I have extreme low self-esteem

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mandae

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Having low self-esteem is partly because of my weight.. i have never been this heavy, but now that i am (weight gain due to emotional eating and gaming), i now just want to be left alone and when friends ask me go out, i would just come out with excuses not to go because i am afraid to go out with this body.

It has been years since i stopped gaining, but the habit stays. I eat when i'm bored, even when i am extremely full, not hungry and even not craving anything. It is because food is always around me. I have tried telling my family not to buy junk foods but they do not listen.. my family made fun of me and say that i can never lose weight.. sigh.. and i thought telling my family members would help me. Friends would tempt me with food too.. It's like no one wants me to get healthy!

I also have acne problems on my face and body. Any one knows how to get rid of them? Esp body! I also face itchyness on my back and neck ALOT. Speaking of neck, i have a really fat neck so it makes me look alot more horrid. *right now as i am typing this i am scratching my neck!*

My teeth are also in terrible condition.. there are gaps forming around my teeth and the most obvious one is in the font two teeth!

Ok i know i should not be talking abt all these but i really need to let it out. I cried about all these flaws alot and i dont share them with anyone.. they would prob. just discourage me like how they did when i told them i want to lose weight. I need help and motivation! Sorry if its abit off topic..
 
well how big are you exactly??? you cant be any bigger than i use to be or even bigger than i am now, dude i know how it is with the family and friends because your personality is now eating....right? so when they dont see you eating its like your not the same person or they think your not happy cuz you relate happiness with food so when they see no food around you they think somethings wrong and wanna see you happy./........same thing with my friends i was the jolly fat guy every one loved to hang out with (something about fat people they become funny cuz they have no other options lol) and when i would try to diet and we would go out to resturaunts and get a salad they could tell i wanted something else and they would encourage me to get what i wanted......so i understand most of your stuff gimme some feed back though brother.....how old are you and how big are you
 
are you kidding me....check this out kiddo you CAN NOT worry about people....i bet anything they are just as ugly by the way you just described yourself i thought you were some nasty fat white guy or something chick your at a good weight i mean i can understand you wanting to be thinner but i surely would not let people dictate the way you feel............you be you and rock it out and screw other people the only reason people say things honestly is because of the in-securities they have of them selves
 
Self esteem is a hard thing. But, going out with your friends will make you feel better no matter how much you'd rather stay home. I have struggled with weight problems and self esteem issues all my life.

In fact, I am a hypocrite and a social worker by profession, so here is what I tell my clients to do: utilize your social circle. Your friends and family might be brutally honest at times, but they will also be there when you need them. Isolating with only make you feel worse.

My current problem is that I lost weight, then gained some back, but in effort to help myself I donated all my "fat" clothes to goodwill so now don't want to go out because I don't look quite right in my now tight "thin clothes." Not so luckily for me my fiance dosent let me get away with the I have nothing to wear excuse and I have to go out, but I do feel better then just allowing myself to sit at home.

You're 17 going on 18... most people do struggle with self esteem issues at that point. You are probably just too hard on yourself.
 
mandae said:
Having low self-esteem is partly because of my weight.. i have never been this heavy, but now that i am (weight gain due to emotional eating and gaming), i now just want to be left alone and when friends ask me go out, i would just come out with excuses not to go because i am afraid to go out with this body.

It has been years since i stopped gaining, but the habit stays. I eat when i'm bored, even when i am extremely full, not hungry and even not craving anything. It is because food is always around me. I have tried telling my family not to buy junk foods but they do not listen.. my family made fun of me and say that i can never lose weight.. sigh.. and i thought telling my family members would help me. Friends would tempt me with food too.. It's like no one wants me to get healthy!

I also have acne problems on my face and body. Any one knows how to get rid of them? Esp body! I also face itchyness on my back and neck ALOT. Speaking of neck, i have a really fat neck so it makes me look alot more horrid. *right now as i am typing this i am scratching my neck!*

My teeth are also in terrible condition.. there are gaps forming around my teeth and the most obvious one is in the font two teeth!

Ok i know i should not be talking abt all these but i really need to let it out. I cried about all these flaws alot and i dont share them with anyone.. they would prob. just discourage me like how they did when i told them i want to lose weight. I need help and motivation! Sorry if its abit off topic..
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According to what you said in your introduction thread, you are 5' tall and weigh 115 lbs. I don't want to come off as being a prick, but...

You're not even close to being heavy, so I don't know what you're worrying about.

Also, you're young. Every single 17-18 year old feels insecure. It's part of being a teenager. As far as the acne and teeth are concerned, I would go to a dermatologist and see a dentist. Nobody here is going to be able to tell you how to fix that stuff.

Unfortunately, there is nothing that anybody can do for you in order to fix your problem with your self-esteem. That's something that you'll have to fix on your own. It's easier said than done, but you just have to come to your own realization that there's nothing wrong with you.
 
Thx guys.. but like i said in my country and culture being my weight at this height is kinda just calling for insults. But i'm better now :) I've been looking at videos on nutrition and stuff!
 
asians = uber skinny... i get it

hey girl! im asian as well and im 5' 5" somwhere around 128lbs with some fluctuation and i TOTALLY get what you are saying about asian culture and being just uber skinny, especially for girls. my mom is the typical asian girl, short (almost 5'2") and weighing near nothing.

im trying to lose 5lbs and its been really hard because the rest of my family just eats whatever they want and its super tempting for me. PM me anytime if you need support because i def undersatnd your frustration. :) good luck
 
I think the first thing that you have to do is make up your mind that you like yourself. Concentrate on the positives...it's not all about looks. Then decide that you are going to make changes and stick with it. One thing that helps me is I keep a journal in word document and every day I write down what happened that day, my thoughts and how I feel. That has helped me quite a bit. Good luck on your journey! You've come to a great place for support. :grouphug:
 
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