I think I need somebody to kick my ass...

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Superstar922

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Maybe thats the only way I'll stick to this diet.

I fell off the bandwagon AGAIN today for the um-teenth time, and honestly I don't know if I can get back on it. I've tried to reach out to others as an added incentive and for more motivation--like my suite mate who chooses not to be so open about her weight-loss efforts (to be honest I think she quit trying), and on top of that we have totally conflicting schedules and dont see each other very often as to be of any help to one another; and I've emailed my school's dietian last friday briefly describing to her my situation and seeking help, but she hasn't contacted me back yet.

Ugh!! What to do, what to do....


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Superstar922 said:
I fell off the bandwagon AGAIN today for the um-teenth time
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Hi,

I have been there and done that, but I just kept on plodding on until I found a way that worked for me. And even then after it works and things start to happen you need to keep an eye on your weight loss to ensure you stay on course.

Maybe a sit down might be in order. What truly motivates you "pleasure" or "pain". Tap into Anthony Robbins sometime if you can.

My suggestion, think about something that really got you excited and passionate in the past and apply that type of mindset to your weight loss.

Enjoy the rest of your week.


Aaron Riddell
 
In the end it comes down to you. You need to answer to yourself and no one else. In the real world there are no "Gillian Michaels" (or whatever that horrible persons name is) standing behind you to make you move on. When you want it bad enough it will happen. Will there be hard times? Yes.
But are you really gonna lose more weight because your suite mate is standing behind you going "You go girlfriend" or whatever it is the young people are saying these days...
 
Really, what it all comes down to is why do you want to lose weight and what matters more to you?

Maybe you want to look better or feel better or be able to get cuter clothes. Maybe you have something like a trip or a wedding you want to lose weight for. What is it? What's the reason? If you don't have a reason (one that movtivates you) then it will be so much harder to succeed.

If that's not enough, maybe you have something you've always wanted to do (take a trip, get your hair done some speacial way, take lessons of some kind, spa trip, whatever interests you). Promise yourself that you will do it once you've lost the weight. This may or may not work for you, but I know it really kicked me into gear and it's something I can think of when I don't feel like exercising. "Hmm, would I rather not exercise now or not take scuba lessons this fall?"

Then it comes down to what you want more. Would you rather lose the weight (feel better, cuter clothes, etc) or eat that junk food? If your answer is the junk food, well... it's going to be much harder for you. It took me years, but I finally got to the point where I wanted to lose the weight more. Personally, I think I never could have done this until I got to that point.

Also, don't depend on someone else to make you do it, like the friend you mentioned. If you tie your success to someone else's, you'll feel like you can quit if they do. This is between you and you. That's it. If you cheat, if you quit, you are only hurting yourself.

Lastly, losing weight isn't one huge thing, it's a million small ones. A dozen times a day you are faced with decisions about food or exercise. The key is to make as many of the right decisions as possible. Take it one moment at a time. Don't think about "no junk food for 6 months!" Think about "an apple for snack today". One meal at a time, one exercise session at a time. And if you make a mistake, don't dwell on it. That was one tiny wrong decision, now make some good ones.
 
I hate dieting - 'diet' is 'die' with a 't'!

The feeling of deprivation sucks. And feeling 'hungry' (whether it's real or imagined) is a miserable way to live.

So, I invented a way that works for me...

- no counting calories!
- no control on the volume I can eat!
- simple rules!

And the rules are:

- Only eat wholegrains (pasta, rice, bread)
- Never eat sugar (that removes almost everything rubbish)
- Eat fresh fruit, vegetables, meats, seafoods, dairy, nuts (no pre packaged foods which removes junk foods)
- exercise daily (keep moving)

Over the years I have learned to make healthy burgers, a form of pizza, wholegrain scones, etc.

Weight peeled off me over a period of 3 years and I am now slim, toned and total strangers tell me what a great figure I have. My weight is stable - it only fluctuates slightly between winter & summer.

When I get tired I struggle with sugar cravings. Really bad! But I stick to my rules and, if I give in, it's a whole grain bread roll with a little honey.

I have also got a little kinder to myself so I allow myself a bit of jam, honey, some white bread (I don't like bread much anyway) and salted nuts (because I also get salt cravings but I put that down to heavy sweating in the gym).

I never weigh myself. I won't let scales rule my day like that. I never count calories. I won't let calories rule. I eat when I am hungry and until I am full. Some days I eat more than others. I flatly refuse to be hungry!

I rely on the diet and exercise programme to do the work. And it has.

And I also gave up being mean to myself. I decided whatever popped out the other end of the healthy diet and exercise programme was good enough and I would be happy with that. I'm sick of being told by the media and fashion industry what I should be. I don't know these people, they don't seem too bright and I won't be ruled by a bunch of clowns I don't know and don't care about!

It took me years to find a way that worked for me. Hope it can help you too.

Good luck!
 
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