I want to be happy again.

FitGirl20

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I am a morbidly obese 20 year old who is depressed and unhappy. I want to be active and socialize without worrying about my weight. My goal short term goal is to lose weight, my long term goal is to get a life and become happy. I believe this forum can help me with both.
 
Long term goal is to be happy?
Remember, happiness is not a destination, its a way of life.
Losing weight will not change your happiness about yourself or who you are as a person.
You need to love yourself and be confident in who you are as a person, then losing the weight will be much easier because you'll be more motivated by happy thoughts.
 
Hi, your long term goal is to be happy? Remember, positive thinking always gives happiness .Don’t get depressed of your weight, you are only 20 now, also you can control it, just be aware of your weight, you must do more exercise, swimming, cycling, walking and you should take 2 or 3 short meal and 2 breakfast. Breakfast also support in losing your weight on regular basis.
 
Stop worrying about your weight... Do not allow your weight to define you in this way... As the others have said - be happy. There is nothing to stop you from being happy now. I've news for you - big girls can be happy, attractive and for that matter - loved and sexy...

I can fully understand you wanting to lose weight... I chose to lose weight myself - it is healthy to do so and there are all sorts of sports and activities that I can do now that I have a healthy weight.

You will find information all over the forum on eating healthily and becoming more active (walking for instance is a brilliant form of exercise and if you are big it doesnt have to be fast to be of benefit)... The forum helped me to literally half my weight a few years ago about the time that I joined...

My big BMI was 52... My husband however is still cuddly (current BMI about 48 - down from 62) and he is gorgeous - so as I say - big people certainly can be loved and very attractive... enjoy life now... don't sit on the sidelines waiting for your weight to come down to a magic number...
 
Being depressed and unhappy is not the best state of mind in which to lose weight or make any kind of changes to your life - because the decisions you make in that state won't last. Being angry helps in my mind and can be powerful in bringing change. I was unhappy with my weight but it wasn't until I got angry with myself that I started to change my relationship with food and my lifestyle.

From the very next day I weighed myself every single day and used each gram lost as cause to celebrate and be happy not just with the loss but with the journey to become a fitter and healthier person.

In the past 9 weeks I have lost 35 Lbs, my blood pressure is under control and this week alone I have run 16 miles - 9 weeks ago I got out of breathe climbing the stairs.

My advice for next steps would be - stop being upset, take a look at yourself in the mirror (naked preferably) and realise that within just a few days your body will start to change if you just follow 2 simple rules - eat less and move more.

Good luck and be happy. It's amazing what you'll achieve being happy.
 
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