Gym Embarrassment?

MikeF

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Hey forum. I'm finally ready to start my major weight loss (well over 60 pounds). I definitely want to incorporate working out along with a healthy diet, but I'm kinda nervous about the whole gym thing. I'm so self-concious of being "the fat guy" at the gym, workin' up a sweat from barely doing a thing.

Am I the only one on this boat? Any tips? :p

(Sorry if this is in the wrong forum)
 
Well, I used to feel the same. I go to a local unisex gym and the time I visit gym, the gym is filled up with air hostess with wow figure. And because of my heavenly body structure, i sometime see them giggle. Its sad but, well, i am doing whatever i can to make them stop.

On my first day at gym, i wore track pants and a tee-shirt. The instructor was making me do some warm up exercise before hitting the elliptical. I was doing the leg strech and just them i heard a weird sound and I realized that my pants tore off. They all started laughing!!

It was a really big embarrassment for me. :x
 
Most people at the gym are in their own little world and don't take any notice of others and if your not sure of the correct form for an exercise don't be afraid to ask somebody, those of us that seem to live at the gym are usually more than happy to answer questions about particular machines or exercises. It doesn't matter what size you are, everybody is at the gym for the same reason.

Good luck achieving your goal :)
 
Most people at the gym are in their own little world and don't take any notice of others

I think this is true. Unless there's a smoking hot woman on the machine in front of me, I'm not paying attention to anyone else and I really doubt that anyone is paying attention to me.
 
I actually noticed that if you go to 'proper' gym (meaning, not the kind where peeps just go to show off their new spandex thongs), people are actually surprisingly nice. I went to check one out recently that I'd never been to before, and it was full of the body-building type of guys (and girls). I just wanted to turn around and leave, but I had an appointment for a trial workout, so I thought 'what the hell, I'm used to the stupid looks' and went for it.

Turned out that all those bulky muscle people are pretty cool. Yeah, I felt out of place, and some people looked over, but there was no giggling or anything. In fact, once the trainer had showed me all the stuff and went to get a drink, one of the guys came over when he saw me struggling with something, and pointed out how I could do it better. He asked what I was planning on doing, training wise and I told him about the weight loss and needing to get in shape and all of that. Turned out he'd been overweight for most of his life himself, and had only lost weight and started working out a couple of years ago.

Later on, when the trainer helped me to find the right weights and stuff, a woman (again, the bodybuilder type, really fit and everything) who was next to me on the same machine looked over and said 'Wow, when I started I couldn't even do half of that, you're doing well'. Not much really, but it made me feel good.

What I am trying to say is, don't let anything or anybody put you off doing your workout. As Trusylver said, most people in the gym are concentrating on what they are doing, and don't care about the rest. And if they do, they are most likely to help and give you some advice and encouragement more than anything else. Don't forget, none of the peeps in the gym were born perfect, they all had to work hard for whatever body they have now, and those who are serious about it remember how much hard work it is to get there and stay there.
 
Hey forum. I'm finally ready to start my major weight loss (well over 60 pounds). I definitely want to incorporate working out along with a healthy diet, but I'm kinda nervous about the whole gym thing. I'm so self-concious of being "the fat guy" at the gym, workin' up a sweat from barely doing a thing.

Am I the only one on this boat? Any tips? :p

(Sorry if this is in the wrong forum)

here your tip, get your ass in there and do it :D

screw every one else you arent there for them....i am 532 pounds and i bust that treadmill up almost every day and guess what....i have people coming up to me telling i motivate them because of what i am doing, some of them are even the PT's that work there....so just do it for yourself, no one can hate on that :D
 
If you take it seriously work hard and sweat, you will motivate people. If you go to the gym and just stand around and don't do much you WILL be judged.
 
Just go man! I first worried about it a bit. But you gotta let those thoughts go. You are going to the gym for yourself, to become heathier. Stay positive!
 
I agree that you are there for you and noone else. You can't let those feeling stop you. I had the same problem when I first started going to the gym and I would remind myself the whole time I was there that I am a strong and confident person. Repeating this over and over really made me believe it and got me through my fear of the gym. Now I love to go and have met several people there who I motivate and they motivate me.
Just believe in yourself and amazing things will happen!
 
I agree with the previous posters:

1- most people are so into their workouts that they don't notice other people working out.

2- The only people I laugh at there are the strippers that make their turn there around lunch time, hair done up, full make up a nails, lift a few weights, bend over and walk back out.
 
Everyone...

has to start somewhere. At some point, everyone at the gym was new and felt uneasy. It's a new culture with lots of new people...that can seem intimidating for most people going there the first time. As the other posters said, don't let it discourage you. You are there for you and that is all that matters!
 
The truth of the matter is that by far, the hardest part about going to the gym is walking through the front door. Once you get the hang of your routine, you won't even have the time to notice what others are doing.

You can do this!
 
I sometimes feel like i am the big guy playing basketball, but then i challenge people taller and in better shape than me and beat them in one on one, that Embarrasses them.
 
Start off slow and work your way up, what I mean by that is start with light weights doing high reps. Make sure you don't compare yourself to other people, that can really discourage you right off the bat. Also make a planout sheat of what you're going to workout every day, that will help a lot.
 
They're all staring at you!!! Just kidding. I wish I only had 60 pounds to lose. Go to a smaller gym or one that isnt as busy or has a lot of fatter or older people. That helped me...
 
Actually, FatBoy has a point - if you're really worried about people staring/making comments, try to find a gym that offers senior discounts/health sessions etc. You are more likely to find people who are there for health reasons than to purely 'bulk up'. And if you can, go in the morning. I found that it worked for me for swimming - I went in the mornings to 'adult only' swimming sessions - nobody under 18 allowed. And I found myself happily swimming between either elder peeps who were very nice, or younger ones who were usually the same size as me, there for the same reason.

Might help, just a thought.
 
I would suggest that you either go to a small, intimate gym or you go to a center that has work out facilities for people with disabilities, so that you will feel less out of place.
 
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