Help for an embarrassing problem?

three or four years ago i went into a kind of depression. i gained thirty pounds in the span of july and august, my summer vacation at school. during that school season i gained about twenty pounds, so by the time june (literally) rolled around i had ballooned to 180 pounds: a fifty pound weight gain in just below a year.

awful, right? well, the next summer i finally let myself enter counseling and as i felt better, i shed the weight. i joined weight watchers with my mom and lost about twenty pounds before i decided to go on my own. i'm now about 148 pounds and i'm comfortable with myself, finally.

you would think that losing about thirty pounds would be awesome, wouldn't you?! wrong. don't get me wrong, i feel good about myself: i am so much happier than i was back then. but the problem is just this: my breasts absolutely disgust me. i can't even glance at myself naked in the mirror because it makes me so very uncomfortable. they don't just sag, they plummet and have absolutely no shape. bathing suit and bra shopping is a complete disaster, and having my boyfriend around is worse because i'm simply not comfortabe with seeing them myself, let alone others.

my thoughts were that severe weight gain/lose had to affect my body permanently somehow, but i was hoping it would have only stayed with stretch marks. my real question is: is there any way i could change/perk/boost my breasts? i don't necessarily want bigger breasts (i'm a D-cup as it is) but i don't want to live my life worrying about my lifeless boobs. i'm an outgoing seventeen year old, so i severely doubt it's age having an affect on me.. sigh. anything would be helpful.. please don't leave mean comments :(

ETA: it would also be very helpful if you could tell me something i could do without the use of machines, as i don't currently own a gym membership. thank you.
 
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First of all, congratulations on the weight loss. It's a big accomplishment and one you should be proud of.

Unfortunately, extreme weight loss can mean that things will sag after the weight is lost.

There are a few things that can be done about your breasts, but it depends on the severity of the sagging and how dissatisfied you really are.

Weight training with an emphasis on the chest muscles can provide some lifting/shaping. It's definitely worth a try, you may see some improvement.

If it is really extreme, then surgery may be an option, but it definitely isn't right for everyone.

By best advice would be to give weight training a try and see what it does for you. You may be surprised. And, if you think about it, we (women) tend to place too much emphasis on having "perfect" breasts that we see in the media. The reality is that very few women have breasts like that without surgery.

Good luck, and if you have any questions about weight training feel free to ask them here. We will be more than willing to help.

edit, I saw your edit

If you don't have access to gym equipment, there are many chest exercises you can do at home. The best one would probably be the push up. It works the chest, back and core muscles as well as a few others. If you have dumbbells or other heavy objects, you can chest press them.
 
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um well im a guy so im not really an expert but arent breasts mainly fat so you wont really be able to do anything about it by training i guess?
 
Congrats on the weight loss, really shows that it's possible for the people looking for motivation.

I'm not a relationship expert, but if part of yourself is unhappy because of your scared of what your boyfriend thinks, talk to him about it. If he's really a guy to be with, he'll be with you no matter what your breasts look like, and will support you through what you want to do for yourself.

Enjoy life, don't worry, be happy.:)
 
thanks for responding!!

another question i forgot to mention is this:

since my boobs are saggy NOW, will they continue to get worse if i lose more weight?
 
lol

spiceypumpkin....telling her that weight training might make her breast more perky is like being hit by a car going 100 miles an hour and living. honestly your breast arnt going to go back to being perky, unless you get some kind of surgey. You are stuck with them :S. My best bet would be is...a pushup bra :S?

And Curtis, I dont know where you got that from. Most guys look for physical attraction and personality.


My question for you is this, how fast did it take you to lose all that weight?
 
Congrats on your weight loss! I'm sure you worked hard to achieve that, and you should be proud.

Next, I second everything spicypumpkin wrote above.

Yes, breast tissue is fat. But some people find that strengthening the chest muscles underneath affects how your body 'carries' this tissue. It is definitely worth trying to see what you can do with weight training here.

You dropped a lot of weight, but you didn't explain if you were doing any exercises to keep your muscle tone. If not, then you are even MORE likely to see a significant change now if you do start to incorporate strength training into your life a few times a week!

I have a suspicion that while you've improved your weight (which is great!), you still have a bit of extra body fat, as a matter of overall body composition. It might be the case that if you focus on eating right & lifting to lose fat, then you'll lose some of your breast-size, but what you have will be 'perkier.' Would you rather be a 'saggy' D or a 'perkier' C? That might be something you can achieve on your own through diet and exercise!

Last, I think it is great that you have gotten the help that you need thus far. Please remember how much what we see in the mirror is in our heads - comparing what we think is 'ideal.' No one's body is perfect and what you see on tv or in magazines is not real.

If you are very unhappy with your breasts over a long period of time, then it might make sense to explore surgery. However, right now, I'd put that thought on the shelf. You're only 17, which means that your body/breasts are not necessarily finished reaching the place it'll be for the rest of your life. So I don't think any reputable doctor would recommend surgery for you at this point, for good reason.
 
I can relate

Hey Angi,
You should be sooooooo proud of yourself for your weight loss first off!
I can only speak from my personal experience here but I totally understand what you are going through with your chest issue. I used to be a full C cup and now barely fill a B cup. I have been steadily weight training for 10 months and my chest and shoulders are pretty defined. I definitely do think that it helps make the breasts appear not as saggy as they would without the muscle tone underneath.
So in other words, work the chest girl and you might be surprised!!! I also think that with shapely shoulders and arms people (including yourself) are distracted away from looking at your breasts. AND, good news here, you may even get better results than I have because you are many years younger than me (and I am guessing haven't breast fed 2 kids either yet!). Good luck and focus on how far you have come already.
 
I think you should try working the upper body, especially the chest, with weights. don't be afraid to go heavy on the weights...you lack the levels of testosterone needed to 'get bulky' so don't worry about "looking like a man" by lifting heavy.

that said, I wouldn't put much hope in training fixing your breasts 100%
your only true 'fix' might be breast augmentation surgery...not necessarily implants...but simply having the doc remove the stretched out skin to make them more perky again
 
Congrats on loosin weight from me too... And i also think you should try working on your upper body with weights... give it a try ... good luck :)
 
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