sorry in advance for bein a guy postings in the womens area but there is no wieght loss part in the mens section...anyway, i have a major problem with my eating, food is the most important thing in my life at the moment and i cant stand it...every few minutes im thinking about food, and when im thinkin of unhealthy food i love, its very difficult to stick to my diet, you can easily call me the most pathetic dieter on the planet, and i kno i am...ive been trying to diet and lose weight for the last 6 months, and i havent lost a pound, ive in fact gained a few...so theres no need to call me pathetic because i kno i am, i just want to know what i can do to make food less important to me, so i dont constantly think about the taste of the unhealthy foods i cant eat...its hard to explain, but heres how an average day for me goes...btw ive never held my diet for more than 5 days...i wake up and have some healthy breakfast, then 2 1/2 hours later i eat another healthy meal...at about the 4th or 5th meal i begin to miss the good tasting unheathy foods and i begin thinking of them for the hours between meals, thinking of any excuse to give it up and eat as much as i can...and i do...so after the 4th meal of the day i end up throwing it all away and binging like crazy, most of the time i eat 4-5 meals in a 3 hour span...all unhealthy and full of fat...i dont want to admit to having an eating disorder but its pretty hard to argue when thats honestly how everyday of the last 6 months has gone...can anyone help me?
food is ruining my life
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Well you're on the right track by admitting you have a problem, if you think the problem is you eat too much and you think you cant stop eating every hour then all you have to do is eat healthy every hour lol. I dont know much about this topic but first things first cut out the fatty foods/junk foods. When you are hungry reach for the salad and not the chips, reach for the yogurt and not for the ice cream. Dont let food ruin your life man, food is supposed to be pro-life not anti-life.
You don't have to act on everything you think of doing, right? Unhealthy food is so easy for people to obtain, so when they think about it it's hard to practice self control. We have to learn to control ourselves when it comes to things that could get us into trouble, so just try and practice self control.
If you know how to eat healthy, eat healthy. If you like your fatty foods, too bad, suck it up, it gets easier and easier the longer you stay away from the foods that you shouldn't be eating.
If food is "ruining your life." you shouldn't like it so much. I personally would really not like something that was making me fat and unhealthy, no matter how good it tasted. Just think about how absolutely disgusting the stuff you are putting into your body is. Feed crappy things to yourself and you get a pretty crappy result.
It's good you admit you have a problem. But it's all up to you. You already know what you have to do.
If you know how to eat healthy, eat healthy. If you like your fatty foods, too bad, suck it up, it gets easier and easier the longer you stay away from the foods that you shouldn't be eating.
If food is "ruining your life." you shouldn't like it so much. I personally would really not like something that was making me fat and unhealthy, no matter how good it tasted. Just think about how absolutely disgusting the stuff you are putting into your body is. Feed crappy things to yourself and you get a pretty crappy result.
It's good you admit you have a problem. But it's all up to you. You already know what you have to do.
You have an eating disorder.
It's not as simple as "suck it up and eat healthy" is it? It's hard for everyone to make healthy choices, especially since junk food is all around us all the time. However, for most people, it is simply an issue of finding the dedication and will power to do it. That doesn't appear to be the case with you.
I highly recommend that you try to find a support group in your area, and/or see a therapist who deals with eating disorders. It's not all about being pathetic or weak.
Our eating habits are often very connected to our emotions in one way or another. Emotions are very, very powerful. Don't think of yourself as pathetic, your'e not.
We don't call alcoholics pathetic do we? We now acknowledge that there are powerful psychological forces at play when it comes to addiction. Most people can have a few beers, and even get drunk, then move on. Alcoholics don't work that way. Well, it's the same thing, so don't be so hard on yourself.
It's not as simple as "suck it up and eat healthy" is it? It's hard for everyone to make healthy choices, especially since junk food is all around us all the time. However, for most people, it is simply an issue of finding the dedication and will power to do it. That doesn't appear to be the case with you.
I highly recommend that you try to find a support group in your area, and/or see a therapist who deals with eating disorders. It's not all about being pathetic or weak.
Our eating habits are often very connected to our emotions in one way or another. Emotions are very, very powerful. Don't think of yourself as pathetic, your'e not.
We don't call alcoholics pathetic do we? We now acknowledge that there are powerful psychological forces at play when it comes to addiction. Most people can have a few beers, and even get drunk, then move on. Alcoholics don't work that way. Well, it's the same thing, so don't be so hard on yourself.
I am in the same boat as you, the past 10months of my life has been hell. hours upon hours of my life were spent obsessing over food, the taste, the texture, the smell etc. Only now am i getting over it. I brought this book over the internet... cant remember what its called, something like anatomy of compulise eating, actully yes, that was what it was called. Anyway, it has totally changed everything for me. Who thought that a problem so severe could be changed by a book??
i wish you luck, i am still struggling through but i must admit it is getting easier all the time. If i can do it, so can you!
DB
i wish you luck, i am still struggling through but i must admit it is getting easier all the time. If i can do it, so can you!
DB
I think Elisianna and Deschain are both right. You need to try self control, you go through a few meals of it, then get off track. If you feel like bigning, eat healthy and drink water throughtout the day, which will aid in helping you feel full.
If unhealthy food is all around you, and you hate it... why not get rid of it?? When you are in your healthy stage, go to the barrel and dump it ALL out, and feel proud of yourself for doing so, and never buy those foods again.
I don't know what your stats are (height/weight) so I can't tell you straight up you need help. Also if you've been doing this for a few of months, I don't know if you have a serious eating disorder, but you might be getting one. I think you need to practice self control at first, and if that doesn't work, then like deschain said you should seek help for it.
-Replace sodas and unhealthy drinks with bottles of water.
-Instead of junk food, get healthier food, even the smallest things help.
-Clear your house of unhealthy food that you know is doing damage to your health and weight.
Good luck, I sincerely hope you find your way.
If unhealthy food is all around you, and you hate it... why not get rid of it?? When you are in your healthy stage, go to the barrel and dump it ALL out, and feel proud of yourself for doing so, and never buy those foods again.
I don't know what your stats are (height/weight) so I can't tell you straight up you need help. Also if you've been doing this for a few of months, I don't know if you have a serious eating disorder, but you might be getting one. I think you need to practice self control at first, and if that doesn't work, then like deschain said you should seek help for it.
-Replace sodas and unhealthy drinks with bottles of water.
-Instead of junk food, get healthier food, even the smallest things help.
-Clear your house of unhealthy food that you know is doing damage to your health and weight.
Good luck, I sincerely hope you find your way.
merciless, i know what you are saying and i totally agree. i used to think exactly the same thing... until it happend to me. I now realise it is not a 'choise' as such, or even self control. it is a deeper problem, usually taken as a way to escape.
I am not challanging you at all, i really do agree. but it is different when you have been there.
I am not challanging you at all, i really do agree. but it is different when you have been there.
I understand that for some people, but I don't think for everyone that's what it is.
I had the same problem when I was younger, and I just started waking up and choosing not to eat this or that... and went out and bought packs of water when needed. I had to try to control myself with temptation in my house, because I have 2 older brothers that can eat anything and still stay fit. So for me it was twice as hard, and of course I went off track alot, but I kept up with it, not getting mad at myself for getting side swiped, because I knew that if I did then it would be that much harder to give myself the self-confidence needed in getting back to it.
I got past it and I think alot of other people can, they just don't know they can and don't want to be fully commited.
If he has only been like this for 6 months, then he can def go back to who he was for so many years. I think maybe he should go back and see what happened in his life 6 months ago, if all of a sudden he just started binging, and try to get past that.
I just wanted to let you know that I've been there, and I'm still going through it...but I understand and respect your point of view.
I had the same problem when I was younger, and I just started waking up and choosing not to eat this or that... and went out and bought packs of water when needed. I had to try to control myself with temptation in my house, because I have 2 older brothers that can eat anything and still stay fit. So for me it was twice as hard, and of course I went off track alot, but I kept up with it, not getting mad at myself for getting side swiped, because I knew that if I did then it would be that much harder to give myself the self-confidence needed in getting back to it.
I got past it and I think alot of other people can, they just don't know they can and don't want to be fully commited.
If he has only been like this for 6 months, then he can def go back to who he was for so many years. I think maybe he should go back and see what happened in his life 6 months ago, if all of a sudden he just started binging, and try to get past that.
I just wanted to let you know that I've been there, and I'm still going through it...but I understand and respect your point of view.
Hey,
I lost a lot of weight and now Im just trying to keep healthy and gradually change body fat.
Anyway, I know how u feel, im currently home for teh summer. At college, i control 100% of what I eat with the exception of one night out a week where I eat at a restraunt. That may be a key for you. Have one night where you have something that would otherwise be forbidden. All work and no play can screw you up. Over a year of college, I would eat healthy during the day when I have no time to think about food and then friday night when everyone is partying, I had some fun, I lost 80lbs.
Now that Im home for the summer and all my friends are far away and I have to just go to work everyday, you have a lot of time to think about food. Heck one of my biggest concerns is what Im eating next (I like eating a lot more now that i know about nutrition) But that can be half the battle. Since ure thinking so much about food, plan what your going to eat. One thing I love (i think its genetic my whole family loves the stuff) is ice cream. Even if im trying to lose weight, after dinner ill take a scooop out, put it in a bowl and enjoy it. If i dont u end up sitting in front of the carton scarfing it down.
So my solution to you is, dont cut out necessarily everything, but have one, 200 or so calorie snack that you can look forward to all day. You can think that after dinner you get that bowl of ice cream, then you wont explode, cause you know your getting it again.
Diet is restriction and im a firm believer in saying "eat whatever you want to lose weight in small amounts" is bullcrap. Try looking at food not for how it tastes, but for what it does to you. Movies like supersize me or fast food nation remind me why I do what I do. Try going one day eating 100% healthy and excersizing. When you wake up the next day proud of ureself sitting over a bowl of oatmeal (with raisins and cinnamon i love breakfast) know how great it would feel every day to feel like this.
I lost a lot of weight and now Im just trying to keep healthy and gradually change body fat.
Anyway, I know how u feel, im currently home for teh summer. At college, i control 100% of what I eat with the exception of one night out a week where I eat at a restraunt. That may be a key for you. Have one night where you have something that would otherwise be forbidden. All work and no play can screw you up. Over a year of college, I would eat healthy during the day when I have no time to think about food and then friday night when everyone is partying, I had some fun, I lost 80lbs.
Now that Im home for the summer and all my friends are far away and I have to just go to work everyday, you have a lot of time to think about food. Heck one of my biggest concerns is what Im eating next (I like eating a lot more now that i know about nutrition) But that can be half the battle. Since ure thinking so much about food, plan what your going to eat. One thing I love (i think its genetic my whole family loves the stuff) is ice cream. Even if im trying to lose weight, after dinner ill take a scooop out, put it in a bowl and enjoy it. If i dont u end up sitting in front of the carton scarfing it down.
So my solution to you is, dont cut out necessarily everything, but have one, 200 or so calorie snack that you can look forward to all day. You can think that after dinner you get that bowl of ice cream, then you wont explode, cause you know your getting it again.
Diet is restriction and im a firm believer in saying "eat whatever you want to lose weight in small amounts" is bullcrap. Try looking at food not for how it tastes, but for what it does to you. Movies like supersize me or fast food nation remind me why I do what I do. Try going one day eating 100% healthy and excersizing. When you wake up the next day proud of ureself sitting over a bowl of oatmeal (with raisins and cinnamon i love breakfast) know how great it would feel every day to feel like this.
im 5' 9'', and 180 pounds, 15 years old...ive always been overweight all my life and i sort of grew into my weight over the years but im still overweight and look the part...its not that im in serious need of help as of now, but eating a lot of food all day everyday has developed into a habit and i need to find a way to break it now before i end up gaining 30 or 40 pounds in a year...also, since im only 15 i dont have much control of what my parents buy, i can request healthier foods and i do, but like i said before i have healthy foods but often i dont want to eat them when i compare them to the good tasting food my parents bring home...