I've lost 50 lbs give or take over the last 5 years. I have spent alot of time toning my body with weights and stretching it and toning it with yoga and working on my abs to tighten up what will tighten. Been trying to pay attention to my diet although I'm not always as good as I should be. Here is my question. I have recieved comments on how I look quite a bit lighter than I am and things are looking good. Although I feel tighter and slimmer when I look in the mirror I still see everything rolly and droopy. At what point do you see what other's see?
How long does it take?
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I see it only when I step back from the mirror. Up close I see chunk, but if I stand away from the mirror I start to see what others see. Personal perception is hard to fix. Fifty pounds is a major accomplishment! You should be so proud. It may take a long time to see yourself as thin. I read an article in Prevention about Sarah Ferguson a few months back. As beautiful as she is now, she still sees the Duchess of Pork in the mirror! And she's looked great for years now.
Congratulations on your weight loss. I also feel the same frustration....but in time it will work itself out...for me I know that my flaws can be changed...I either live with it or choose to work on it and I choose to work on them and it doesn't really matter how long it takes at the end of a workout and a good sweat it's all worth it. 
congrats on weight loss
I have also lost a significant amount of weight, (25lbs) and that makes me 117lbs. And I STILL see myself as before, and I have been waiting for me to see myself the way everyone else does. I am also trying to tone my body and I also zero in on my bad parts right away, it's nature. But think about your body and love it, would you tell your best friend they were fat and ugly and had a gross tomach? someone told me if u critisize yourself, for every 1 mean thing you say, point out 5 nice things about your body that you like and you enjoy. or ask your partner what his/her favorite part is and when you look at it u could look at it differently. hope this helped
I have also lost a significant amount of weight, (25lbs) and that makes me 117lbs. And I STILL see myself as before, and I have been waiting for me to see myself the way everyone else does. I am also trying to tone my body and I also zero in on my bad parts right away, it's nature. But think about your body and love it, would you tell your best friend they were fat and ugly and had a gross tomach? someone told me if u critisize yourself, for every 1 mean thing you say, point out 5 nice things about your body that you like and you enjoy. or ask your partner what his/her favorite part is and when you look at it u could look at it differently. hope this helped
Sometimes it helps to think of yourself 5 years ago. Stand in front of a mirror. Close your eyes and remember what you looked like before, when you took a shower or looked in the mirror or when you rembember yourself in a bathing suit. Then open your eyes and TADA!!!! You see that lil noticable difference.
Or, trying taking pictures of you now and compare them to how you looked at your "worst".
Keep going with your efforts, they totally pay off. I hope this helped!
Or, trying taking pictures of you now and compare them to how you looked at your "worst".
Keep going with your efforts, they totally pay off. I hope this helped!
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Weight is truly a weird thing……i lost 20 lbs but you’d never know….I mean, yes, I’ve lost four inches around my waist and five around my hips, but my clothes still fit and look about the same.
But hubbie noticed right away….but hey, in everyday life, no one sees you like a spouse sees you…if you understand me…….
The important thing is how you feel, not so much how you look or the numbers on the scale…….i am just happy not to huff and puff when I climb stairs!!!!!!
But hubbie noticed right away….but hey, in everyday life, no one sees you like a spouse sees you…if you understand me…….
The important thing is how you feel, not so much how you look or the numbers on the scale…….i am just happy not to huff and puff when I climb stairs!!!!!!