I'm not sure which is funnier: That many women don't think some muscle would look good on them, or that they honestly think they're suddenly going to get huge rippling man muscles if they pick up a weight that isn't pink and under five pounds.
First - men have testicles. So what? Well, testicles constantly churn out a potent muscle-building steroid called testosterone. So, even if you lift like a man, unless you start shooting yourself up with steroids, you'll still never get the sort of muscle an equally dedicated man would develop.
Second - even for men, it's not easy! Building muscle is a long, slow process; if it happened quickly or easily, all the guys would be walking around with big bulging biceps (and probably tiny chicken legs, because most guys pay no attention to training their legs). If you should ever feel that a muscle group was getting as large as you wanted it to be, you can just stop pushing it to grow further.
Third - not wanting to 'get huge' is actually a reason to lift heavier! Surprised? A bodybuilder that is lifting to maximize size to their muscles will lift lighter weights (but for more repetitions) than a guy who just wants strength. It seems counter-intuitive, but it's true (for perfectly good biological reasons that I won't get into here).
Don't believe me? Take a look at this video:
He's squatting around 650 pounds - but look at his legs. Not exactly freakish, are they? Firm and nicely shaped, yes, but not weirdly bulky.
The irony is that if you want to look like a man, with the largest, bulkiest muscles you're capable of growing, you should lift in the stereotypical 'girl' manner (lots of repetitions with lighter weights). Yet if you want to be sleek and compact, the better bet is to follow a 'manly' lifting program, using heavy weights.
I personally like to mix my regimen up a little bit, although it depends on my goals (bulking/cutting/maintaining)...but regardless, it will always include strength training.
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