Getting the skinny look without exercise??

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envious6969

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Hi guys and girls,

Just trying to do a bit of research for my partner as shes stressing out about her weight. And i love her to death and want her to be happy with herself.

Shes currently 57kg and about 176cm tall.

I understand to you it might sound fine but she wants to be skinny and drop the weight from her legs and hips without putting on muscle.

Shes tried calorie counting and eating less then shes burning yet she still seems to be putting on weight.

When she was at 48kg she was thin and didnt have any 'overhang' as she calls it on her clothes and she had a huge 'thigh gap in the middle of her legs when standing with feet together which is the look she is after.

She doesnt wanna be toned or muscley she wants to look thin...

can anyone give us some advice as to how she can acheive the look she wants without doing it an unhealthy way.

thanx
 
At that weight and size, yeah..either you exercise and/or make small cuts in calories over a long period of time.


No magic tricks here.
 
when she is burning more cals then shes eating she gets very tired and finds it hard to function. Also she is really hungry during this all the time.

Any tips she could use to stop this?
 
It sounds to me like your partner is anorexic - the body dimensions and weight that she wants to be are extremely unhealthy. Not only that, she doesn't want to be fit, she wants to be unhealthily skinny.

At 176cm and 57kg her BMI is currently 18.4, which is already underweight.
If she drops down to 48kg, her BMI will be 15, which is on the verge of hospitalization.

Your partner doesn't need to lose weight - she needs psychological help to understand that her body image is skewed and that she is going to harm herself if she continues to seek this "skinny" look that she wants.

when she is burning more cals then shes eating she gets very tired and finds it hard to function.
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No joke. She's starving herself to death. Of course she's finding it hard to function. No one here is going to give advice to someone on how to kill themselves by dieting. Sorry. Not gonna happen.
 
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I had wanted to avoid stating that..but I guess it needed to be said.

I believe we are the wrong people to help here. This sounds more like something that your doctor or even a therapist needs to discuss.
 
She should see a professional, yes. Even if she gets the body she wants, I think she will find something else wrong with her if she is that critical about her looks.

I want to ask, has she always been slim? If not, then how old was she when she became slim?
 
That's barely a healthy weight for her height to begin with. I am also that height and was that weight when I was 18 or so. I could barely move, was cold all of the time, had no strength--I smoked cigarettes, to boot, so I was dizzy and breathless if I made any physical effort whatsoever. I looked and felt much better when I was around 65 kilos, actually.

Coffee and cigarettes, if that's her goal...yuck, sorry, that's not a genuine recommendation. See the helpful folks above for healthy advice.
 
I am that height and at 48kg I was in treatment for anorexia. I dropped more weight ant was in hospital for anorexia. Not a good idea.

How old is your partner? as you get closer to 25 your body will put on more lean weight in the way of muscle and bine density increases. This is a fact of life, if you lose weight too much at this age you can often lose bone density giving you a flase sense of weight loss and infact causing you more damage then your aware (this mainly happens if your trying to be underweight, people who are trying to get to a healthy weight don't tend to have this happen.)

Have a chat with your G/F, see what she really wants- ask her to show you pictures. See if she is trying to get back the body of a teenager who will have different hormones flying around and different lifestyle. If she is after something which is not healthy maybe help her to see this. If your worried still then keep an eye on things, make sure you remind her you love her just the way she is and let her know yu are there for her is she needs anyone to talk to. If someone is hell bent on destroying their body to go after anorexia, its often not so easy to stop them and all you can do is wait to be at the end of the car crash that is an eating disorder to help her spend the rest of her life picking up the peices.

Good luck!
 
Hey Thanks for the advice.

Heres a little bit more info, She was naturally around 50 kg when she was in her late teens eating alot of junk food ( like a ridicilious amount).
She has just turned 21 now, and when she turned 19 she got glandular fever and ballooned in 3 months to 85 kg.
She lost the weight fairly quickly but struggled to get below 55 kg no matter what she did.

She was treated for an eating disorder during that perios due to the speed at which she lost the weight, but she is very very adamint that she wants to do it the healthy way with good food and diet.
But the werid thing is whenever she eats Super healthy she still gains weight.
It doesnt make sense .

Even tho her BMI is quite low, she still doent look unhealthy at all and looks in the normal weight range. She reckons that she is 'Skinny fat'....

She really doesnt want to do the coffee and cigarettes way, and she has even seen a few nurtitionists all of which say her weight is fine and refuse to write her a fat burning diet.
All she wants to do it loose the fat ... thats all, Because i said despite being small she has a high fat percentage.

People just look at her BMI and refuse to help....
 
But the werid thing is whenever she eats Super healthy she still gains weight.
It doesnt make sense .
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It makes perfect sense. She is underweight. When she eats healthily, then she gains weight in order to try to restore her body to a healthy weight. She is not going to get what she wants w/out harming her health. Bottom line.

I'm sure she's "skinny fat" ... and she could probably get close to the look she wants by eating healthy and working out and building some muscle (not bulking, but long lean muscles by working out properly). But as long as she buys into the myth and is determined to not workout and starve herself, she'll never be able to achieve what she wants.

Ultimately she has unrealistic expectations about her body. Of course she looked a certain way in her low teens - a grown woman's body doesn't look like a 16 year old's. She's going to have to accept that her body will never look like a teen-age, no shape, stick thin figure again unless she starves herself and makes herself ill. Grown women's bodies are not meant to look like that.

Of course people look at her BMI and refuse to help - because no one is going to help her kill herself.

At her height and weight she cannot possibly have a high fat percentage. That's just ludicrous.
 
I agree with everyone's comments, it sounds like she has an eating disorder.
I'm 5'1 or 155cm and even then 48 kilo's would be very low and unhealthy.
Used to be bulimic in my teens and having an eating disorder distorts the view you have of your body.
When she looks in the mirror, she probably thinks she looks big but at her current weight it can't be further from the truth!
Like everyone said, she should see a professional.
 
There really isn't much you can get from here if she has a serious eating disorder. She needs counseling from a professional before she causes permanent damage to herself. She can become sterile or even die if she keeps trying to look thinner when she's already underweight.

Beyond that, I suppose you can try to convince her that the twig look isn't really that attractive to most people. Some people have their special preferences, but most people don't like a bony figure.
 
I'm gonna go ahead and go for a full blown internet-psychoanalysis-retard-move here, perhaps sprinkle some asshattery-in-the-shape-of-internet-diagnostics on top.

First of all we should throw around "anorexia" but restrain ourselves to "eating disorder" or "distorted self-image" since anorexia carries with it some very specific implications. Just.. a peevee of mine, sort of like how some people (me) might get annoyed when people throw around the word depression whenever someone is whining a little.

Kara already did the math, and while BMI is not perfect, an BMI of 18-19 is either unhealthy or barely healthy depending on how incredibly thin her bones might or might not be.

In general there are two distinct ways of achieving the twiggy look, well 3... I guess... malnutrition, untreated metabolic disorder and abnormal genes.

Since abnormal genes and untreated metabolic disorder doesn't take anything on behalf of the person to achieve the twiggy look, that leaves eating disorder, and really... who would want someone they love to have an eating disorder :)

I'd say go talk to the doctor man, look into getting some cognitive therapy as that is, so far, the most efficient way of dealing with distorted self-image stuff and other snafu going on in the brain that doesn't require restraints and medicine :)

Now, it might be that we're all being hysterical, the doctor man will be able to say "them internet fools are being hysterical" and all will be good, in that case.. go right ahead and increase calorie usage and reduce intake but... really... oh wait, the nutritionist said "no, I will not make you a fat burning diet" .. you do realize the implications of this right? an educated nutritionist will not state that unless this educated (as in - knows what is going on inside the body) person deems it to be a bad idea, for her health, to burn more fat.

dude...

you seem to care about her, you really shouldn't be looking for weight loss advice on the internet, you should be helping her having a calm talk to the doc and depending on his word either just.. help her deal with not being pre-teen anymore, or find a good cognitive psychologist / psychiatrist. I refuse to use the word therapist since that title isn't protected ;)

anyways, good luck with it.
 
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