Having problems with an ignorant aerobics instructor making me feel like IM TOO BIG!

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prettyinpink116

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K So I really wanted to post this here bc I know were all on the same journey and I feel alot of people can relate and understand where I'm coming from

I KNOW ITS LONG BUT PLEASE READ! I NEED SOME ADVICE :(

OK SO I started going to these aerobics classes at my gym last week. & I really like em they are such great workouts and I feel so good about myself when I leave..that is until my instructor started making comments to me..

So last week was my 1st class & after class I went to the instructor & was asking questions on the different classes they have, she was telling me bout em but kept insisting on telling me things will get easier&easier. I kinda felt like saying LADY IM FINE DID U NOT SEE ME?? DID I TAKE A BREAK ONCE?? WAS I PASSED OUT ON THE FLOOR?? + I been doing taebo on&off for 2 yrs so I know these type of workouts kick butt- but she doesnt know that right? So I just shrugged it off, then she proceeds to tell me (mind you theres like 10 other girls around us all engaging in the convo& talking amongst eachother) WHETHER YOU LOOK LIKE BARBIE OVER THERE (points to a thinner girl in the corner) OR LOOK LIKE YOU, YA JUST GOTTA KEEP PUSHING. I kinda thought, Ummm WOW ok thanks, i guess I look like fat sloppy crap then huh? + I got embarrassed bc the other girls were around me & there all like 120-140lbs..but again I just tried to ignore it + i kinda knew what she was getting at i guess, like i knew the point she was trying to make, but still she didn't need to say it like that....

So TODAY at class their was only 5 of us that showed up,a woman that was a lil chunky but not too fat(theres a reason Y im pointing out her physical appearance), me, then 2 other super thin older woman & the instructor. So after the workouts, when were on the floor on the mat doing pushups,situps..etc.. were all sitting up & she starts talking about toning muscles and toning our arms, then she says to me & the other woman THIS DOESN'T APPLY TO YOU YET & then turns back to the thin woman & starts talking to them. This kinda p'ed me off, like why doesnt it apply to us?? if anything it shud apply to us more bc we have more skin on our arms! THEN she gets up & says to the thin woman THERES A MOVE I WANT TO SHOW YOU TO WORK ON YOUR TUMMY..turns to us (the bigger woman) & says YOU TWO ARENT AT THIS LEVEL YET & ARE PROBABLY INCAPABLE OF KEEPING UP WITH IT..so as she said that I said WHY AM I INCAPABLE?? BC I HAVE A BELLY??? So she says NOOOOOOO ITS JUST BC YOU WANT TO TONE YOUR STOMACH WHICH IS GOOD BUT YOU MAY NOT BE READY TO DO THESE MOVES, BUT SOMEWHERE UNDERNEATH ALL THAT (pointed at my stomach) THERES A FIT & TONED TUMMY! This is what she said to me!! Infront of everyone mind you. By now im thinking OK LADY WOW YOU DO NOT KNOW ME OR KNOW WHAT IM CAPABLE OF! I DO THESE WORKOUTS TWICE A WEEK AT HOME, & the jillians dvd every single day..U dont have a clue! & JUST BC I AM BIGGER DOES NOT MEAN I AM INCAPABLE OF ANYTHING, I CAN PUSH MYSELF JUST AS HARD IF NOT HARDER THEN THESE THIN WOMAN! & I wanted to say DO U NOT SEE ME WHEN WERE WORKING OUT?? AM I NOT KEEPING UP WITH EVERY STEP AND MOVE YOUR DOING?? ARE WE NOT IN THE SAME CLASS???

So after she said that she went on to show the move to the "thin" woman and when I saw the move I said to her I KNOW THAT MOVE I DO IT ON THE JILLIAN MICAHELS 30 DAY SHRED DVD & she just said OHHH & as i was telling her she just cut me off & started counting down with the other woman loudly, talking over me. I was like OKAYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY...so after, as we were all getting up and getting ready to leave she says AND JILLIAN MICHAELS IS WRONG! THAT WOMAN IS WRONG! I was tooken back! I wanted to say LADY IM NOT TRYING TO STEP ON YOUR TEACHING SKILLS my goodness! RELAX! WHAT IS YOUR PROBLEM?

It was just real awkward & made me uncomfortable on top of her very unnecessary comments she makes about me being incapable & the other stuff she says making me feel like im this big beast.

So i left feeling kinda bad, the opposite of what your supposed to feel after a hard workout & i started thinking like I dont want to say something bc the way she seems I feel it wont solve anything but cause tension, she seems very immature and shes 20 yrs older then me!! and I DEF dont want any tension..but I dunno how long i can keep biting my tongue. AND I WANT TO HAVE FUN & ENJOY MY WORKOUT!

But then I started thinking you know what? Im not going to let this ignorant woman bring me down, I will just keep my mouth shut, ignore & keep trucking I CANT WAIT TO PROVE HER WRONG! & prove that i will not stop this class & I will be thinner by summer! (bc that was another thing she said it doesn't matter if u lose any weight as long as your getting healthier i thought what type of advice is that??? We need to be losing weight! Excessive weight is not healthy!)

So if you've come this far THANKS SO MUCH for reading it all and I was just curious if this or anything similar has ever happend to anyone?? I just hate the way some thin people just view overweight people as stupid and act like their handicapped or something..

Any tips? Advice? I'd appreciate it

THANKS FOR READING!
 
OMG, what a snooty immature cow.

Sorry I am outraged by your message!!!!!! I love my classes, I have done loads of different ones with diff instructors and I cannot imagine any of them speaking to someone like that in a class!!!!

Yes if you are larger you can struggle to do some activities, but he'll you'd still give it a go and she should not exclude you.

To be honest she just sounds like a head case!!

If it gives you motivation you can use to say I'm gonna prove you wrong then good for you!! Are there any other teachers you can go to their classes? I'm not suggesting running away from hers just that actually an instructor who will help you etc is important!

Charlie x
 
What a bitch. Find a new class dude--People like that never change. She's going to do nothing but berate you and try and make you feel shitty so maybe just move on rather than making a point by staying. You need an instructor that will support you and encourage you!!
 
Are you paying this woman? If so, you shouldn't have to tolerate that type of treatment. If you love that class then I'm not suggesting you leave but at least let her know somehow that you feel this way. Maybe meet with her one on one after or before class and show her what you can do so that she can't even say anything anymore.

That's what I think you should do.

Good job for keeping your chin up too and not making a fool out of yourself because of her ignorance. You have respect for people older than you and that's great.
 
OOOHHH..... I don't know what to say. Just reading your post had me cussing like a man-o-war sailor.:cuss:

I hate when people do that. I am on the very chunky side, but, I tell people, not because I don't do some exercise don't mean I can't. I always tell them, I'm just lazy but short of pull-ups and push-ups, I have very low arm strength, I tend to keep up with everybody when I went to the gym.

I have never had a teacher call me out the way yours has, but I have had an aerobics instructor call me out on my 'laziness'. She told me in front of the class, that I keep making excuses of why I can't do certain reps of exercises, but she has watched me, and has noticed that I keep up with her advanced students with alot of my exercise, the upper body ones being where I fall down and I need to step up my game.:ack2:

But you know what sc#$% her, keep going, show her you are better and prove to her that OVERWEIGHT DOES NOT MEAN OUTTA SHAPE... That's what I would do, and at the end when you have done all that you need to do, tell her off and walk out showing her a well toned tush she could ki$$.

But that's just me, and I am working on my spiteful nature, everyday, its a journey.:sifone:
 
Wow. :icon_bs:

Way to make someone NOT want to come to your aerobics class.

Every class I have gone to (quite a few!), the instructor tries to tailor the class to all levels. They always give options for things, sometimes three different "levels" of moves. In my spinning class, she always says something like, "You should be breathless after that interval, if you want to work that hard" or "Time you start a new set, so turn your resistance back up. If you still need more recovery time, take it and join when you are ready." She makes everyone comfortable and reminds everyone at the beginning of every class that we are all at different levels and to make the workout our own.

Find a new class - your instructor should motivate you in a positive way, not make you feel like crap!
 
Wow, women are catty...but damn! I hate that she calls you out like that...just imagine how many OUT OF SHAPE heavier women who've tried to better themselves she's probably discouraged!
I'd tell her, next time she counts you out...Just show me the move, I'll try it & do as best I can. I'll work at my own level, thanks!
THEN you can prove to her you need not be singlesd out as someone who may not be able to do the moves.

She sounds very ignorant, as a teacher, let alone as a human being.
Perhaps mention to her employer that she needs improved communication skills, or at least to watch how she speaks to her class. they won't want to lose your business, and her being an idiot may not be known to them(??) because most heavier ppl would be humiliated & just "give up" going to the class rather than draw more attntion to themselves in an uncomfortable environment, right? Then she gets her point "proven" because they 'quit' the class (because she assumes it is too hard for someone bigger).
I go to a gym & am lucky that 99.8% of the people have been super kind. 2 ppl have been real buttholes. It's assumed bigger ppl will give up workinjg out & I know the younger guys who laughed at me once coming from the pool are just betting on when I'll give up. They're gonna be waiting a LONG time. I paid for a year & I am a cheap biotch. LOL
 
Well i think she's got issues and if I were you i would start looking for another instructor/class and before leaving i would tell her that you are leaving her class because comments to you are offensive.

If she works for a business, i would make a complaint. And tell them if they want your business, they should do something about the instructor.
 
WOW! this pissed me off just reading it! Props for you for trying to stick up for yourself! what a bitch! (my mind was thinking much worse words then bitch btw) id say see if theres another class option in your area, not "run away from her" but you want an instructor who will encourage you! not bring you down! In my Zumba class, the instroctor will say "if you cant do -what ever move- do this instead" but NEVER points anyone out or even looks at a certain person! If i was in your shoes, girl id be sooo pissed, id give her a peice of my mind! ....not sugesting you do that but thats just me lol OR you could when she says "this dosent apply to you" just get up and do it anyways. prove her wrong! maybe take it in as a motivator to prove her wrong. thats like high school crap bro!
 
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