How do you react?

Garn1

Garn1

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I have been over weight for 10 years now. I am 32, 5'8" and was 252. I have lost 43 poinds, with 27 to go to my goal weight. I don't know what to say when people come up to me and say "Wow you look great". For two reasons, I hate the attention, and I still have a ways to go to my goal. Any tips on being satisfied where I am at, and how to turn these positive comments into positive feelings for me. I usually just say something like, "Oh your to kind".
 
I've had it said to me and I completely disagree with them I still look like shit -I might look better than i did but idon't look even remotely close to good.. either that or I looked far worse tha I ever thought i did-

best i can muster is a thank you...
 
I just thank them and then in the back of my head just say "just you wait, you aint seen shit yet"

What I hate is "you have lost so much weight? What are you doing?" Goes back to society's assumption that you are on some fad diet or pills. My wife is getting that a lot because she has lost like 36lbs. She says she just knows that in about 15 more pounds the surgery rumors will start to circulate around her office.
 
just a simple "thank you" will do.

I completely understand...when I had lost 50lbs everyone was telling me how great I looked but my mind wasn't anywhere near that kind of thinking yet.

i think thank you would be the polite thing to say...after all...if they didn't say anything I'd be wondering why no one had noticed...just think of it as a nice pat on the back or hi-five for all the hard work you have been doing that IS clearly paying off!
 
The funny thing is, when I tell them I am just exercising and eating like I should, they don't believe me. When I started this journey, I didn't tell a soul, not even my wife. Mainly because I wanted to make sure I was doing it for me and only me.
 
The sensible diet and exercise route was a little boring -so I tell people every morning I click my heels together three times and say I want to be thin, I want to be thin, I want to be thin... :D

(yeah I'ma little sarcastic sometimes :D
 
I have told people that I have been purging as much as possible. Sometimes it gets a laugh, other times it does not :)
 
I think the best thing is to just smile and say "thank you". I know what you mean, I still find it a little embarrassing. But I feel like the effort is worth it at the same time.

I think the weirdest reaction was the coworker that asked me if I was losing the weight because I wanted to and not because I was ill. But I can understand why he of all people would ask, because he had been ill an number of years back.
 
I just tell 'em thanks. Kinda like you, though...when I tell them I'm eating better and working out, they don't believe me or say, "I wish I could do that too." I just tell them they can and leave it at that...
 
Well, I too have a problem accepting compliments because all my life It's been the opposite. And I hate it when its pointed out publically that I've lost weight, meaning "hey, your not looking so fat anymore."
Usually I just say "thank you, I still have a ways to go." I had one woman, when I lost 40 lbs, tell me I was her hero. She went on to lose 80 lbs and put me to shame. Now she's my hero.
 
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