Wishing you Peace and Success!
David
Boam46
New member
Hi Lisa,
Welcome to WLF! You will find tons of support and advice here; and even make some friends.
However, the advice David gave you is great! Losing weight is a great start to dealing with your problems and may give you the confidence to start dealing with your other problems... you must also try to solve some of your other problems at the same time. I would not consider surgery as my first option. I have started very large but with very hard work over the last few months I have been shrinking. You can do it too. I would try to work on it without the surgery first.
Good Luck on your journey... i'll keep checking in
~Jenna
Welcome to WLF! You will find tons of support and advice here; and even make some friends.
However, the advice David gave you is great! Losing weight is a great start to dealing with your problems and may give you the confidence to start dealing with your other problems... you must also try to solve some of your other problems at the same time. I would not consider surgery as my first option. I have started very large but with very hard work over the last few months I have been shrinking. You can do it too. I would try to work on it without the surgery first.
Good Luck on your journey... i'll keep checking in
~Jenna