Scarlettfever
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Ok so this is a long story but.. I was pregnant with my daughter last year when the child protection services got a notice from the midwives at the hospital because I had ketones in my urine and was malnourished and in a hospital bed. I gained so much weight, like 20 kilos, because I was frightened of losing my baby. The day after birth, she was taken away from me, and the child protection services had said nothing.
I lost some of the weight while fighting for my child and to regain custody, while I was treated with medicine for bipolar disorder. A woman I know noticed and looking at a picture of my daughter and me in a meeting I was allowed to have with her she said my daughter looked good but I did not because I had lost weight and was losing more. She also said The World Health Organization says the best BMI is at least 21. I am 24 in BMI and am nervous to lose weight because of this woman, who says she is concerned about me going back to weighing less as I used to.
Has anyone else as a mother experienced an individual guarding what you weigh? Is it really necessary to be over 21 BMI and has anyone else heard this?
I am trying to be healthy and watch what I eat and have lost a little but I have been snacking and spiralled downwardly into eating more unhealthy food like sweets and ice cream and more high calorie varieties. Partly I am scared when I lose weight because I think of that woman who was telling me about what to eat (rice instead of vegetables) and how much to weigh (at least BMI of 21). I am also nervous because of the child protection services and having and keeping custody of my daughter which I have had now for 4 months. Are mothers who are over 21 BMI the healthiest mothers? Are you only a good mother if you weigh at least that? I am 154 lb and 5'7 tall.
I did not breastfeed because my child was taken from me for 4 months. I am still struggling with my self image because of what happened and being scared not to lose weight.
My daughter is 8 months old now and I still feel like I am carrying extra weight. Is it normal to feel this? Even in these circumstances?
I lost some of the weight while fighting for my child and to regain custody, while I was treated with medicine for bipolar disorder. A woman I know noticed and looking at a picture of my daughter and me in a meeting I was allowed to have with her she said my daughter looked good but I did not because I had lost weight and was losing more. She also said The World Health Organization says the best BMI is at least 21. I am 24 in BMI and am nervous to lose weight because of this woman, who says she is concerned about me going back to weighing less as I used to.
Has anyone else as a mother experienced an individual guarding what you weigh? Is it really necessary to be over 21 BMI and has anyone else heard this?
I am trying to be healthy and watch what I eat and have lost a little but I have been snacking and spiralled downwardly into eating more unhealthy food like sweets and ice cream and more high calorie varieties. Partly I am scared when I lose weight because I think of that woman who was telling me about what to eat (rice instead of vegetables) and how much to weigh (at least BMI of 21). I am also nervous because of the child protection services and having and keeping custody of my daughter which I have had now for 4 months. Are mothers who are over 21 BMI the healthiest mothers? Are you only a good mother if you weigh at least that? I am 154 lb and 5'7 tall.
I did not breastfeed because my child was taken from me for 4 months. I am still struggling with my self image because of what happened and being scared not to lose weight.
My daughter is 8 months old now and I still feel like I am carrying extra weight. Is it normal to feel this? Even in these circumstances?