gojira2002
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I am an unmotivated quiter and mess up. I'm not strong, i just don't think i can do it on my own. It looks so overwhelming with the lifestyle changes and all.
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How do you do it alone?
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younggirlie
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You absolutely can do it! It seems IMPOSSIBLE, but that's a mind game. I thought I was doing it alone but I've found support in the most unlikely of places, including here. Once you can let yourself believe that you can do it, the rest comes naturally, though it's not easy. That's what makes it an accomplishment and why you get to be so proud of yourself!
KaraCooks
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I will say two things:
1 - Even if you have support from friends and family, you are still doing this alone. No one can do it but you.
2 - As long as you believe you're a quitter, a mess-up, and can't do it, then you won't ever. Until you decide that you CAN and WILL do this, it won't happen.
In other words, both those things boil down to this: You can do it if YOU believe you can do it. And that's not psychobabble or some motivational BS speech. It's the plain truth.
1 - Even if you have support from friends and family, you are still doing this alone. No one can do it but you.
2 - As long as you believe you're a quitter, a mess-up, and can't do it, then you won't ever. Until you decide that you CAN and WILL do this, it won't happen.
In other words, both those things boil down to this: You can do it if YOU believe you can do it. And that's not psychobabble or some motivational BS speech. It's the plain truth.
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The tone of my last post here was misunderstood and deleted. I'll try again with a re-phrase & explaination.
I too get the exact same attitude as your post. I feel I screw up everything I touch, and then I just give up. This battle has raged on all my life.
So many relationships, hands on projects and so on have had to be repaired at some point in my life because I screwed them up. What I have become excellent at is problem solving. I can fix almost anything that's broken.
When I look at my fat I realize it's from me screwing up. I screwed up my diet, screwed up my exercise and became obese.
So, I screwed up and need to fix this. True "fuck ups" know exactly what this feels like, since they have become pros at trying to repair what they have broken. Like you I have found this tool that will assist in my repair. Like any tool it only helps if i use it correctly, you can't drive a nail with a wrench just as you can not lose weight by reading a message board. The nail and wrench are both extremely useful in their elements, but they need your intervention to get there. Same with this board.
Quitting will lead to a painful death, a lifetime of being uncomfortable and the mental abuse of muttering profanity and name calling to yourself. That stream of consciousness would surely be unacceptable here if I were to type it out.
So, to sum it up;
if you are a screw up you have dealt with fixing things you screwed up over the course of your life. time to fix this one. I bet a lot of the negativity in your life melts away with the fat, I know mine sure does.
I too get the exact same attitude as your post. I feel I screw up everything I touch, and then I just give up. This battle has raged on all my life.
So many relationships, hands on projects and so on have had to be repaired at some point in my life because I screwed them up. What I have become excellent at is problem solving. I can fix almost anything that's broken.
When I look at my fat I realize it's from me screwing up. I screwed up my diet, screwed up my exercise and became obese.
So, I screwed up and need to fix this. True "fuck ups" know exactly what this feels like, since they have become pros at trying to repair what they have broken. Like you I have found this tool that will assist in my repair. Like any tool it only helps if i use it correctly, you can't drive a nail with a wrench just as you can not lose weight by reading a message board. The nail and wrench are both extremely useful in their elements, but they need your intervention to get there. Same with this board.
Quitting will lead to a painful death, a lifetime of being uncomfortable and the mental abuse of muttering profanity and name calling to yourself. That stream of consciousness would surely be unacceptable here if I were to type it out.
So, to sum it up;
if you are a screw up you have dealt with fixing things you screwed up over the course of your life. time to fix this one. I bet a lot of the negativity in your life melts away with the fat, I know mine sure does.
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LeaJnice
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You don't need anyone. I didn't have anyone back me up until recently. Now my friends & family are on board. Not really sure why it took me loosing over 65 lbs to get them on board. Now that they see my dedication I suppose. My hubs brings junk food into the house all of the time. He likes to go get fastfood. We both LOVE icecream. He loves ordering pizza & wings. My friends are huge drinkers and of course they push the alcohol when we go out(plus I always hear "your such a fun drunk" : p
anyway you don't need anyone! You can do it on your own. This forum is a great help. I really don't think I would of made it this far without it. My readers are the only people that said good job in the beginning. Also if you fall off the wagon...get back on. I've gained weight & lost the same 20 lbs at least 3 times in the last year. This time I've gotten over the plateau and I'm running at it full force. You can do it!
anyway you don't need anyone! You can do it on your own. This forum is a great help. I really don't think I would of made it this far without it. My readers are the only people that said good job in the beginning. Also if you fall off the wagon...get back on. I've gained weight & lost the same 20 lbs at least 3 times in the last year. This time I've gotten over the plateau and I'm running at it full force. You can do it!