Just like my mother

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Anita Birdsong

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Hi, My name is Neat33, I'm 39 years old, and at least 60 lbs overweight..

Never thought I'd have to admit that one.. I truly didn't see it coming, now it's here and not budging.. ugh!!! I went through two divorces in 7yrs, helped my current husband overcome alcoholism.. and kept getting fatter.. bad bad
hard to lose, depressing belling fat.. I always kept a slim enough waist.. and packed it on my hips and thighs.. easier to lose..

also, I'm depressed.. I've always prided myself on my individuality..now I look like my mother's clone or twin sister.. and we even look close in age.. grey hair, overweight.. and it really works on me mentally.. like I will never be able
to be anything different. I want to be me.. fashion savy, cute, social, energetic... sigh.. then I feel guilty for not wanting to look like my mother..

I love her to death.. I really do..

I think I need a shrink.. and a strong diet pill, lipo..tummy tuck!!
a fairy godmother..oh per chance to dream.. I feel so guilty .. I want to look fabulous for my new husband.. the belly fat was put on while I was helping him... soooo unfair...
 
The first thing you have to do is breathe. You have a lot going there in your mind and heart. Just give everything time and before you start anything, educate yourself. I myself am just starting out and it's so overwhelming but I love myself and I'm worth the long journey.

Good luck!
 
Thank you for your response.. I used to be educated.. and I've been starting again..
even if I can't seem to do anything w/ it right now.. I've been trying to concentrate on
eating better, moving more.. I know I need a program.. but... I also broke my ankle 3mnths ago.. still recovering.. I hate being in pain.. Life used to be so much easier when finding clothes to fit wasn't a chore.. and you weren't afraid to do anything.. see I need a shrink..lol when I was younger I had the stamina to buy tighter fitting clothes and wear them, knowing I'd work hard to shrink.. and did.. part of it is that I used to live in a warmer climate.. not being able to be outside all winter is a real downer.. so I'm getting ready to relocate in about 5 weeks.. back to warmth.. I know the transformation won't be over night.. but every little bit helps..you can't eat as heavy when it's sooo hot outside.. or wear fat covering clothing because it's tooo hot.. My goal is to tone up and lose atleast 30 of the 60 lbs by Feb.3 my 40th B-day.. now to come up with plan..lol
 
spend some time reading the stickied threads in nutrition, on topic and exercise -it will help you formulate a plan that will last the rest of your life.

But to undercomplicate it -you want to find a reasonable calorie range to work with... and move your body... :)

welcome to the site -have fun while you're here
 
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Thank you male.. I think apart of me has been afraid to lose weight..
afraid to be seen.. I used to be a so in your face person.. not rude but
out there.. My first husband didn't give a care about what I thought or needed.. feeding me to the lions.. I was molested by my uncle/ast. pastor..and the whole family turned on me later when I wouldn't take it back, and proclaim I lied.. look up black sheep.. see me waving.. I know I'm better off without them.. but, it definately worked on my mind.. I'm working on getting that back.. I deserve to be thin, fasionable..and Sexy..
I want this to be a total body and mind transformation.. in which I go so slow..I didn't realize I got there.. and therefore cannot to back..
I hate letting someone or something else have power over me.. mental or not..
I want to own my own destiny once again.. My children are a drift because I am.. My 15yr old doesn't have much more time at home..
Oh where oh where is my under dog.. I need all the feed back I can get from this site.. while I'm in search of the key I need to set myself free..

fear is an ugly thing.. anyone else fighting the good fight of faith?
 
there's a thread in the weight loss in the media section - called Fear of Thin - sounds like it's a must read for you...

Little by little -with s aseries of small changes you'll get to where you want to be..
 
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