don't you just get tired of it all?

turtle9748

turtle9748

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do you ever just wake up and not want to get out of bed? so tired of the dieting, so tired of the working out, the constant struggle with weight and self confidence. seriously, i woke up this morning and just started to cry because i am just so sick of it all. i'm tired of being fat, but i'm tired of the constant battle. i'm almost to the point where i don't care anymore. it's such a hit to my self confidence and i loose all motivation to do anything.

i'm sorry, it's just one of those days
 
Cheer up Turtle! I completely know where you are coming from. One of the things that works against me is water weight. My family has a history of severe water retention and we can gain up to 10lbs in water weight in one day if we don't watch are sodium intake. I get tired of seeing the scales go up and down. BUT... we can't give up! We have to just keep telling ourselves that we can do this and that we will succeed!! Just remember that you didn't get overweight overnight so it won't come off overnight. Keep up the good work and don't give up!! If you feel down and out, please come and post on here and everyone will do everything they can to cheer you up. I am so glad that I found this board because everyone here is so WONDERFUL!! I can say that I have found lots of FRIENDS in here and feel blessed to have so much support from everyone. Support is not something I get from home. I have a husband that is overweight and doesn't care so he thinks "why should she care?". Then my two children are too young to understand so reading all these posts helps a lot in giving me the incentive to keep going!
 
I know exactly how you feel, I felt like that yesterday. Just stay positive and don't let anything stand in your way.
 
i STILL have days like that! well i dont cry, but i hide in my bed lol. sick of counting this sick of counting that...sick of jumping on the scale everyday and not liking what i see. i think we all go through it at times. if at first you dont succeed, try try again!
 
gah. i know i need to just keep on truckin'. but sometimes it just gets so hard. it's like, every day, i walk around with this smile, cracking jokes, being the fun party girl, just to hide how low my self esteem actually is. the few friends i do talk to about this feel uncomfortable and tell me i'm gorgeous, i shouldn't worry. i hate talking to my parents about it because they're constantly pressuring me to loose weight, go to the gym, "are you staying on your diet". they've made me terrified of going to find a job because of the numerous times they've told me i won't get one because people won't hire people who are overweight.

it just gets me down a lot, and i hate feeling like this.

thanks for your supportive words, everyone. i'm glad i've found this community where i'm able to talk about this sort of stuff.
 
You don't even know how much I can relate .... I feel ya 1090% !!! I have days like that ... actually today =( I'm just down in the dumps today ... soon to be that TOM but still ... just crabby and sick of it all and just WHY OH WHY does it have to be so hard?! How did I let myself get to this point in the first place? And I am right along side you with the funny, party girl, happy all the time ... yup, EVERYONE thinks that I am so funny and always so happy and fun to be around but then ... it's not so! Everyday, all day long I am thinking about my weight - just always! And none, or very few, of my friends have trhis problem and if they do do not talk about it ... so none of them understand at all. My boyfriend dosn't get it really ... He is so thin and can eat anything without gaining an oz. He tries to support me but ... only when I bring it up and its hard ot talk to someone about it who basically cant understand how hard it really is ...
And family ... sister ... don't even get me started . My mom is supportive but neer really talks about it - just says good job or keep it up! if I tell her I lost 5 lbs or whatever and my dad is the same way but ALLLLL my life my dad has been on me about my weight - "get off your fat ass and do something" "go run to the mailbox to get the paper - you could use the exercise" "pull down on this rope (helping him build a garage) - bear down with your 200 lbs" --> in front of my mom and brother!!! He was like this all growing up ... hasn't said any of that stuff for a couple years ... he's changed a TON since then ... BUT i still cry when i think about that kind of stuff. Weight issues have been around in my family my whol elife .. just always and always. I've overheard my dad and mom whispering about who was going to talk to me about my weight and stuff ... its horrible. My boyfriend went over to talk to my dad while I was up here in school and he said my dad was lik "so how's trish going with her weight?" and jayson was just shocked!! he said "she looks great ... i don't think she has to do anything. she's perfect the way she is ..." and hten my dad of course caught himself and tried covering it up with " ooh well i just dont want her to get too heavy ... health conditions ba blabla"
So I do see where you are comming from ... I do. And today of all days I can so totally sympathize with you. Just not a good day todya ... but we can do this. We just have to keep chugging along ... just keep going. Don't give up babe!!!
 
THIS IS WHAT IS WRONG WITH THE WORLD PEOPLE!!!!!!!!!
People think that if they were skinny that only then would everything be perfect, that everyone would love them. If you think like that you have ALOT more wrong than losing some pounds.
And for parents to say things like that to their children??....No wonder the kid turns to food. My family NEVER called me names or said things like that to me. The only time they did anything was when I was 16 and weighing 186 lbs took me to a diet clinic.
They didnt have all the info that is out there today. That weight problems is a result of emotional problems.They thought they were helping me....when actualy it started the downward spiral of yo yo dieting. They were not aware that my grandfather had molested me and that I lost my virginity at 12 by an 18 year old boy. Dont get me wrong ,they were the best parents and they did the best they knew how then. There is a difference between self estem and body estem. Here I am 301 lbs of fat girl and I think I am beautiful, smart , compassionate, a good friend. I am not perfect. I am losing weight because I owe it to my health. I know ALOT of skinny girls that have worse health problem than me...physically and mentaly..... I am a WOMAN now, I am not intimitated by how others perceive me because of my size. If someone dosnt want to be my friend because I am fat.....thats THEIR problem..NOT mine...and they end up losing a good friend!!!......I get sad, I get mad...I sometimes want to give up.......But I am stronger than that...and I LOVE MYSELF!!!!.....no matter what weight I am!!!!
 
KC - you just kicked my a*s into gear! Thank you! I NEEDED that! ... You are right. Being overweight does not make us who we are... and I had a hard time fully and truly believing that, but I do ... I relaly do now ...because i grew up with the constant remarks about other peoples weight, my own, what beautiful really was ... stuff like that. Beauty and looks were a huge thing in my family growing up ... we've had family issues in these past 2 years that have DRASTICALLY changed my family ... in better ways that I could have imagined ... so this is a good thing ... but it was still growing up and engraned in my brain that thin is beautiful ... when finally my family (dad really ) has finally seen the light that thin is NOT beautful, there are billions of overweight peope who are the most amazing wonderful people out there ... I am seeingt his have come to fully understand this ... we are not what we weigh. There is more to us than that ... just had to be put back into perspective again .... thanks KC
 
First of all I am NOT and advocate for fat acceptance.....but of people acceptance.
It's hard to get out of our minds what have been engraved into it for the last 2 decades. Watch any show, music video, magazine.....even a damn barbie doll can make you feel like your unattractive....
One of my turning points was when I heard models and actresses talk about how magazines digitaly enhance or dehance their photos.....in other words....they dont really look like that!!!..Did any one see the article in Glamour showing that?....
This is the thing...I am big....fat ..obese......BUT I dont walk around with grey , holey. tights showing every rimple and dimple and a muscle shirt with cheeto stains......Its
about having respect for your self......There are things I still need to conquer for myself......such as going swimming on the beach in nothing but a bathing suit....see I have my flaws....but do I think I dont DESERVE to go to the beach becaus eI am fat?......Oh Hell no....I like to tan just as the next beach bunny....I like to make myself feel good.....and thats the key...feeling good starts with yourself....not your husband or boyfriens...not your parents or siblings...not your friends.........I would much rather be a size 22 with confidence than a size 6 with none...
 
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uh HELLO! i was "skinny" before and i KNOW it doesnt = happy. yet that doesnt stop me from constantly trying to get there anyway! :confused:
 
Hey KCCruz, you sound like you have it right on the money. Now if we can all get our heads that way. It is so hard though like you said with tv, videos, society saying otherwise. You sound very strong today. Thanks for that, it is good to have someone strong when you are not. Hopefully we can be strong on the days that you may not feel it. Thanks all for being part of this forum. I know it is helping me already and I just joined last week. Got my butt in gear and made "dates" with myself to go to the gym alone. No kids, no errands, no hubby no other commitments for an hour and a half a day.
 
I think we were all "skinny" before we got where we are now...lol....I know I look back at pics and think...." I use to think I was so fat...if only I looked like that now..."

WonderWoman...you may see it as a personal challange kind of thing....where someone else may see climbing Mt. Everest as pushing themselves to the limit...you may do that with your weight....some people who lose weight can sometimes go to far with that also....to where it becomes a problem.....( bulima, exercise bulima, and anorexia)...where some people think over eating and getting fat is a result of being out of control.....the other things I mentioned gives the person a sense of control. You may not be abel to control what is happing around you, your husband, kids, boss....but you CAN control your own body...
 
I am with ya Turtle. I have those days, sometimes weeks. I had lost a ton of weight a few years after my first child and now, 3 years later right back to that weight again. It is hard but we will get there. keep chugging. :)
 
I definitely get tired of it. Some days I'm just negative about everything all together. You know what pi*ses me off, when you see that commercial for a certain un-named chocolate bar and all the girls are gorgeous and wearing bikinis on the beach and eating them while the caramel stretches down their chin. They should show big girls eating them, show some realism for crying out loud. Because if you ate chocolate like they want you to you wouldn't be a skinny swimsuit model. Then there are some days when I feel so great about myself and nothing can get me down. Fortunately those days are now starting to out number the bad days. It's hard to get through the bad days but I just try to remember the goal in site.
Shelley
 
exactly. it's so hard with this, 1, 2, 3 pounds a week when you've got so much to loose. i guess i'm just one of those people who needs instant gratification and you DON'T get that during weight loss. i know it's a gradual process, and we've got to keep working for it, but it just gets so exhausting. i know being thin again won't automatically solve all the self esteem issues i have. even when iw as about 10 pounds from my goal weight i still felt self concious and still felt like i was the "fat girl" even though i was wearing a size 6. it just gets so hard, and even when you DO loose the weight, it's still a battle to stay there. it's never ending. and i hate that.
 
I was having "one of those days" also until I read this thread. It's all a struggle and knowing everyone else is struggling is a help to do it one more day. I find motivation in "little rewards" like I'll buy that skirt when I can fit in a 12. I Do Not own a scale. That is one obsession I do not need. Women's weight fluctuates too much for that stress.:)
 
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