jealouse spouses???

reach4Astar

reach4Astar

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ok so how is your significant other treating you as you loose weight???
mine thinks that if i comb my hair and put some lipstick on i must be heading out to score some where!!:confused:
At first he was supportive but the more i loose the more jealouse he gets.........any suggetions or comments..........i can't be the only one!!!:eek: any feed back would be way cool!!!!
thanx STAR
 
i wish i had advice to offer ladies - that's really a shame they do that...

those boys should realize that they are the ones who will benefit the most by you feeling better about yourselves... :D

But I think it's a natural reaction - occassioanly i've read things in other places is that one of the signs of a cheating spouse is them taking more care in their appearance... dressing better, wearing make-up, losing weight etc - I know that's not the case with you ladies -but maybe your spouses just need a reminder every so often that they are the object of your affection(boys need love too :D


Good luck - and i hope they realize that your happiness is one of the goals of your losing weight
 
maleficent said:
i wish i had advice to offer ladies - that's really a shame they do that...

those boys should realize that they are the ones who will benefit the most by you feeling better about yourselves... :D

But I think it's a natural reaction - occassioanly i've read things in other places is that one of the signs of a cheating spouse is them taking more care in their appearance... dressing better, wearing make-up, losing weight etc - I know that's not the case with you ladies -but maybe your spouses just need a reminder every so often that they are the object of your affection(boys need love too :D


Good luck - and i hope they realize that your happiness is one of the goals of your losing weight
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Thanks Mal..............ya know thoe i do tell him i love him and that he is the man for me..........
Mine doesn't like the idea at all. I'll do really great on the "diet" and then he'll come home w/ a box of doughnuts....or he'll tell the kids..hey wanna go to McD's?? and get them excited and then say, oh, but we won't go unless mom comes with us..making me look like the bad one.

Don't know what to do about it.
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oh i hear ya on this one too.......I am the bad healthy destroyer of out too eat fun!!!
MEN!!!! (ok some men.......my man!!!!! avoiding toes here)
 
I think that the only way to reassure them that you're still hot for them now that you're making yourselves hotter is to give them great big doses of lovin'. I think some surprise romantic moments will help curb their jealousy.
 
Awww. That is a really stupid problem to have. *hugs* I'm sorry you ladies have to deal with that.

My fiance is incredibly supportive and wants the best for me so he's not upset about my shaping up. He is becoming jealous though - in a good way - just recently. Like. This week! *laugh* He's seeing that I am gaining much more confidence with myself and guys are noticing that. I get more attention than I used to and he wants to be here giving it instead of others. *wink* I think this is a good problem...

Sorry I don't have any advice or help though! Keep going.

ETA: Definitely echoing what Kaitie said as well. My guy has been getting lots of adoration. *grin*
 
My bf is very supportive... he is good with helping keep temptation away as well, he wont offer me things I shouldnt, or suggest we eat out somewhere where the food is going to be bad for the weight loss. I think he will be happy when I've lost a lot -at the end of the day I'm his girlfriend, who doesn't want their gf/fiance/wife to look good? :D (The same applies to you two above -they may initially be a bit unsure about it, but I'm sure they will love the results once they feel a bit more reassured. :))
 
Oooooooooooooookay.... time for a guy to chime in!

This may be what's going through his head:

"How come she didn't put on make up/do her hair that way/change her shoes 14 times until she was happy with it when she still had the weight on? Is it me? Is it that she's liking the stares guys give her? Wait..guys are giving her stares more often now... that means *cue Tarzan jungle music* Me tarzan....you jane... you no wear makeup outside. Me bash other gorillas with stick! jane wear sweats and oversized jackets out of the house! Grunt! Snort! Chortle!

Aaaaaaand Scene!

It's an unfortunate trait for us men folk to get jealous and not think things through. We don't realize that, now that you are losing weight, that you're more comfortable in your own skin! You're confident. You're actually happy with how you look (or atleast getting there). Unfortunately, we may need some reassurance. Even if you have to tell us that you're expressing your inner Spice Girl and want to show everyone your Grrrrrrrrrrrrrl power (maybe not in those words...) But I would advise that if your man is REALLY insecure, drop subtle hints that he's the only fuel for your fire... Leave him a note (or 30), send him a text with a short note expressing your love, or simply tell him how much better you feel now that you're losing/lost the weight! We'll get the picture (if not for a little bit of remedial training!)

EDIT: One more thing! Most men, 'specially ones that aren't conscience of eating right, aren't going to understand that trying to temp you with McD's isn't really a smart idea! Give him the "look" that only women are capable of giving their spouse when they want to get a very stern point across and we SHOULD back down... OR... just cut him off! We'll get the picture one way or another! :p
my 2 cents
 
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Sorry to hear you've got problems there!

My partner and I have both been losing weight, she wants to shed another 10kg (22lb) and I'm working on twice that. It's actually making us both happy, and I found her attractive before, but now... Wow! She likes the way I look much more now I don't have a big fat belly between us :)
 
thanks for all the imput guys............some guys are jalouse some not!!!!
Who knows why???? I still love him........maybe its cuz i am getting back to the old me, and he feels threatened.................change is always difficult, any change!!!! STAR
 
Tell him that you realized that due to the lifestyle he was leading the family into, he's probably not going to be alive for as long as he thinks, so you might as well look your best for when he croaks so you can easily pick up another man. :eek: That'll get him to shape up too. :D
 
corndogggy said:
Tell him that you realized that due to the lifestyle he was leading the family into, he's probably not going to be alive for as long as he thinks, so you might as well look your best for when he croaks so you can easily pick up another man. :eek: That'll get him to shape up too. :D
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OK, corndoggy...sometimes I think you're a little blunt, but that was one of the funniest comments I've read in a while. You right, too. It needs to be made very clear that jealousy and diet sabotaging will not be tolerated under any circumstances. Humor may very well be the best way to get this across.
 
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