I Need Help: Too Many Diets

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suzeemart

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Hello,
I really could use some help and support. I am a 41 year old mother of three who is a borerline diabetic. I am at my highest weight ever and have been overweight my entire life. I recently graduated from college and during the last semester, I gained 25 pounds which put me 113 pounds overweight. I don't want to look like a super model, I just want to be healthy and feel better. My knees, and feet hurt. I don't have the luxury of buying seperate food for myself, although I do what I can. I do have a treadmill and use it about 3 days a week, but I am getting bored. I thought that I could do this by myself but with all of the different diets and programs out there, my head is spinning. I don't want to diet, I want to find a routine that will help me lose weight and that I can stick with for the rest of my life. I am 5'0 tall and weigh 234 pounds and I am miserable. I love that this website has a journal to keep track of what I eat and that I can get support from people just like me, I feel a little more motivated now.
 
Hello Suzeemart,

WoW Congrats on Graduation!! You must be very proud of yourself!
I am sorry to hear that you're not feeling very well, but "this too shall pass", sounds like you're giving it your best already!! The first step is always the hardest, and you've done it!

I hope this site gives you the support that is needed for you, keep up the great work!
 
Well done on graduating!

A couple of things...you shouldn't be buying seperate food for yourself because life's not like that. It won't do anyone in your house harm to all eat as healthily as possible, so what you eat...they eat.

Exercise has only recently become another thing we're trying to fit into our lives...like we're not flat out already. Instead of adding something else...try doing your day-to-day things with more energy, for example speed clean...fast as you can, housework in ten minutes.

Park at the edge of the carpark...and walk. You won't actually waste time, you'll just replace driving around in circles close to the door with some extra fast incidental moving, and you'll get into the shops just as fast.

I used walking when the kids were small, more to save my sanity than as a weight loss focus. I have never believed in having different meals, I want the kids healthy too, so I use this as motivation too. I need to teach the kids what is healthy and what is not.

Try one thing at a time. It's hard to maintain changes in food, increasing your 'moving' and controlling portions all at once. Pick one thing. It may be just that next time you shop you leave half of the processed snacks you usually buy at the store, buy half as fresh fruit, but then don't limit how much fruit you eat. When you start coming off dense energy foods onto fruits you often need to eat lots to get used to it, and for your body to get used to the new foods. If you need 5 pieces of fruit to start with, eat five. Then you can adjust portions.

Take it slow, don't apply too much pressure, and at the end of each day make a conscious decision to say - well today I ate this instead of that, which is better than yesterday, and focus on what good changes you've made.

Taking pride in the good you've done, rather than telling yourself that you did so much wrong will boost your self esteem and keep you going.
 
All diets revolve around a few core constituents which must be in place if it's going to work. Instead of worrying about weeding through 101 diets, it's best to learn said constituents so you can confidently navigate your way toward your goals.

You're right. The diet mentality is flat out pointless. This has to be a way of life since our weight and health is a product of our actions. If our actions are temporary until we reach a specific weight or size, the results will, too, be temporary.

The stickies on this forum are great for learning about the principles I speak about.

In general though it comes down to figuring out your caloric needs, eating less than this amount, comprising these calories with a) food you enjoy and b) adequate nutrition (for example, adequate protein), and finding ways to expend energy which is discussed in the post above mine.

If after reading the stickies you have specific questions, we'd love to help where we can.

Best to you.
 
Thanks to all of you. I love all of the ideas. Your right, I do need to take it slow and not expect quick results. I do love to dance, especially when I am doing housework, and with three kids, two of which being teenagers, I have plenty of housework. I will incorporate housework into my exercise routine. I think that part of my problem is that when I start something, I go into full steam ahead and when I don't see the results quick enough, I become depressed and quit. I know that now is the time to lose this weight so that I can be a healthier me. Thank you for the ideas and I will take the time to read the stickys.
 
Yea, just remember that you didn't gain the weight in a day, and you won't lose it in a day. But if you stick with it, you will see those results you're looking for- best of luck to you!
 
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