Hi I'm new, please help me :-)

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apple_girl

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Hello everyone,

I just registered on here last week and I'm still trying to figure out how to use this forum properly.

Just a little bit about myself:

I am 26 years old and all my life I have been just that litttle bit on the fat side. About a stone or stone and a half (21lbs) over what I would like to be. And its just come to the point where I just want to get to my ideal shape and weight.

I have two sisters. One is a petite size 6-8 and the other a taller, athletic size 8. I just look like a troll in comparison. :-(

I am 5 ft 1 and a half, and I currently weigh 128lbs/ Just over 9 stone/ 58KG.

My body SHAPE is probably equally a problem to me as is my weight. Let me explain.

I have the dreaded 'apple' shaped figure. Meaning that I carry all my flab around my middle and lack the feminine 'curvy' look that makes women look amazing. I basically go straight up and down, with a thick waist, broad shoulders and very little legs, a very unappealing flat bum and and no hips. I think its what is also known as the 'inverted triangle' shape. And the problem is all about my unfeminine disproportions. I mean, I thought MEN were supposed to be shaped that way, not women. Even women bigger than me look hot when the fat is in all the RIGHT places.

To give you an idea, I basically have UK 8 sized legs, UK 8 sized hips and bum, then a UK size 12-14 waist and upper body, but with skinny arms. :-(

What I am desperate to do is disguise this as MUCH as I can, by losing body fat. I know that your shape is your shape, and that it cannot be changed. But I am HOPING so much that if I just lose enough of the fat that is on my stomach and upper body, I will start to look more like the desired and most sought after hourglass girl. I'm never going to have a nice, round bum, or hips like Shakira, but I will do anything to cut the tree trunk looking waist away.

I need advice from anyone who will lend it, and a lot of support from anyone who can give it. I know that I don't have hundreds of lbs to go, but please understand that I am being genuine about my insecurities and not just having a whinge or trying to make those with a lot more to lose look bad.

My goal is to lose 21lbs/stone and a half/ 10kg by December 31st 2010. I'm going to Thailand for the New Year and it means I'll be publicly in a bikini for the first time of my life, and I need as much help as I can get.

My actual body measurements are:

Bust: 39"
Waist: 31"
Hips: 35"

I have absolutely NO idea how to post a pic, so can omeone please tell me how?

Does anyone know how I can put up a 'before' picture for you all to see, so you can see exactly what my issues are and direct me in the right way? I'm not too hot with computers so I duno how, but it'd definitely be a starting point!

Thank you so much in advance guys and girls!!

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hi there.. I am pretty new here too and am around the same height 5ft2 ! I don't know how to post photos either as have not tried, but I did not want to read your post and run! so... 7 stone something seems SO light! perhaps start with the 5% body weight goal and then re assess.. its amazing what half a stone will do to someone already so light...
Sorry I cannot offer you more advice!
Peace out,
elly x
 
Hi, Apple Girl!

Welcome to the forum. I'm new, too, and I've never dieted successfully, so I can't really offer any advice, but I can offer lots of support! It's great that you have a bikini-goal to motivate you!

As for me, I look ok on the outside, but my relationship with food is all screwed up. I figured it's either join this forum or binge my way into a new size... :( I need to break up with processed sugar. For good.

Anyway, I figure we just have to do this one day at a time. Or one meal at a time.

Good luck!
Beth
 
Thank you for your responses girls!

Today was the first proper bad day since starting my plan about a week and a half ago :-(

In London we had a tube strike so the subway train wasn't working- So yesterday I stayed at my parents' house so that I could get into work on time still as its major disruption in the city when this happens. But that's actually meant that I didn't have the time or the means to pre-plan my dieting meals for today, so I ended up picking on bad food out of the office cupboard all day at work, and then I got hungry having not eaten my five small portions as I am supposed to, and then I caved and bought a bar of chocolate on the way home because I had broken the discipline already and was craving it too much. :-(

And what's worse is that because I stayed at my mum and dad's I couldn't go to the gym in the morning so its a double oh-no. :-(

Feeling really rubbish about myself now.

Back to the gym before work tomorrow though, and I just put my gym kit in the wash so its ready for the morning. I can't give up this time. I just CAN'T. One of the friends that is coming on holiday with me has the most amazing body. She's a UK size 8 and has the loveliest hourglass figure, all toned and lovely, nothing wobbling when she moves!....And my boyfriend who is also coming with me thinks she's gorgeous as it is. So you can imagine the dread I'm feeling right now about going away and having to walk down the beach next to her. I feel sorry for my boyfriend, he'll probably be looking at her just wishing I was like her. I love her to bits so I don't feel spiteful toward her, just envious more than anything.

Guys, do you think that I CAN get a beach body in a matter of 12 weeks? I mean, if I am actualy 128lbs now, and I want to be 108lbs by the time New year's eve of 2011 comes, is it actually DOABLE?.....That's a loss of 2lbs roughly a week from now til then so its not like I'm going overboard- its still a healthy goal right?..... But of course I know that it will plateau after the initial spate of weightloss and perhaps that means I'm being too ambitious with my goal of 20lbs in time for my big holiday?

Any thoughts on this would be greatly appreciated,

Thanks!!

PS- I hope you girls have had a good day today. Lol- MamitaGomez- I like the way you put it- thats the way I feel about all nice food. No- just food in general actually! ;-)

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Life

Hey,

Welcome.
Life happens. I dont think you should feel bad about yourself for the little things. Everyday is new and you can just continue on. I used to get discouraged and then give up and go back to my old ways. but now I get myself excited about the next day and such things.
I am not fully sure if you'd enjoy it. But I always have workout videos around. that way, if i cant get to the gym, I can do something and I dont feel so bad. :)
 
Hi, and I have helped many people in your position. First and foremost is that you will have to diet. If you do this right you should be able to drop 10 pounds in the first month. Carrying fat around the midsection, especially the "love handle" area is due to excess carbohydrate and decreased insulin sensitivity. So cut back on those carbs! Now you should be following a properly designed weight training program not only to help you lose weight but also to build up your butt and legs. Squats, lunges, hip extensions, deadlifts and step ups will do the trick for this. You can do some of these exercises at home without equipment. This is actually a very easy problem to fix!
 
whoa..you say you are a trainer yet..

1) You suggest she can lose 10 pounds in a month, yet that is an unhealthy amount for her to lose in a month (1.2 pounds a week (1%) x 4 = 4.8 which is the recommended amount)

2) Actually, fat around the midsection is much more likely due to genetics since the human body puts weight on in one order and will remove in the opposite (which is why some areas never seem to go away since they were the first ones)

3) Carbs are not the enemy. No 1 food group is the enemy. Calories is the enemy. Cutting carbs will reduce your calories but don't cut it just because, reduce all around and you will find it much easier for you to keep the weight off.
 
I am just trying to help sorry if it came off the wrong way. This has been my experience with my clients and other trainers with their clients. And I should have made things a little more clear I apologize.
Most people will be able to lose 10 pounds in the first month, half of that which will be water and bloat, but it is still noticable.
Yes, I agree that fat around the midsection is genetic but the "love handle" area does have to do with controlling insulin.
And to be clearer carbs are not the total enemy. Getting the majority of your carbs from low glycemic fibrous green vegetables is a good starting point.
Watching calories is important, but also the carbs you eat and the way in which they affect insulin as well when it comes to weight loss.
 
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