I am lost and I want to change my life

[ddodya]

Hi beautiful people, first of all, please excuse my mistakes in english if there will be any.

I've never done this before, never posted anything on internet about my problems and never felt the need to be helped. I am 20 in several months , 1,65 m and i have around 74 kgs. I am so lost , I have no idea how i got to this number.. I've never been so heavy before. I slightly have this weight-loss problems since I know myself even if i was slimmer than now and still not thankful. I tried diets, I tried gym, I did this so many times before. I know "the rules" to lose weight let's say, I know how this works.. but my ambition is horrible. I just give up suddenly and gain more than ever every single time.. I just lose control and not care about it. I am a student, I don't have time for gym at this point.. also it is hard for me to cook food for myself as I don't have a kitchen to myself (this will change this autumn tho).

I plan on tracking on an agenda everything I eat.. but I am so over it that I feel I need help, or support, or ideas. anything. A diet would be helpful, or even sharing things about losing weight with another people, that's why I thought this would be a good idea. I would love to hear other's journeys. I feel this problem destroyed so many moments of my life, and my confidence in myself. I hate my body and I am afraid of being overwhelmed by the depressing side of this problem..

I can't feel myself like this, I can't enjoy life fully, I am always aware of the way I look. So.. I am waiting some advice or stories. I want to make changes that would change my lifestyle not only my weight.

Thank you so much. I appreciate it.
Have a great day !

 

[Rebel lee]

Hi beautiful people, first of all, please excuse my mistakes in english if there will be any.

I've never done this before, never posted anything on internet about my problems and never felt the need to be helped. I am 20 in several months , 1,65 m and i have around 74 kgs. I am so lost , I have no idea how i got to this number.. I've never been so heavy before. I slightly have this weight-loss problems since I know myself even if i was slimmer than now and still not thankful. I tried diets, I tried gym, I did this so many times before. I know "the rules" to lose weight let's say, I know how this works.. but my ambition is horrible. I just give up suddenly and gain more than ever every single time.. I just lose control and not care about it. I am a student, I don't have time for gym at this point.. also it is hard for me to cook food for myself as I don't have a kitchen to myself (this will change this autumn tho).

I plan on tracking on an agenda everything I eat.. but I am so over it that I feel I need help, or support, or ideas. anything. A diet would be helpful, or even sharing things about losing weight with another people, that's why I thought this would be a good idea. I would love to hear other's journeys. I feel this problem destroyed so many moments of my life, and my confidence in myself. I hate my body and I am afraid of being overwhelmed by the depressing side of this problem..

I can't feel myself like this, I can't enjoy life fully, I am always aware of the way I look. So.. I am waiting some advice or stories. I want to make changes that would change my lifestyle not only my weight.

Thank you so much. I appreciate it.
Have a great day !

Hey there and welcome.
Getting started is the hardest part. Just take it one day and step at a time.
--rebel--

 

[lrat]

Hi ddodya,

First of all, welcome.

I'm aware it's hard, i have the same living circumstances as you.

• Im a student,
• Age 20 turning 21
• Share cramped student accomodation
• Seriously overweight (120kg)
• Lack motivation

I think to reiterate what Rebel lee said, its difficult taking the first step but once you have routine it gets easier (i understand with student life routine and structure is not always easy).

I'm sure there are friends who will support you (go running with them) or even join a running/walking society that will motivate you to consistently be active. If this fails there will be alternatives like for example I've been using the MeetUp app.

There are also plenty of threads on the forum about good and bad foods (some of which are controversial) however consider working on cutting out certain products like cheese and bread.

I know this sounds like a lot to take in one go but chose one thing. Focus on that one area first and slowly improve day by day - or you can be me and go head first restricting my calroies to a quarter of my normal intake and increasing my exercise in take by 10 fold. (don't advise though!, you end up feeling terrible and defeated instantly) I went nearly a month with headaches, tiredness and stomach upset.

Just be careful not to get demoralised when results don't appear instantly. Ive been at this 2-4 months now and I'm down about 9kg. I think it's important to remember we all have our own timeline and goals, going forwards is better than backwards and as you mentioned it all goes back on twice as fast (I've been there several times).

Sorry for typos and rambles its late and I'm typing from my phone. Feel free to pm me if you want to discuss anything. I'm interested to see how your student life style compares and how your progress goes - maybe we could do club challenges together and support each other.

Just don't feel like you can't be open in here. I personally hate sharing my feelings with people I know in real life (and this is probably my stumbling block when it comes to eating and motivation where I'd endlessly turn to comfort food). We have the luxury of being anonymous online and nobody on here is judging anyone - we are all in the same boat. If you having a bad day tell us - wr will try to help you work out why your having bad days and find alternatives if possible.

We aren't gurus or robots we are human too!

- Ryan