Does anyone feel like the people they are around are bad influences on your working out/ eating habits. I have been dating this guy for about a year and i ask him to do to the gym with me and he wont go. And all he does when hes around me is eat crappy. And none of my other friends like to work out and they all eat crappy as well. The only good thing is that my boyfriends sister is really into working out and we try to go to the gym often. Sometimes I feel like people influence me more than they should.
Influences?
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Hey just wanted to say I feel ya on that comment. My husband is overweight and he still will not join me in losing weight. Everytime I ask him he gives me some excuse about his job being to stressful or he will joke with me about it, I told him to do it for the kids if he feels he can't do it for himself. He always brings home food that I'm trying to stay away from. I usually have one cheat day a week and the day after my cheat day he ordered pizza. Of course if it's right there in front of me I can't turn it down.... It's been really hard with him not being along with me.. good luck with yours.. Tammy
Hey just wanted to say I feel ya on that comment. My husband is overweight and he still will not join me in losing weight. Everytime I ask him he gives me some excuse about his job being to stressful or he will joke with me about it, I told him to do it for the kids if he feels he can't do it for himself. He always brings home food that I'm trying to stay away from. I usually have one cheat day a week and the day after my cheat day he ordered pizza. Of course if it's right there in front of me I can't turn it down.... It's been really hard with him not being along with me.. good luck with yours.. Tammy
I can relate for sure. I live in a dorm room setting with 3 other guys. I'm a bit older, and they are fresh out of highschool. They eat junk ALL the time. This will be harder than it needs to be for me to loose weight, but I'm up for the challenge.
The biggest problem for me will be the binge drinking on the weekends. I like to drink, lots. I need to cut it down to just a couple, if any. Fun Fun.
The biggest problem for me will be the binge drinking on the weekends. I like to drink, lots. I need to cut it down to just a couple, if any. Fun Fun.
4everSome1Else
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hey Heathb4,
I know what you mean as well. My family, mostly my mother and brother don't eat healthy food, nor exercise. I have spoken to them about it but, all I got was -if your on a diet alright, but don't put us in the same situation. I'm fine with what I eat. I wont stop- somewhere along those lines. My partner isn't a healthy guy at all. He loves fast foods but is a small guy (where does it go all go hehe)
I have been doing this slowly, I get complaints here and there on how I talk about weight loss 24/7 but I keep going.
I see my mother and brother and that makes me want to push even more now.
I know what you mean as well. My family, mostly my mother and brother don't eat healthy food, nor exercise. I have spoken to them about it but, all I got was -if your on a diet alright, but don't put us in the same situation. I'm fine with what I eat. I wont stop- somewhere along those lines. My partner isn't a healthy guy at all. He loves fast foods but is a small guy (where does it go all go hehe)
I have been doing this slowly, I get complaints here and there on how I talk about weight loss 24/7 but I keep going.
I see my mother and brother and that makes me want to push even more now.
ttnichols
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Let me tell ya I hear what you are saying. I have a group of friends that eat what they want and drink what they want. I cannot do that. In fact I have not been around for the simple fact that I can't eat and drink like that and my husband and I have set aside Sundays for a walk/hike something outside exercising spending time together. I have one friend who will not gain weight no matter what she puts in her mouth. It is hard also because I don't think she has a good relationship with her husband so I am not sure that she understands me and Shannon(my husband) wanting to spend that time together.
So I really feel ya I totally understand. I feel like the outsider now.
But keep strong and do what you know you have to do.
Tina
So I really feel ya I totally understand. I feel like the outsider now.
But keep strong and do what you know you have to do.
Tina
Desperate2BThin
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I think most people probably have someone in their lives who isn't the greatest of influences when trying to lose weight. I weighed 132 lbs when I met my husband. I was going to the gym 5x a week, and eating very well at the time. I had lost about 70 lbs prior. He wasn't really into working out and he ate like a fiend. He wasn't overweight at that time, however. As time went on, though, what exercise he did get became nonexistant, and he was diagnosed with hyperthyroidism (which I believe is part of the reason his weight stayed low despite his voracious appetite). Once he started getting treatment for that, he slowly put on weight, and I began to put on weight as well being that I started to eat more like him, and stopped going to the gym since he wouldn't come with me. Now we are both close to 100 lbs overweight 
He's finally willing to try and do something about it, though. We joined a gym last night 
I just wish that I had focused on myself at the time, and not allowed his actions to derail all my efforts.
He's finally willing to try and do something about it, though. We joined a gym last night I just wish that I had focused on myself at the time, and not allowed his actions to derail all my efforts.I am kind of in the same boat as others, bf eats horrible around me all the time. He is starting to be more encouraging for me to be healthier but isn't willing to do anything for himself. Some days its frustrating, like eating an icecream in front of a kid and telling the kid they can't have any lol Its not really *that* bad but somedays when he is eating bad and I ask for a bite (not wanting to digress and eat a large portion of the same thing) he will remind me that I am on a diet and eating better. Um hello? Screw you! lol I guess in his own way that is him being supportative but then I get overly sensitive about it. 
yarmiah
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This is a struggle I'm sure MANY folks trying to lose weight have to deal with. Seems the people they are surrounded by are thin, and happy and can eat whatever they want and not think about it, or people who generally don't care what and how much they eat, regardless of what shape they are in.
Ever since I have been working in earnest in this weight loss journey, I can't help but notice how unhealthy my husband eats. No breakfast, safe coffee or Coke Zero. No idea what he eats at work . . he usually has nothing or fast food. Then he comes home and he goes no more than 30 min without putting something in his mouth. He eats a snack (like 2 poptarts) when he gets home, then has a huge manly portion of dinner, then snacks on chips or other carb. While in front of the computer he will down 1/2 bag of rice cakes after that.
I try to encourage him to change his habits . . that all because they are rice cakes, that dosnt mean you can eat the whole bag. I worry not only for his health (his dad is diabetic), but what influence he has on our kids. They have me, who at this point is focused on portions and exercising . . and him at the other extreme. I jsut don't know what more I can do . . I for one know, that the change/decision to get healthy comes from within.
Wow I really highjacked this thread . . sorry!
Ever since I have been working in earnest in this weight loss journey, I can't help but notice how unhealthy my husband eats. No breakfast, safe coffee or Coke Zero. No idea what he eats at work . . he usually has nothing or fast food. Then he comes home and he goes no more than 30 min without putting something in his mouth. He eats a snack (like 2 poptarts) when he gets home, then has a huge manly portion of dinner, then snacks on chips or other carb. While in front of the computer he will down 1/2 bag of rice cakes after that.
I try to encourage him to change his habits . . that all because they are rice cakes, that dosnt mean you can eat the whole bag. I worry not only for his health (his dad is diabetic), but what influence he has on our kids. They have me, who at this point is focused on portions and exercising . . and him at the other extreme. I jsut don't know what more I can do . . I for one know, that the change/decision to get healthy comes from within.
Wow I really highjacked this thread . . sorry!
LandonsBaby
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My family is really great about it. My husband does eat junk but I don't think he should suffer just because I let myself get fat. He's really cut back and I don't buy junk for him. If he gets something like ice cream, he puts it up where I don't have to see it and be tempted. Many people in our family have recently lost weight or are in the process, so they completely understand. They never push food on me or try to get me to eat something I shouldn't. I spend most of my time around people who are mindful of what they eat.