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O2BESKINNY

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Hi! I am very new to all of this, but I am very determined to do this. I have been searching the internet for a couple of months just looking at all the before and after photos of everyone who's lost weight. And I'm finally sick and tired of "wishing" I can look like them. I want to do it. A big reason is for my family but mostly for me. I hate going to the pool and my kids love it. My excuse is I'm too embarassed to get into a bathing suit and the other is I don't want to sit by the pool in pants and a t-shirt. And I know it's not fair to them. That's why I have to do this, for them and me. I have always been big. The fat sister, the fat friend, the fat wife, the fat mom. If it sounds like I'm down, it's because I am. This whole weight thing is just getting the best of me and dragging me down (literally too). I hate shopping for clothes it depresses me. My weight is dictating everything I do anymore. Before I thought I don't care this is how I was suppose to be. NO IT'S NOT! I did this to myself and now I have to fix it. My problem is I'm the type of person if I don't see results like right now I give up. I know that this is going to take some time. I just need a lot of support. I can't afford to sign up at a big gym or hire a personal trainer or get meals delivered to my home. So it's going to have to be 100% pure will power. My current weight is 180 and I'm only 5'1". The biggest was 201, so I have done something right. My goal is to reach 135. It may sound like a big amount to take on but I want to be in a healthy range for my height. I do want to post some pics. This way if they are out there for everyone to look at maybe it will keep me focused. If any one has anything to share that will help, I will be more than glad to listen. Thanks Becky
 
O2BESKINNY said:
Hi! I am very new to all of this, but I am very determined to do this. I have been searching the internet for a couple of months just looking at all the before and after photos of everyone who's lost weight. And I'm finally sick and tired of "wishing" I can look like them. I want to do it. A big reason is for my family but mostly for me. I hate going to the pool and my kids love it. My excuse is I'm too embarassed to get into a bathing suit and the other is I don't want to sit by the pool in pants and a t-shirt. And I know it's not fair to them. That's why I have to do this, for them and me. I have always been big. The fat sister, the fat friend, the fat wife, the fat mom. If it sounds like I'm down, it's because I am. This whole weight thing is just getting the best of me and dragging me down (literally too). I hate shopping for clothes it depresses me. My weight is dictating everything I do anymore. Before I thought I don't care this is how I was suppose to be. NO IT'S NOT! I did this to myself and now I have to fix it. My problem is I'm the type of person if I don't see results like right now I give up. I know that this is going to take some time. I just need a lot of support. I can't afford to sign up at a big gym or hire a personal trainer or get meals delivered to my home. So it's going to have to be 100% pure will power. My current weight is 180 and I'm only 5'1". The biggest was 201, so I have done something right. My goal is to reach 135. It may sound like a big amount to take on but I want to be in a healthy range for my height. I do want to post some pics. This way if they are out there for everyone to look at maybe it will keep me focused. If any one has anything to share that will help, I will be more than glad to listen. Thanks Becky
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For starters, the only difference between you and the people in those B&A pics is action. Anyone can do this. It's just a matter of committing yourself to a life of action.

I'd also recommend focusing on shifting your focus. Perception plays a large role in what we chose to do and not to do. What we stick with and what we quit. Start by focusing not on what you don't want. Rather, focus on what you want. Instead of focusing on why you hate being large, focus on why you want to be thin. Find the pleasure instead of the pain.

You can certainly do this. This is a great community with a lot to offer. You say you've lose a nice chunk of weight already. Are you still doing what you were?

Best to you and I hope to hear from you.
 
Welcome Becky!!!
I just started on my journey last week and I am already seeing a difference by the scale. Best advice I can give you is to let people know what your up to so they can help to hold you accountable. Get your kids involved. They will be your biggest cheerleaders!!
Also get moving and watch your calorie intact. Don't restrict yourself to much or you will find it hard to change. Just keep thinking "smaller portions".
You CAN do this.
Good luck!!!
Bellaryna
 
Welcome Becky. I see you have children. How many do you have? I know my son loves pool time but like you I don't really feel comfortable around others in a bathing suit just yet. I hope you find the support you need from this forum. Its great. I started here in the middle of july and have already lost 11lbs in just shy of a month. Partly because of the support but also because I have been getting the support I need to motivate me to move more. I say involve your kids. i know my son loves the outdoors so I take him out for walks or I walk while he rides his tricycle (he's only 3) so we both get some exercise while he also has some fun. Also i recommend starting a diary on here to post your thoughts, feelings and your food intake to see where you can possibly work on things. Also i recommend using a place like fitday.com where you can input your food intake and it will tell you your calories and stuff on there. Good Luck in reaching your goals. Take baby steps and you will reach your gal.
 
Hey sweety, Cheer up! You may be the fat mum, wife, friend ect but that is only a tempoary housing until the new sexy wife, mum and friend is revealed, You have the right determination, just stay focused and if you do slip, dont worry, tommorows another day, this can be done! We are both aiming for the same goal weight so along with everyone else here, we'll do it together.


Ps - Im nik, nice to meet cha :)
 
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Sounds like your ready and in the RIGHT FRAME of mind to do something! THATS POSITIVE SUPER AND WONDERFUL. Yes you want to set an example for your children unless you want them maybe living overweight too. WAIT TIL U START LOSING YOU WILL BE ABLE TO MOVE EASIER AND FEEL MUCH BETTER. CONGRATS! Kathy
 
Welcome Becky. I see you have children. How many do you have? I know my son loves pool time but like you I don't really feel comfortable around others in a bathing suit just yet. I hope you find the support you need from this forum. Its great. I started here in the middle of july and have already lost 11lbs in just shy of a month. Partly because of the support but also because I have been getting the support I need to motivate me to move more. I say involve your kids. i know my son loves the outdoors so I take him out for walks or I walk while he rides his tricycle (he's only 3) so we both get some exercise while he also has some fun. Also i recommend starting a diary on here to post your thoughts, feelings and your food intake to see where you can possibly work on things. Also i recommend using a place like fitday.com where you can input your food intake and it will tell you your calories and stuff on there. Good Luck in reaching your goals. Take baby steps and you will reach your gal.
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We have 4 children. It's a his, mine, and ours thing. You know before I would never do anything. I hated going outside. I'd say it was too hot, then it would be too cold. Some thing about me and exercise just didn't mix. Until one day some thing just clicked in my head. Maybe if you start being more active you wouldn't be this big and would have more energy. Because I stay tired all the time. I do want to set good examples for my kids. I have one already that is a couch potatoe, and it's hard to get him away from the tv and video games. And he doesn't care about how he looks, but I want him to be healthy. Anyways, baby steps! Thanks Becky
 
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