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laura07

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so i finally lost some weight!:hurray: i weighed 250and now i weigh 246..i know its only 4 pounds but im excited that im on my way 2 a better life.im disappointed because when weighed myself i went to go tell my mom and instead of her saying good job keep working at it , all she said was " oh 4 pounds isnt nothing i would have been happy if you would have lost 10":( its like if she doesnt care! i got really sad that she said that..she knows that i need her support because im only 17 and it seemed to me that she didnt care. i know that 4 pound isnt much but it took me a long time and i was really excited.
 
Hey lovely!!! Dont get upset - maybe she didnt mean it. Or if she did maybe sit down with her and explain how important it is for you that she supported you.
In any case if you need support - you are at the right website!!!

WELL DONE ON THE LOSS SO FAR!!! :party:
YOU'LL DO GREAT!! :grouphug:
 
Don't feel disappointed, 4 lbs is a great start!

Everyone has to start somewhere.......remember a journey starts with a single step.
 
Keep your head up

Sometimes people say things and don't think about it or realize what they're really saying. Sometimes they are jealous too. Maybe she wants to lose weight or she feels bad about herself and subconsciously kinda put you down b/c she doesn't like herself enough? Either way - 4 lbs is awesome. :) I always tell myself that as long as I lose "something" that I will be proud and keep going. One week I only lost 0.8 lbs.... but it's still a loss. At an average of about 9 lbs a month - it allows my skin to tighten along with the weight loss and in just 6 months that will come out to be 54 lbs! It really adds up... so just keep that thought in mind and keep up the great work! :patriot:
 
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Sometimes people say things and don't think about it or realize what they're really saying. Sometimes they are jealous too. Maybe she wants to lose weight or she feels bad about herself and subconsciously kinda put you down b/c she doesn't like herself enough? Either way - 4 lbs is awesome. :) I always tell myself that as long as I lose "something" that I will be proud and keep going. One week I only lost 0.8 lbs.... but it's still a loss. At an average of about 9 lbs a month - it allows my skin to tighten along with the weight loss and in just 6 months that will come out to be 54 lbs! It really adds up... so just keep that thought in mind and keep up the great work! :patriot:
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Excellent post! :)

Well done on your weight loss OP! 4lb is a start, we all started somewhere, keep up the good work! :hurray:
 
Congrats on the weight loss. :party:

I know it is hurtful and painful when loved ones belittle or don't celebrate with us when we make good changes, but you know what. don't let that get you so down that you go and find those lost four pounds and a few extra friends.

It would be nice to be completely surrounded by support on our weight loss journey, but the sad part is, that most of us won't be. Celebrate your loss. it is a big one, four pounds that's FRICKING GREAT, WOW:hurray:... just think, one more makes 5 and 6 more is 10. Imagine all of the health benefits you are on your way to.

Everyone is not going to celebrate with you. Everyone is not going to be happy for you, but be happy enough for yourself. Hell, every pound I lose, heck ever point of a pound I lose I celebrate, because lets face it, it is easier to put it on, at least in my case, than it is to take it off.

So celebrate, smile, stand taller, walk stronger, you have accomplished so much. And the next time you lose the weight and tell your mother and she says something that you feel is negative, you hug her, give her a kiss, tell her "You know what mom, it may not be 10lbs, but I'm proud of myself, and I love you anyway" and walk off because you done good....:cheers2:
 
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4lbs is awesome - great job. Sometimes people don't know how to support someone going through the process of losing weight - and don't realize that it is not a quick and easy process.

I have received the best support from this forum and I truly believe it is because it is coming from people that are going through or have gone through the same process.

Keep putting forth the effort and soon, the 4 lbs will be 8, 16, 32, etc.
 
Everyone who has lost weight has started with 1, 2 3 or even 4 pounds...we all have to start somewhere, the most important thing is that we START! Dont let someones else attitude be your excuse to quit. DON'T GIVE UP!
I think 4 pounds is a fantastic job!! I know the hard work you have to put in to loose 4! Just keep pushing!
 
LunaChick is right, everyone who's lost weight has at some point in their diet been only on their 4th lb lost. Just make sure you think of the positive, losing your next 4lb wont be any harder than your first 4, in fact it will get easier.

What you're doing will become routine, stomach will shrink and so smaller portions will fill you up more, and previously tasty foods such as high in fat and high in sugar will taste more intense than before so you'll need less of them.

While support is good you do not need your parents approval in order to make a positive change for yourself, you just need to be educated about what you're doing so you do it right and have plenty of will power to get you through it. It might also help to just let your mum know that weight loss is important to you and that her support will help, that dismissing your progress made you feel bad, always be honest with those you love.
 
4lbs is amazing! I have been working out like crazy and eating right and I can't drop 4lbs in one go. Good for you girl, that's such an amazing start. Mother's love ya but they don't always know how to express their pride. Chin up and keep at it :)
 
Great job!
Of course she's going to say that. The Biggest Loser has made everyone numb to any loss smaller than 10lbs. It's really sad. If I don't lose for a week, but I maintain the same weight, I'm just as pleased.

"Plaudite, amici, comedia finita est."
 
Dont tell yourself -4lbs is not a big loss, of course it is, it's HUGE!
There's weeks where I only lose 1 or 2 and I still am happy because I say as long as the number is going in the right direction then I am happy with it.
Aren't you happier to see -4 than +4...big difference when you look at it that way.
Good job and keep going, don't let a number determine how good/bad you are doing and dont forget that weightloss is overtime not overnight...it will take some time but it will worth it :)

Best of luck <3
 
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