Lack of sexual desire help

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My wife is looking for some help. She has recently been through sporadic bouts of mild depression. As a result of this she has lost all sexual desire. she is considering asking the doctor for an antidepressant such as Wellbutrin but is worried about sexual side-effects. She is at her wits end and needs any advise or suggestions anyone has to offer.

Note: Before she had a tremendous sexual desire and our sex life was outstanding. I just want to help her find any type of help I can.

Thanks for any information you can provide.
 
Well,

I can tell you that alot of new anti-depressants claim to have no sexual side effect you should look into those.. Welbutrin is pretty strong? Maybe she should try a prescription that is known not to have AS dramatic side effects. I just know some people who have had some mental distress with this particular drug..i take Zoloft and I can say it works for me it took about 2.5 weeks to notice a change . My sex drive remained the same pretty much.

Alot of people who take Effexor notice a decrease in sex drive but then again some others notice an INCREASE! So its all about trial and error in the anti-depressant world...

I have been trialing and error-ing for years and finally found a niche with the Zoloft..but have been on more than several different ones in the past but not Welbutrin.
 
I also take Zoloft and have found no side effects. Good luck! :)
 
i think they do have sexual side effects, but everyone is different and will or will not experience sexual side effects. the only way to know is to discuss the concern w/the doctor and try different pills to see which one works out the best. good luck!
 
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viagra is not just a pill for old men.
My X-girlfriend was all depressed after her stupid dog died. She didnt wanna have sex for a few days so I slipped half a crushed viagra in her drink. 1hour later... BAM

note - you may be in trouble in the morning! so just slip her the other half of the pill.

once youve had sex for the first time, she will remember how good it is and want it more. its more of an ice breaker
 
[mental note] If ever in Kent, NEVER date a guy named manofkent[/mental note]

*just kidding manofkent*
Cheers!

Edit: Had to get you back for the chicken thing LOL :D
 
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Tell to go to her gyno and get her hormone levels checked. Could be one of the levels are low- estrogen or testostrone especially. Get a full blood workup done to elimate any problems there. That could answer a lot of questions including the bouts of mild depression. Then look at other sources of the problem if that shows nothing. I don't recommend going on an antidepressant just because of this problem, you should be trying to find the underlying problem first before resorting to pills that can have side effects that can be very unplesant and compound the problem with depression. Nor do I recommend popping someone a pill that could have bad consequences to the individual it is not prescribed for. You'd feel like a big ass smuk if you had to make a visit to the ER because you were looking for some nooky!! Manofkent bad boy, thats all I'm going to say to you!! Let the medical professionals deal with this problem not random people from the internet. Just my two cents. This is a common problem and can be very easy to deal with.
 
manofkent said:
sorry Jenn - It was only half a pill.

ok I'll shut up.
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If you do that again you better make suree that she doesn't take any aspirin of anything like it!! I'll say no more, just because I like respect you, you lucky guy!!:p
 
Thank you Jenn. I am going to let the doctors take acre of it, I was just trying get others experences. I already suggested her hormone levels as the first check.
 
Jenn is right, let the docs decide. I have taken zoloft and wellbrutrin. Sexually, I had no side effects. I think zoloft was better for my mental state (taking care of a parent dying from cancer). I later took wellbrutrin to stay off cigarettes and it worked for that. I know some people that gained weight from wellbrutrin, but I did not.
 
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Thank you Jenn. I am going to let the doctors take acre of it, I was just trying get others experences. I already suggested her hormone levels as the first check.
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Great suggestion, make it a strong suggestion. Low hormone levels can mimic all kinds of disorders and until she is diagnoised the problem will not get better. People tend to use depression as a blanket term and I can tell you that only a small percentage are actually clinically depressed. Low hormone levels can really screw you up. I know from my own experience and from clinical experiance in the field too. Get her into the doc before things get worse. And don't let the family doc perscribe antidepressants either, make sure that is done by a qualifeid pro. Too many family doc's prescribe those to appease their patients even if they do not think they are clinically depressed. They use it to get patients off their back so to speak, not all are like that but quite a few are! Just a word of caution. Get her in to a gyno, they will be able to help her far more than anyone else. If the gyno thinks it is due to depression he will send her to a specialist after doing the blood work and trying to resolve the issue with other methods first. Good luck to your wife, I know it can be very frustrating. Been there myself, I ended up having way lower than norm T levels and two months of therapy I was good to go. Solved a lot of problems I was having, not just lack of libido.
 
Actually a large percentage of people do have depression, and most are not diagnoised or treated. The problem is that the underlying reason for the depression is often not dealt with, besides 'talk therapy", which does help. So I agree with the idea of blood tests 100%. I also agree that she must see a psychiatrist for anti depressants, however many are pill happy and hand out perscriptions like candy. However, psychiatrists know better what they are doing than a family doctor when it comes to mental illness. A thyroid problem can also be responsible for depression and low sex drive, as well as adrenal fatigue. Ask the fam. doc. for a thyroid panel. You may also be able to solve the problem with patience and time, love, tenderness, and understanding. Best wishes.
 
Also, please be patient with her. I know it's probably very hard on you and you may feel unwanted at times, but please know that depression can have a very bad effect on sexual desire. Personally, I would get so upset with myself b/c I wanted to want to, but couldn't want to, you know? I am and always have been very attracted to my husband, and very satisfied by him as well, yet none of that mattered while suffering from clinical depression.

Just don't start thinking it's you, b/c it almost certainly is not.
 
there are many other anti depressant too available to purchase...perhaps might be better than zoloft...y don't u peeps surf through the net....
 
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