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[krazekunde]

I surprised myself and joined a forum. I never do that, but this one seemed encouraging and I need all the encouragement I can get. I have been on an uphill climb with my weight for a very long time. I have 3 kids, 18, 14, and 10. I have been married for 15 years and my husband and I both have gained the same amount of weight during the marriage. We have dieted and worked out together over the years, but nothing major. I thought we were ok, but on Easter Sunday he walked out on us saying that I was too fat for him and he just couldn't deal with it anymore. I am dealing with that, but it did kick start me into getting serious about weight loss. I think I want to lose the weight he thinks I should lose so I can then say "sorry, it's too late". I don't have any photos of me right now, but i will post some when i lose a little more. My two girls are great. They go to the gym and work out with me (they incredible athletes). So wish me luck on my journey.

 

[Shep031]

congrats on losing 25 lbs already on your journey! i'm sure you'll do great on the rest of it

do this for yourself!! not for some guy (or in this case, your husband), who randomly decided to be unsupportive. ughh, that angers me.

 

[gottalose20]

I'm sorry you're going through such a rough time. I've seen some people make incredible transformations after a separation by channelling the negative energy into exercise and healthy changes - which it sounds like you're doing already.

You can do it.

 

[Derrick]

Hi and welcome to the message board. I really am saddened and angered to hear about your husband walking out on you, especially on Easter Sunday. That's the day that Christians are supposed to celebrate and recognize the most selfless act ever and instead he does one of the most selfish things someone can do. I can only hope and pray that your husband realizes what he has done and ask for your forgiveness.

As for the desire to lose weight, I agree that you should do it for yourself, not for revenge. You deserve to live a happy and healthy life. When we get to the point of obesity we forget what it even feels like to be at a normal weight let alone to be fit. You have a big challenge ahead of you but you certainly can achieve your goal and so much more in the process. You are just beginning but don't lose sight of where you want to be someday. Slowly but surely you can get there. Good luck to you and if things get really tough, don't forget to pray at night. Puts me to sleep every time.