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NicoleH

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Hi there,

I'm new here but my doctor said I should seek out others struggling with weight as I am and find support and give support in turn so here's my story in long version

I went for my yearly physical and my doctor informed me i've put on 20 lbs in a year! I went from 231 to 251 although this is not the heaviest i've been it feels worse because i'm 8 years older. I lost a significant amount of weight when I was 20, I lost 120 lbs starting at 260 ending at 140 in 6 months and losing another 10 by the time I turned 21. It was NOT healthy I had just moved to a new city that was COLD and I guess I probably shivered off at least 60 lbs in the darn cold. I lived off coffee and cigarettes and when my rent went up just coffee lol! I gave birth to my daughter in May of 2010 my top weight then was 180 and I was back down to 140 weeks after giving birth.

I do not have weight problems when I am at peace but years of custody battles and deflecting lies and threats have worn me down and packed on the pounds
My husband (not my daughter's father) is an asshole i'm not gonna sugar coat it. He cheats and is a total jerk to me and for some reason I always give him the benefit of the doubt when he says he's going to clean up his act. Stupid stupid girl...

So here I am 251 lbs my doctor is urging me to get surgery if I have no success in the next few months. To be perfectly honest I don't feel very motivated. What if I lose 110lbs and i'm back to my healthy weight range? I don't think i'll feel better, my boobs are currently E cup size where is all that skin gonna go? No where...thats where i'm gonna end up with saggy boobs and arms and everything and hate myself just as much as I do now. The only benefit would be that I am healthier and reduce my risk of diabetes but again for some reason I don't feel much more motivated.

I did start getting into the habit of walking at my local field house 3-5 times a week last year and swimming laps twice a week (i'm from the coast and we LOVE the water) but since then i've moved and taken on a job with longer hours I leave my house at 7am every day and i don't get home until 7pm or later depending on my daughter's activities. I get home tidy up a little make some food and go to bed. Starting in January i'll be in school in the evenings which gives me less time

Anyone else out there like me?....Where do you begin
 
Hi,
I have had loads of dieting issues- I tend to lose weight then put it on so easily. I can only suggest using the stairs instead of the lift etc. When popping to the corner shop walk instead of using the car...all the little things on top of what you already do will help. I have just decided that tomorrow is the day to really kick the bad eating habits out of the window and to try really hard.
I have the low fat milk in the house, going to eat plenty of veg and salad and try my hardest to leave the chocolate cupboard well alone. As for the boobs- mine are huge and I have similar worries that when I lose what I want to love (50lb) ish they may go saggy but cross that bridge when/ if you get there
xx
 
Welcome!!!! You will get plenty of support here! Though we are not in the same boat exactly, I can definitely be supportive and helpful in your struggles to lose the weight. But you are right, you need to be happy before anything will change. That would be my first priority. Because if you aren't happy with anything, you won't lose the weight. First things first, kick that husband of yours to the curb. Then start loving yourself!! That will motivate you to be healthy!
I hope you find what you are looking for here! Good luck! :)
 
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