I feel ashamed and embarrassed

[mom24monsters]

I know this must be a really hard situation for you. Have you told your family how you feel? You are trying to better yourself and they should be helping you and supporting you THAT it was family is for!

I am the same way though, It's embarrassing to work out in front of other people! If at all possible can you workout in your room or even going for walks so that you are away form them and can focus on your self? I have my stair master in my room so no one can see me and when I do aerobics I make sure all the curtains are closed and doors are locked. . lol

I also believe that once you start working out and getting exercise in your stress level would possibly go down. If you could get a kick bag and just take out all your frustrations out you would start to feel better and start to lose weight, I would think anyway.

I have to add in too that if your not happy with your self within then after you lose weight do you really think your going to be happy? I honestly believe that we can lose weight and look great but if we don't deal with the problems with in something will always arise and make us feel like dirt again, like gaining back the weight. While you are trying to get fit you should really consider talking to someone out side the home to help you get through the real problems.

I wish you the best of luck!
Don't give up on yourself!!!
YOU CAN DO THIS!!!

 

[Shep031]

At almost 160 lbs, I dreaded just the THOUGHT of going to the gym. I was embarassed of the weight I had gained and feared that people that were in shape were going to make rude comments, so I just didn't go.

After being away at college, I came home and the first person I saw was my best friend, who is the most blunt, straight forward person I know. She immediatley said, "we're going to the gym and I'm going to kick your ass into shape." Since the gym near my house is the least busiest mid-morning, we went then, and sure enough, she whipped me into shape.

At first, I wouldn't go to the gym by myself, ever! But it came down to the fact that I had been working out for 2 months and had lost 20 lbs, and my best friend was going on vacation for 10 days--I couldn't let all our hard work go to waste. So I had to suck it up, go, put on the headphones, and tune everyone out. And it worked! I still do that...I get a better workout when I'm alone.

Even though I feel a lot better about myself, I realized today that people are going to judge me no matter what. [I normally have my headphones blasting so I can't hear anyone, but today I talked to the receptionist before I went into the free weight room, so my music was paused. I grabbed the 15 lb weights and stood in front of the mirror, near a bench, to begin my workout, when two other guys came into the room. They obviously wanted to use the bench I was using because the one said to the other, "we could've been done, if fatass wasn't over there hogging the bench." I had forgotten to turn my music back on...you better believe I used that bench for a lot longer than I needed to.]

It shouldn't matter what others think...that guy might think I'm fat, but hey, at least I'm at the gym doing something about it!

 

[ChefChiTown]

I want to lose weight,
but im ashamed and embarrassed by my weight because of the way my brothers and sisters look at me when they know im exercising, like im confirming that im fat to them.
I feel a little embarrassed when i exercise because Im afraid of what my family will think.



I dont know what to do, my life is out of control, i hate it, i really do.

Who cares what your brothers and sisters think of you, especially while you're working out? I don't know what they see when they look at you, but if I saw you working out, I'd see a person who was trying to lose weight, get into shape and better themselves by getting healthier.

I know a lot of people who are self-conscious while working out, but there is absolutely nothing to be ashamed or embarassed about. Look at it this way...you might not be in the most "perfect" shape at the moment, but give it a few months and then your brothers and sisters are going to be jealous. Then who's laughing?