heathercb04
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So I'll start out this diary being honest: I've been a member of this forum for a lonnnnnng time. Probably 2 or 3 years at this point, I'm thinking (I suppose I could check my stats to be sure, but oh well). Since I can remember, I've always had issues with my weight. Only recently have I begun to seriously worry about myself. Twice in my life I have lost significant amounts of weight (ie. more than 30lbs) and both times were induced by . . . essentially what amounts to anorexia, especially the second time. Unfortunately, I never allowed myself to get into a solid state of healthy eating even though I know how to do it. I would simply go through these cycles of self-loathing and just starve myself until I was thinner again. Of course this wrecks havoc on your body and I am now at a horrifying 215lbs. I can't believe it. I dunno, I remember being a senior in college four years ago and thinking 180lbs was huge. I want to be OK with me.
And that is where I want to start this weight loss journey. I want to start with being OK with me. With being comfortable in my own skin, and knowing that I am an intelligent, talented woman who does not need to be thin to know her own self worth. I am lucky enough to be engaged to the most charming, loving, wonderful man who just happens to be the one person I always dreamed of being with when I was a little girl. He is literally the man of my dreams, and is largely responsible for the major shift in my self-esteem. I come from a history of women who fear and loathe fat as if it were something that actually damaged them as people. My mother is never able to look at herself in the mirror and say that she looks good despite being a petite 5'2 MAYBE 130lb woman with beautiful green eyes and dark brown hair. She is stunning and can't see past the teensy bit of fat on her. I don't want that. I refuse to delve back into the self-loathing cycle. I have a wonderful man who loves me. I have a wonderful job that I'm good at and that I really enjoy. I have a nice apartment in a city I love and a wonderful family and friend support system. I am lucky. I am ok, and I refuse to hate myself simply because I'm heavy. Because of my fiance's constant reinforcement, I actually have times where I can look in the mirror and think "Hey, I look OK today."
So what do I want to accomplish? I want to increase my fitness level. I want to increase my energy level and increase the amount of healthy food I put into my body.
I figured with this post I would list some goals I have for myself. Some are stupid, some are grandiose. But I figured getting them down on paper would let me get a better plan of action for myself because right now I don't have any.
1. I would like to set my goal weight to 140lbs. I am OK with 150-160, but I think my goal would be 140.
2. I want to exercise every day of the week that I am able to do so.
3. I want to eat 5-6 small meals a day.
4. I would like to be a size 10 for my wedding day (15 months from now!!).
5. I want to weight train 3 days a week
6. In helping with my weight loss process, I am going to limit my beer intake to twice a month.
7. I am going to pack my lunch every day, and EAT the lunch I pack every day.
8. I am going to start eating breakfast.
9. I am going to cook at least 5-6 nights a week. Any meal eaten out will be selectively chosen.
10. I can have three "cheat" meals a month.
11. I will increase the amount of vegetables eaten at dinner, even if it means cooking myself something extra (the fiance doesn't eat many vegetables).
12. I will start with walking at the gym on manual at speed 3.5-4.0 and increase intervals until I am jogging on the treadmill.
13. I am going to wake up at 5:45 to go to the gym. I am doing this because I can't stand working out after I get home, and it's only 15 minutes before my regular wake up time anyway. (I give myself a lot of time in the morning)
14. I am starting the gym as soon as my *ahem*lovely time of the month*ahem* is finished. Until then I'm allowed to be as bad as I want. Following that, it's go time.
15. I'm going to focus on one of these goals (or a specified one I come up with) every week as a topic in my diary including hopefully daily posts and weigh ins.
16. I'm going to join a challenge on here.
17. I'm going to reach out for support from fellow forum members because to be quite honest, I'm scared. I'm afraid of the "healthy" route of weight loss because I am afraid of failure and I'm afraid because I've always done it the unhealthy way. I don't want to starve anymore, and I don't want to hate myself. I'm done with that, and I'm starting something new.
18. I'm going to tell my therapist about this internal struggle I'm having with weight loss and healthy living.
19. I'm going to ride my bike on the weekends.
There is a fabulous trail by the river near my apartment. I'm going to take advantage of that trail even in the cold weather.
And that's it.
Lord, that's enough!
So hi everyone, thanks for anyone who took the time to read this, and I look forward to snooping around the forum and meeting some new friends.

And that is where I want to start this weight loss journey. I want to start with being OK with me. With being comfortable in my own skin, and knowing that I am an intelligent, talented woman who does not need to be thin to know her own self worth. I am lucky enough to be engaged to the most charming, loving, wonderful man who just happens to be the one person I always dreamed of being with when I was a little girl. He is literally the man of my dreams, and is largely responsible for the major shift in my self-esteem. I come from a history of women who fear and loathe fat as if it were something that actually damaged them as people. My mother is never able to look at herself in the mirror and say that she looks good despite being a petite 5'2 MAYBE 130lb woman with beautiful green eyes and dark brown hair. She is stunning and can't see past the teensy bit of fat on her. I don't want that. I refuse to delve back into the self-loathing cycle. I have a wonderful man who loves me. I have a wonderful job that I'm good at and that I really enjoy. I have a nice apartment in a city I love and a wonderful family and friend support system. I am lucky. I am ok, and I refuse to hate myself simply because I'm heavy. Because of my fiance's constant reinforcement, I actually have times where I can look in the mirror and think "Hey, I look OK today."
So what do I want to accomplish? I want to increase my fitness level. I want to increase my energy level and increase the amount of healthy food I put into my body.
I figured with this post I would list some goals I have for myself. Some are stupid, some are grandiose. But I figured getting them down on paper would let me get a better plan of action for myself because right now I don't have any.
1. I would like to set my goal weight to 140lbs. I am OK with 150-160, but I think my goal would be 140.
2. I want to exercise every day of the week that I am able to do so.
3. I want to eat 5-6 small meals a day.
4. I would like to be a size 10 for my wedding day (15 months from now!!).
5. I want to weight train 3 days a week
6. In helping with my weight loss process, I am going to limit my beer intake to twice a month.
7. I am going to pack my lunch every day, and EAT the lunch I pack every day.
8. I am going to start eating breakfast.
9. I am going to cook at least 5-6 nights a week. Any meal eaten out will be selectively chosen.
10. I can have three "cheat" meals a month.
11. I will increase the amount of vegetables eaten at dinner, even if it means cooking myself something extra (the fiance doesn't eat many vegetables).
12. I will start with walking at the gym on manual at speed 3.5-4.0 and increase intervals until I am jogging on the treadmill.
13. I am going to wake up at 5:45 to go to the gym. I am doing this because I can't stand working out after I get home, and it's only 15 minutes before my regular wake up time anyway. (I give myself a lot of time in the morning)
14. I am starting the gym as soon as my *ahem*lovely time of the month*ahem* is finished. Until then I'm allowed to be as bad as I want. Following that, it's go time.
15. I'm going to focus on one of these goals (or a specified one I come up with) every week as a topic in my diary including hopefully daily posts and weigh ins.
16. I'm going to join a challenge on here.
17. I'm going to reach out for support from fellow forum members because to be quite honest, I'm scared. I'm afraid of the "healthy" route of weight loss because I am afraid of failure and I'm afraid because I've always done it the unhealthy way. I don't want to starve anymore, and I don't want to hate myself. I'm done with that, and I'm starting something new.
18. I'm going to tell my therapist about this internal struggle I'm having with weight loss and healthy living.
19. I'm going to ride my bike on the weekends.
And that's it.
Lord, that's enough!
So hi everyone, thanks for anyone who took the time to read this, and I look forward to snooping around the forum and meeting some new friends.

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