La Coquette
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Good morning, everyone. I have decided to join after much careful thought. Hoping to loose over 80 lb., but have serious troubles with motivation.
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discolemonade
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Welcome to the forum! I understand what you mean about lacking motivation - but the fact you're even here in the first place indicates some level of it!
makingchanges71
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Welcome!! I really think that this forucan help you with your motivation issues. You should start a diary and then people can read about your success and struggles and help you along the way!!! It truly is great!! Good luck!
Katie
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La Coquette
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If you're not motivated, what makes you want to lose 80 pounds to begin with? Whatever that thing is, that's your motivation.
Thank you!I am loooking forward to new challenges and much needed support on this board.Thank you for welcoming me.
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La Coquette
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La Coquette
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The honest answer would be - fear. I am very afraid. For the past 2,5 years I have lost in total over 300 lb. I would loose weight, get to my goal weight, but then would gain it all back. I am tired of this visious circle and afraid this is it for me.I am scrared this is what I am going to be - 223,5 lb on the scale for the rest of my life.In addition, I am not good at communication, it is difficult for me to talk about my weight and it looks like I have an eating disorder.
La Coquette
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paydirt
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I'm in the same boat, though I haven't had as big of swings in the past few years.
Maintaining a weight can be difficult. "Maintaining Weight" just doesn't sound as motivational as "Losing Weight." Once people get to their goal weight, they stop tracking things as closely and add back food without calculating the calories. Just as we put ourselves in a calorie deficit when we are in a state of losing weight, we ALSO need to be calorie neutral when we are maintaining weight. I think people (including myself in the past) focus so much on losing weight that they do not think in advance about maintenance.
My main goal is to BE healthy. Losing weight is a task of that goal, but once it's lost then maintaining weight will be the task. Losing weight is a state of DOING. Being healthy is a state of BEING. It's much more powerful and motivational to BE than to DO.
Maintaining a weight can be difficult. "Maintaining Weight" just doesn't sound as motivational as "Losing Weight." Once people get to their goal weight, they stop tracking things as closely and add back food without calculating the calories. Just as we put ourselves in a calorie deficit when we are in a state of losing weight, we ALSO need to be calorie neutral when we are maintaining weight. I think people (including myself in the past) focus so much on losing weight that they do not think in advance about maintenance.
My main goal is to BE healthy. Losing weight is a task of that goal, but once it's lost then maintaining weight will be the task. Losing weight is a state of DOING. Being healthy is a state of BEING. It's much more powerful and motivational to BE than to DO.
That's a good post.
paydirt
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Thanks Steve. I shortly realized after joining this site that folks that "fail" were committed to the wrong thing (or said differently, "had the wrong goals"). I've also failed because I wasn't committed enough. I think it's great that folks have the goal to lose weight, and it is really a goal of doing, not being. You cannot be forever committed to losing weight, so you have to be commited to either how you look at your goal weight or being healthy.
I took part in a seminar that talked about levels of commitment (among other things) and am aware that the main reason we fail at things is because we are not committed enough or the goal is not realistic. The fact that I'm aware of this doesn't mean I'm perfect/better at implementing it; I'm just aware of it and when I get tripped up or stuck I can get back on track faster.
I don't see things on a regular basis like you do, I just know that we need to get ourselves in the strongest frame of mind so that we give ourselves the best chances of longterm success. We can't simply do, do, do and achieve our goals; we have to believe that we can achieve our goals and have an appropriate goal. It's who we get to BE as people that gets us there: responsible (staying on plan, not being a victim to circumstance--like holidays), strong (when our bodies and minds are rebelling), courageous (showing up at the gym out-of-shape, brown bagging your lunch, not worrying about how you look during the process), etc.
I took part in a seminar that talked about levels of commitment (among other things) and am aware that the main reason we fail at things is because we are not committed enough or the goal is not realistic. The fact that I'm aware of this doesn't mean I'm perfect/better at implementing it; I'm just aware of it and when I get tripped up or stuck I can get back on track faster.
I don't see things on a regular basis like you do, I just know that we need to get ourselves in the strongest frame of mind so that we give ourselves the best chances of longterm success. We can't simply do, do, do and achieve our goals; we have to believe that we can achieve our goals and have an appropriate goal. It's who we get to BE as people that gets us there: responsible (staying on plan, not being a victim to circumstance--like holidays), strong (when our bodies and minds are rebelling), courageous (showing up at the gym out-of-shape, brown bagging your lunch, not worrying about how you look during the process), etc.
Thank you,Katie. I hope so.I will try to start my diary tomorrow.
I just joined this forum this week as I, once again, begin another endeavor to losing weight and living a healthier lifestyle. This forum, I think, is a great tool that can assist you in staying motivated and to help you through the days that you're feeling like you want to give up. My motto on a previous successful weight loss journey was "Never Ever Give Up!" But, I gave up. I tried getting back on track by myself and have had no success with it. I need support and encouragement from people that understand what I'm going through. I read something yesterday that I thought was very inspiring about trying to accomplish something with the help of others. I know it's a bit long, but well worth the read. It reads as follows:
"We have a lot to learn from geese:
By flying in "V " formation, the whole flock adds at least 71% greater flying range than if each bird flew on its own.
(People who share a common direction and sense of community can get where they are going quicker and easier because they are traveling on the thrust of one another.)
Whenever a goose falls out of formation, it suddenly feels the drag and resistance of trying to go it alone and quickly gets back into formation to take advantage of the lifting power of the bird immediately in front.
(If we have as much sense as a goose, we will stay in formation with those who are heading in the same as we are.)
When the lead goose gets tired, he rotates back in the wing and another goose flies point.
(It pays to take turns doing hard jobs, with people or with flying geese.)
These geese honk from behind to encourage those up front to keep up their speed.
(We need to be careful what we say when we honk from behind.)
Finally, when a goose gets sick, or is wounded by gunshot, and falls out, two geese fall out of formation and follow him down to help and protect him. They stay with him until he is either able to fly or until he is dead, and then they launch out on their own or with another formation until they catch up with their group.
(If we have the sense of a goose, we will stand by each other, protect one another and sometimes make new friends who seem to be going in our direction.)"
NEVER EVER GIVE UP!