Feel like giving up

Sara06

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I want to through in the towel, sad part, it's only Day 2. Yesterday I was hungry until I ate regular ricotta. I think i need fat to fill me up and everything was low cal and fat free. I need to eat 1700 cals and I didn't even get 1200. DH is so not supportive. He doesn't want me to do this. He even brought home about loafs of white italian bread. To make matters worse, I GAINED 1.6lbs. Is it because I upped my water intake? I had an ED all my teen years and since I've either been pregnant or trying to lose. I'm so sick of trying to lose weight. And for what? DH doesn't care how I look (mind you, he's quite good looking himself and has never had even 1 extra pound on him). I'm not so over weight that I can't play with my kids. I just look awful. But aside from wal-mart, I never even go anywhere, so who cares? I feel like cawling under the covers with a big bowls of honey nut cheerios.
 
You know who cares? You do! or you wouldn't be here. Joining this club was an un-concious way of saying that you do care.

The first couple of days are always hard huh, please give it more time, you owe it to yourself!
 
You have to ask yourself if you will be happy with yourself if you gave up, and the answer is probably no. Not liking what you see in the mirrow is a good enough reason to go on weight loss journey. It is a long and hard and frustrating journey, but when you are at your goal, you will look at yourself with pride and satisfaction. Since you started drinking more water, you are probably gaining water weight, because it is natural for body to hold on to water initially. Once your body adjusts and realises that you keep drinking, you will loose all the water weight. Meanwhile, just hang on!
 
I'm not sure I will be happy with goal. I;m pretty sure already I wantto move it to 120lbs..then it's 115. I know how it goes. I was 112lbs before kids and my goal was 106 and I already knew when I got there my goal would be 99lbs. it doesn't matter if I actually am fat or not, I just feel fat anyway:(

Man, I woke in an awful mood. Could the lack of calories, fat and carbs have don this?
 
I know what you mean, I am also probably one of those people who will never be really happy with my their own body, BUT... There has to be a point at which this attitude has to stop, otherwise it will become unhealthy. You may need to learn to assess yourself differently, and leaning to feel good about yourself regardless of your looks, and that requires a very hard internal work.

I don't think eating less of anything will produce grumpy moods, but I do know that carbs/sugars and fats tend to elevate mood, that's why we usually crave food so much when we feel down.

Take care of yourself, Sara!
 
Sara,
I've always been told that if you change the way you think, you change the way you feel. You are here for a reason. You made a decision to lose weight. Don't worry about when you DO reach your goal (as you will- for YOURSELF) and what will happen next , by lowering it and such. One day at a time, focus on eating healthy, exercising and being healthy - mind and body- and most importantly FOR YOU. The end goal isn't what matters, it is how you feel and your health. Do this. For you. You will be proud of your accomplishments. Take care of yourself, eat your calories, drink your water, try to be patient (i stink at that part) and focus on the overall picture. And, truthfully, you want to set a good example for your kids, i'm sure. So, be strong, do what you know is right for you (or else you wouldnt be here). Also, we all know, if we quit trying at all, we just gain so we don't want to get to that point that there is SO much more to then try and lose. Take a deep breath. Do something you enjoy - go for a walk - take your kids to wherever (non-food oriented), smile and be happy for your health and that you are taking steps to be healthier. That is what this is all about. Hang in there.
S
 
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