How do you stay positive?

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hopefullysoon1

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I've lost 30 lbs so far and I have about 70 to go. I feel better and I'm proud that I've gottan that chunk of weight off but I'm finding it hard to stay positive. I'm not seeing the visible results that i want and to me I still LOOK the SAME! I'm not a patient persona and when I do something I like to see results right then and there. I know it'll take another 20-30 lbs or so to really see a change in my appearance but until then do any of you have any advice/tips on how to keep my spirits up? Thank you!!:)
 
Just being on this forum and getting let out my feelings and my goals and my achievements is alot of positive reinforcement for me. I just started dieting and exercising and I want it to be gone right now, but I know its gonna take a lot of hard work and dedication. My boyfriend and my family is very supportive of me right now. Some friends are, but not all of them, and I'm trying so hard to not them then down. I would search for inspirational quotes online and find some that really make you think positive and just read them to yourself everyday! I keep a journal of quotes that I find online and when I'm done and out, I just read a few pages and it perks me right up again. I need to start writing more in since I've read the ones I have already quite a few times.
 
I twist my arm untill i scream "UNCLE" and eat a carrott!!!!:jump:
yup that usually does it.................lol

I make lists of what i want and tape it to my wall and read it when i feel like cheating!!!!
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I stayed positive because I believed in my heart this life was going to better. Knowing what I know now having lost a bunch, it has exceeded even my wildest dreams.

I can relate to the 'not seeing it', just convert it into 'just believing it'. When the compliments start flowing, you'll have no problem-o staying positive, trust me.
 
T2 Trucker said:
I stayed positive because I believed in my heart this life was going to better. Knowing what I know now having lost a bunch, it has exceeded even my wildest dreams.

I can relate to the 'not seeing it', just convert it into 'just believing it'. When the compliments start flowing, you'll have no problem-o staying positive, trust me.
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I want the old me back. I know once I start to feel like myself again and once I start to actually see a difference I'll feel better. I feel like crying right now because I just can't stand being fat anymore, I'm doing something about it but I still have a ways to go. I'm just frustrated and have had a bad week so far. WHat keeps me going is the knowing that the only way I'll feel like myself again and be completely satisfied w/ myself and life in general is to have this weight gone.
 
Positivity left the building long ago for me and was replaced by frustration for a whole lot of things... My expectations for myself were set way higher than I should have set them... but my lazy nature had me in fear of setting expectations too low - so I'd rather not meet them and keep trying to - then meet them and be complacent.

What keeps me going though is honestly just habit... I know what to do day after day and I do it.. I try to change it up as I go so I won't get too bored, but I do what I know needs doing. there are still so many things i can't do - I don't see many changes in me... but based on the number of times i've replaced my wardrobe, i know I've made them - even if i can't see it...

What I did yesterday doesn't matter to me -the only thing that matters is what I do today and what I plan on doing tomorrow and maybe one of these todays or tomorrows i can eliminate some of my frustrations - but in the meanttime -I just go forward...
 
This isn't an easy thing to just 'lightswitch' my friend. Being fat is never easy to cope with but really your coping skills are all you have during weak times.

Challenge yourself to pull out of the funk and look ahead to what will be. Your other choice is to boohoo yourself into deterioration of a well laid plan. You don't want that.

Somehow just knowing what waited for me pulled me back to earth at times like your having right now.

I know your frustration and I know it's real.

Jello shots maybe ?? ;)
 
hopefullysoon said:
I want the old me back. I know once I start to feel like myself again and once I start to actually see a difference I'll feel better. I feel like crying right now because I just can't stand being fat anymore, I'm doing something about it but I still have a ways to go. I'm just frustrated and have had a bad week so far. WHat keeps me going is the knowing that the only way I'll feel like myself again and be completely satisfied w/ myself and life in general is to have this weight gone.
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you need to like who you are right now.......if nothing else than the fact that the person you are right now has the gumption to take a stand and get healthy and get the old you back........I always thank the old fat me.....which seems weird to some.........but with out the choices i made when i weighed 300lbs i would still be 300lbs..........but that me msde a choice and took a stand and drugg off 114 pounds........."if you want what you have never had.... you must do what you have never done" so go and do it, you are worth it and you CAN do it!!!!!
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reach4Astar said:
you need to like who you are right now.......if nothing else than the fact that the person you are right now has the gumption to take a stand and get healthy and get the old you back........I always thank the old fat me.....which seems weird to some.........but with out the choices i made when i weighed 300lbs i would still be 300lbs..........but that me msde a choice and took a stand and drugg off 114 pounds........."if you want what you have never had.... you must do what you have never done" so go and do it, you are worth it and you CAN do it!!!!!
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I find it hard to accept myself now but I'm proud of myself for taking the steps to get this weight off so I will be happy with myself once again.
 
you might not be noticing the difference in the mirror but how about in clothing?

weigh and measure yourself every week.. and write it down in a journal.. thats ALWAYs good motivation for me.. cause i might just loose a 1lbs that week but lost inches

maybe this is a girl thing.. but i went out and bought a cute top.. id like to be able to fit in.. i hang it up next to my mirror.
 
I am not by nature a positive person. If I am in a good mood, then something is wrong; that's my general outlook. Unfortunately for me, it's also true almost every time.
When it comes to weight loss, I don't rely on positivity to help me maintain, I just know that I have to do this the right way and there is no other way to do things. I can't go back to eating the way I did before, because it was literally killing me (Hey, I felt all right, life was good!) so I eat this way and try to have a little pleasure when I can.
Losing weight isn't easy for most of us; but anything worth doing is worth doing right. I've lost (at least) 40 lbs since I started, and only have a hundred or so to go. Does that depress me? Nope, it just means I won't be finished anytime soon. A slow, steady loss is better for me than a dramatic, visible loss would be. I'm not sure if I am afraid to succeed, but I know that I can't fail; I dunno if that counts as positivity or not.
Does any of that help with your problem, hopefullysoon?
 
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